No gifts - would you be miffed?

meritaten

cakeadoodle wrote: »

To be honest, I was starting to feel like I was being a bit childish. I think that I shan't bother making a fuss and just not bother to buy anyone gifts this year.

I've already let them know that I'll be cutting down on spending when I'm full time self employed later this year so they are expecting less.

I still can't help feeling a bit petty!

hun - if YOU are the only one giving gifts/cards and everyone else doesn't............then I would say you are not being petty if you fell into line with everyone else - I would say you have finally seen sense!

juliethemuse

I know the feeling, I am still waiting for my dads 'cheque' and its nearly March' he said when I took his gifts over 'oh I havent had chance to get you anything - I'll send you a little cheque then you can buy what you like' :rotfl: yeah right Dad its so little its invisible.
This year birthday and christmas prezzys are out! my Mum never buys birthday and christmas presents either but plays merry hell if we forget hers.

suki1964

cakeadoodle wrote: »

My mum (it's always mothers isn't it!) made a huge fuss about the fact that none of my siblings bought her a birthday card or present (I did!). But she didn't seem to see the irony in the situation (she didn't bother her bum to get me anything for my birthday).

To add insult to injury, just days later I gave out Christmas gifts - at a family dinner, so not a surprise - and I didn't get as much as a Christmas card from any of my family.

I've always been generous with gifts - I'm not talking spending insane amounts but I will spend a long time making sure I buy something thoughtful that they will love, even if I end up spending a little more than originally planned. I save for Christmas and birthdays by putting away money every month to make it more affordable as I have a large family (5 siblings). I bought for siblings, wives and children, my mother, her partner (didn't even get a thank you from him!) my stepfather and his partner. Mum claimed that she had been too busy to buy pressies - since it's now almost March I think it's safe to say that there shall be none.

I know that you shouldn't give to receive and I certainly don't expect my family to spend loads on me. I make a point of asking for inexpensive, practical gifts if asked what I would like (for example, some inexpensive moisturiser, a new nail file, some primark jammies). A £3 bunch of flowers from tesco would have been fine!

I can't decide if I'm more annoyed about the thoughtlessness or all of the energy expended in searching out and buying gifts whilst in the midst of moving home, renovations, working stupid hours in a stressful job and running my own business.

Would you be peed off with this? Or am I just being too sensitive?

It's for this reason Facebook was invented


Wish em a happy birthday on there and that's it done.


Simples


And if you don't believe me, wait till you get berated for not doing the FB love in :rotfl:

Stephb1986_2

For years my older brother didn't bother with my birthday at all, I always bothered with him even though I had less money than him I would save for weeks to get him something I knew he would love. After many years of not getting anything off him and him buying his half brother I just didn't bother with getting him a birthday present.

He came crying to my mum about it and she put him in his place saying well you've not bothered with her for years but you have with your half brother it's really hurt her and so now she won't buy for you. He said fair enough and that was the end of it.

OP if I was you I wouldn't bother save it for yourself and get yourself something really nice Sick of people take take taking all the time and never just giving even a little.

Steph xx

dibuzz

I understand how you feel. I recently had my 50th birthday and got 3 cards.
None of my 4 kids bothered but what hurt most was that I'd become a Grandma for the first time a few weeks before and didn't even get a card from the baby.

Top_Girl

I would simply stop and if anything was said, I'd say I didn't get anything for birthday or Christmas off any of you so I assumed we were no longer doing presents...

meritaten

dibuzz wrote: »

I understand how you feel. I recently had my 50th birthday and got 3 cards.
None of my 4 kids bothered but what hurt most was that I'd become a Grandma for the first time a few weeks before and didn't even get a card from the baby.

Ouch! I assume you had sent cards and gifts etc to your kids and new grandbaby?

cakeadoodle

That's it - not only am I not buying gifts this year, I'm going to eat all of their easter eggs :rotfl: Now that is petty.

Lots of useful suggestions. I've decided I shall spend the money on replacing the downstairs loo, take a picture of myself on said loo, and make that my Christmas card this year

meritaten

cakeadoodle wrote: »

That's it - not only am I not buying gifts this year, I'm going to eat all of their easter eggs :rotfl: Now that is petty.

Lots of useful suggestions. I've decided I shall spend the money on replacing the downstairs loo, take a picture of myself on said loo, and make that my Christmas card this year

Yes - but it will make up for the times you gave and they didn't! ENJOY!:)

cakeadoodle

dibuzz wrote: »

I understand how you feel. I recently had my 50th birthday and got 3 cards.
None of my 4 kids bothered but what hurt most was that I'd become a Grandma for the first time a few weeks before and didn't even get a card from the baby.

That's awful, especially when it's a landmark birthday! My feelings would be hurt too. Did they forget or did they just not make much of an effort?