Sons ex trying make things difficult

Jinx

It sounds to me like the ex is living her life and expecting (rightly so) that your son will pay maintenance and collect the child at the agreed times/days.

Going to nursery helping speech is not the same thing as not going to nursery impedes speech. If mother and child chat and have interactions with others then its the same effect.

Cherry_Bomb

Since when has wearing poor sized pants been a reason to involve SS?

You sound like a spiteful vindictive nightmare.

74jax

aandrea wrote: »

My son, got his girlfriend pregnant, and not long after he was born, they split up. Her choice. He has been paying maintenance at what they agreed, Grandson is now 4 years of age. but inbetween that time, his ex has moved out of the town she's lived at, not put him nursery till a week before xmas, making his speech delayed.Now grandson is 4 years old. As every time his going to start nursery she's going to move. None of us on my sons side, would she allow us to see our grandson. Once going on near a year, since they split up, out of the blue whilst I was at work she text me swearing at me, for no reason. My son sees his son, as much as his shifts will allow.
Son has been and picked up his son, even if abit inconvinent to him, like when he was moving into house. Or just done, shift of nights. Now son has settled down, moved into house with girlfriend, shes moving again, and wants an increase in maintenance. Yet sometimes, when his just been picked up, his got clothed, that don't fit him,, and even underpants, that are a couple years, older than what he is, and his not a big child. Sons at his wicks end as to what to do, as he don't like confrontation, anything for him to see his son. But we don't think it goes on him, when you see her, always going out at weekend , in the latest fashion.

I don't understand the question here? or are you just letting us know this?

BitterAndTwisted

She wants an increase in maintenance payments, so any and every reason to see this as unacceptable and a result of bad-parenting is being grasped at with both hands. Even down to collecting his son when it's "inconvenient".

Some mothers should just keep their noses out of their children's business unless they enjoy stirring up a hornet's nest.

Caroline73_2

Why, if you have considered calling Social Services about your grandchild, hasn't your son tried going for full custody?

valk_scot

My sons always seemed to be in the wrong sized clothing, firstly because clothing sizes aren't consistant across brands and secondly because I got given a lot of handmedowns. And the older one passed clothes down to the younger one, until the younger one got bigger than the older one that is. I mostly clothed them by picking somethingup and judging the size by eye rather than look at the label size. Does that make me a poor mother? Don't think so, they always had enough clothes, weather appropriate and fitting them. Sometimes they even matched!

jjj1980

valk_scot wrote: »

My sons always seemed to be in the wrong sized clothing, firstly because clothing sizes aren't consistant across brands and secondly because I got given a lot of handmedowns. And the older one passed clothes down to the younger one, until the younger one got bigger than the older one that is. I mostly clothed them by picking somethingup and judging the size by eye rather than look at the label size. Does that make me a poor mother? Don't think so, they always had enough clothes, weather appropriate and fitting them. Sometimes they even matched!

This made me chuckle as this is what I do!! Got fed up of buying the right age-label and finding it didn't fit my daughter. I now go by the length, width etc. My daughter is tall for her age so I buy trousers two years too old, as per the age label and just adjust the waistband.


I would just say to the OP to be careful before involving SS. My ex and his family did it to me out of spite and it only made me more determined that whilst I would never prevent me ex seeing my little girl as long as he keeps his behaviour in check, there is no way in this world his family will be coming near her!!

luxor4t

This made me very sad.

OP, you sound like my MiL did - and that is just not a good thing for anybody in the relationship, including yourself.

BitterAndTwisted

The OP doesn't appear to have like many of the responses, so has amended her first post. It's fortunate that a couple of us have quoted her, so others can make sense of the discussion at hand.

Yep OP, go and see a solicitor. Spend a hundred quid just to be told what you've heard here already.

michelle2008

aandrea wrote: »

seeing a solicitor

Why?? If what you have told us is the full extent of your concern then all you will achieve is to make your sons relationship with this child and his mother even more difficult.

Please stop meddling - but if you can't help yourself stick to the truth. You are In very dangerous territory and this could influence the rest of this little lads life.