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m4rtin wrote: »

Had nothing back (Real or wombles) for two days now :mad: Or is it personal :(

Me neither

midsguy75

Smart1e wrote: »

Apologies if already posted

Download the Shop Scan Save App to your smartphone and get a FREE 360g box of Maltesers at the Co-Op until 8th March

I downloaded the app from the Google play store free :j:j:j

A bit like shopitize except the discount comes off in store and the big box of Maltesers is FREE!

This is in Martin's email this week :money:

Yes, its great if somewhere accepts it, ive tried 3 of the stores near me on the location map and none would accept it.

Sarahdol75

AngelsMadv wrote: »

Good morning all, :wave:

Happy birthday, Jumblejack; Have a great day. :bdaycake:


I still am :A :rotfl:

But on this very subject. OH and I are beyond fair in our house. We have (at home) 16, 10, 7, 5. The 10 year old boy has pretty much pushed OH and I to the edge. This morning he refused to go to breakfast club and his mum, who is so calm it is unnerving, lost it and threw him in the car. He then wouldn't get out for me and started kicking and punching me. It took all my might not to leather him until next Christmas.

I literally would have been grounded for life had I done anything as remotely bad as he did. :eek: His 16 year old sister walked away because she was so upset with him for treating me and OH the way he did. She actually asked permission to "sort it" - I of course told her no!

I guess I'm asking like Tiger. What do you do when they get to the point where they, if they wanted, could simply walk away from you. I feel sick to the stomach, the OH is in pieces, and I can now, for the first time in my life, understand why some families put their own children into care. I feel that would be giving up, but short of giving him the hiding of his life, I have nothing left.

The one breaking point we have that makes us a special case, I guess, is that I'm step dad. His real dad would welcome him back no problem and let him do whatever he liked. His bed time would be "whenever" and school would be optional! I'd feel like sending him there would be sentencing him to a life with nothing more to look forward to than his older (27) half brother - a life of crime and drugs. :(:(

I feel for you, it is hard bringing up children, even if not your own. My son is 13 and he has tested our patience to the limit, they certainly know when and how to push the buttons. My OH is at the end of his tether with him at the minute, he can't abide to be in the same room as him at the moment, because of his attitude to people/life, he is just soo rude to everyone and thinks he is better than everyone else.

The way we are dealing with it at the minute is to just try to ignore everything he is doing, as he likes the attention 24/7. We have taken xbox off him, grounded him from going anywhere with friends, and we make sure that he is doing his chores around the house.

We have also got him into the anger management counselling at school, which seems to be helping a little. Mayb there is some sort of counselling that he could have.

Good luck, we all need that with kids as they do try us.

Morgy9

David. wrote: »

Little t did you sleep well last night or was there something red being waved around by a Turk in front of you

:rotfl::rotfl:

David.

AngelsMadv wrote: »

Morning, David. Thanks for the words. I do, of course, know that hitting achieves absolutely nothing. The last thing I want him to think is that's what we would do.

To actually get him into the club this morning the deputy head came out (at my request) told me to leave and then had a word with him. He seems fine with the school teachers. He has given a bit of lip at times, but mostly they have him under control.

One major problem is that often if you give him attention 24-7 and do what he wants, all is fine, but I simply can not do that for him in our household. There are 6 of us and it's simply not fair. I can not abide the way he thinks it's OK to speak to the OH and I. I really wish he would learn a little humility and respect.

I know you do or you would already have done it.

If he is generally ok for the teachers thats got to be a good sign
So his problem is home and/or you two. Dont take that the wrong way but I would rather my kids had a problem with me rather than the world in general .
The first one is workable the second a lot hareder I would imagine.
Have you tried proffessional advice/help.
Thats not a question for you to answer just a thought.

Perranlady

Morgy9 wrote: »

Working on Monday the 4th March Perranlady - don't forget the £1 voucher off too. Perhaps someone else can confirm more recently for you. HTH

Thanks for this, I will go a print a few and give it a go!!

PL x

AngelsMadv

Sarahdol75 wrote: »

[...]
We have also got him into the anger management counselling at school, which seems to be helping a little. Mayb there is some sort of counselling that he could have.

Good luck, we all need that with kids as they do try us.

Thanks very much for your advice, Sarah. I'll ask the school if they offer a similar service. I know it's not nice, but it is comforting to know we're not the only parents going through it!

David. wrote: »

[...]
Have you tried proffessional advice/help.
Thats not a question for you to answer just a thought.

Thanks, David,

The OH and I have been going to Relate (now doing much better and seem fairly solid). We asked there about it and they suggested counselling. I guess that is the next phase.

BEAR

Hi
I really sympathise and know how it feels ( been there done that still wearing the t shirt)

not sure if it sok to recommend a web site but going to anyway

try looking at the got a teenager forum on family lives. Its not as active as it used to be but there is plenty of info on there and you can chat 1-1 with an advisor. reading the posts will show you that you're not the only one and in fact will probably make your son look like an angel. there are some really sad stories there

also reading some of the books may help, tough love, dotn let your kids kill you are two that spring to mind

feel free to ask any questions.

AngelsMadv wrote: »

Morning, David. Thanks for the words. I do, of course, know that hitting achieves absolutely nothing. The last thing I want him to think is that's what we would do.

To actually get him into the club this morning the deputy head came out (at my request) told me to leave and then had a word with him. He seems fine with the school teachers. He has given a bit of lip at times, but mostly they have him under control.

One major problem is that often if you give him attention 24-7 and do what he wants, all is fine, but I simply can not do that for him in our household. There are 6 of us and it's simply not fair. I can not abide the way he thinks it's OK to speak to the OH and I. I really wish he would learn a little humility and respect.

David.

AngelsMadv wrote: »

Thanks very much for your advice, Sarah. I'll ask the school if they offer a similar service. I know it's not nice, but it is comforting to know we're not the only parents going through it!



Thanks, David,

The OH and I have been going to Relate (now doing much better and seem fairly solid). We asked there about it and they suggested counselling. I guess that is the next phase.

Well if I was in your situation I would not think twice about it these people are pros and deal with it day in day out and they are not emotionally attatched so can get a clear view of the problem.

Evangeline1971

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