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midsguy75

Has anyone found tha A2 milk yet? None in our asda, sainsburys or tesco...

SpiralingDown

Morning.

David. wrote: »

Spiralling you need to get rid as soon as I know you are looking for the perfect home but .........
There are specific boxer rescue centres around the country as one of my mates rehomed one from a centre. Maybe look at one of those but seriously you need to look after yourself

David I've tried the only one I know of over here, someone gave me their number, but because he's not pure bred the girl wasn't interested
I know he needs to go but most rescues have at least a 3 month waiting list so I know he's going to be with me for a while. I really don't want to put him in the pound he deserves better, I want him to be comfortable not locked in a cage all day with no access to sunlight.
Maybe I'm just too soft but would never dream of using the pound.

couponqueen123

AngelsMadv wrote: »

Morning, David. Thanks for the words. I do, of course, know that hitting achieves absolutely nothing. The last thing I want him to think is that's what we would do.

To actually get him into the club this morning the deputy head came out (at my request) told me to leave and then had a word with him. He seems fine with the school teachers. He has given a bit of lip at times, but mostly they have him under control.

One major problem is that often if you give him attention 24-7 and do what he wants, all is fine, but I simply can not do that for him in our household. There are 6 of us and it's simply not fair. I can not abide the way he thinks it's OK to speak to the OH and I. I really wish he would learn a little humility and respect.

im probaly goign to get shot down in flames here but bear with me THIS IS JUST WHAT I DO/WOULD DO AND JUST MY OPINION

while leathering him is wrong a smack isnt well if my children behave like that (im not standing pointing finger as my dd dose this to me );) then i ask and plead and try my hardest to sort it but when enough is enough i give her a smack and yes in public if i need to i dnt batter her just a single smack and tbh

it works she stops misbehaving and dose whats asked

im had a few arguments with ppl in street but when my dd is taking her seatbelt off while im driving or bites her sister or pulls hair etc etc and iv requested plz dnt do it then ended up screaming the car down/street /house and shes still not listening

madmuppet5

m4rtin wrote: »

Had nothing back (Real or wombles) for two days now :mad: Or is it personal :(

I've had £1.50 pending for a few days. :mad: I want me dosh now :cool:

Morgy9

AngelsMadv - I am sorry I have no words of advice as not there yet with mine (but know I will get it from DS 10 - he always likes to push it to the edge until firm line - but sensing this not going to work for much longer). Sending you hugs and strength to get through this . :A :A

One thought for you - I remember reading somewhere that there is always some discord and seperating emotionally in the family in the teen years and that this is natural (but not nice). I liked their take on it - if we carried on as intensely in earlier years we would never let them free to go into the world and they would never want to go! We don't have the lioness equivalent of booting them out to get on in the world - so we have this teenage discord so they want to go and we are 'glad' to let them go. Bonds get stronger after they have left and they realise just what you did for them! Anyhow thats the gist of it -HTH.

Agree - good sign if behaving in school - flexing his muscles at home. But hard being stepdad andd wanting to support partner - yes lack of respect hard. Maybe school will have some connections that may help either counselling or just support or suggestions for you. I am sure when peeps get home there will be some who got through it and can help more.:o Hang in there - vent on here all you like.

never_too_old

Morning
I read that quidco do weekly payment runs
Does anyone know roughly when it is?
Tia

David.

SpiralingDown wrote: »

Morning.



David I've tried the only one I know of over here, someone gave me their number, but because he's not pure bred the girl wasn't interested
I know he needs to go but most rescues have at least a 3 month waiting list so I know he's going to be with me for a while. I really don't want to put him in the pound he deserves better, I want him to be comfortable not locked in a cage all day with no access to sunlight.
Maybe I'm just too soft but would never dream of using the pound.

3 month waiting list :eek: well I hope he is on it already if not come on girl get your finger out

justmaz

AngelsMadv wrote: »

Good morning all, :wave:

Happy birthday, Jumblejack; Have a great day. :bdaycake:


I still am :A :rotfl:

But on this very subject. OH and I are beyond fair in our house. We have (at home) 16, 10, 7, 5. The 10 year old boy has pretty much pushed OH and I to the edge. This morning he refused to go to breakfast club and his mum, who is so calm it is unnerving, lost it and threw him in the car. He then wouldn't get out for me and started kicking and punching me. It took all my might not to leather him until next Christmas.

I literally would have been grounded for life had I done anything as remotely bad as he did. :eek: His 16 year old sister walked away because she was so upset with him for treating me and OH the way he did. She actually asked permission to "sort it" - I of course told her no!

I guess I'm asking like Tiger. What do you do when they get to the point where they, if they wanted, could simply walk away from you. I feel sick to the stomach, the OH is in pieces, and I can now, for the first time in my life, understand why some families put their own children into care. I feel that would be giving up, but short of giving him the hiding of his life, I have nothing left.

The one breaking point we have that makes us a special case, I guess, is that I'm step dad. His real dad would welcome him back no problem and let him do whatever he liked. His bed time would be "whenever" and school would be optional! I'd feel like sending him there would be sentencing him to a life with nothing more to look forward to than his older (27) half brother - a life of crime and drugs. :(:(

I hope you don't mind me butting in with this. I am one of the 'older' members of the forum and have some experience in the problem you have.
We had 3 boys to bring up and two of them were a proper handful. Like yourself we had a stepdad situation. I feel so sorry for you it is awful when you don't know what to do. I promise one day you will look back on this and think to yourselves "how the hell did we get through it" but you will . Usually when they threw a wobbly we found that the best bet was to just back off and let them get on with it. Later in the day/evening sit down and have a chat with him, he is obviously, in his own little head, got issues he can't cope with, Could be his dad, could be school, could be anything but you need to get to the bottom of it. Try asking him, tell him how unhappy it makes you feel to see him so distressed and ask if there is anything you can do to make his life better. We found that being 'nice' properly throws them off balance. Tell him that the last thing you want is to lose him because he is an important part of your family and without him there it wouldn't be the same.
I now have three very attentive sons and seven wonderful grandchildren and have had many apologies for their behaviour as children. You do reap the benefits when they get older......and time flies trust me xx

clucky1977

djrich1975 wrote: »

Has anyone found tha A2 milk yet? None in our asda, sainsburys or tesco...

Hi
Got one in morrisons this morning, its on offer for £1.35 but the coupon scans t £1.99 hth x

Sarahdol75

AngelsMadv wrote: »

Thanks very much for your advice, Sarah. I'll ask the school if they offer a similar service. I know it's not nice, but it is comforting to know we're not the only parents going through it!


Thanks, David,

The OH and I have been going to Relate (now doing much better and seem fairly solid). We asked there about it and they suggested counselling. I guess that is the next phase.

I sometimes think its only my child that is playing up, but when you speak to friends, other people at school, you soon realise it is not just you that is going through the mill with their children, its just a lot of people dont like to say that their child is a pain in the bum and everyone just presumes all children are little angels.

I think the problem with my DS is that he is just like his dad, and they clash and just cannot seem too get on together, they wind each other up. Could that be the same with your step son?