Carers Allowance Rant

RVT2

I have added up the benefits and it in no way matches the salary I was on. I don't expect it to, before you jump on that statement. It is the other things you lose as well. Freedom, choice, interaction.

It is double the work when you have 2 partially sighted children, not 1. Who also have learning difficulties and are in a special needs school. I work hard with both of them separately trying to get them to read, write and use cutlery for example. I nursed one through 3 years of chemo. I am constantly teaching them what is appropriate but they forget, so the next day I do it all again. It is exhausting. One has a mental age 4 years behind his actual age. The other is about 6 years behind his actual age so I can't teach them together. Double the work.

It is not simply a matter of meals and cleaning.

You have a very short sighted view of what some carers do.

Yes, they are my children. Does that make a difference?

McKneff wrote: »

Again, add up everything else that benefits the household,

Hardly double the work, I dont mean to sound unsympathetic but if you are cooking, its no more work to cook 2 meals than one.

Household cleaning, same thing.

Lets get it into perspective.

You don't say if they are your own children or not.

princessdon

mazza111 wrote: »

Define family though. She's not a blood relative to this lad. Does it make a difference? To me, it probably would. But when I think of the only BIL I knew, and the thought of caring for him would turn my stomach, especially if I was giving up a well paid job to do it. I didn't like him all the time I was married to his brother and I'm pretty sure the feeling was mutual. I'm sure the OP is just trying to do the right thing for the lad, and I'd pin a medal on her chest for doing it. If it meant caring for one of my own I'd move heaven and earth to be able to do it. I think it's different for one of your own or your partner/husband.

But with all due respect, if your niece is in the right age group and you meet the criteria, you could be claiming CB for her. Or is someone else claiming it?

Income prevents any child benefit. Yes I guess family dynamics are important. My BIL is like a brother, I adore him. My neice is blood and I love her now, but at the time, I didn't know she existed nor had ever met her. She was a complete stranger, and actually may not be a blood relative to me.

It is a fact that SS prefer families for cheapness and what is best.

shegar

RVT2 wrote: »

I have added up the benefits and it in no way matches the salary I was on. I don't expect it to, before you jump on that statement. It is the other things you lose as well. Freedom, choice, interaction.

It is double the work when you have 2 partially sighted children, not 1. Who also have learning difficulties and are in a special needs school. I work hard with both of them separately trying to get them to read, write and use cutlery for example. I nursed one through 3 years of chemo. I am constantly teaching them what is appropriate but they forget, so the next day I do it all again. It is exhausting. One has a mental age 4 years behind his actual age. The other is about 6 years behind his actual age so I can't teach them together. Double the work.

It is not simply a matter of meals and cleaning.

You have a very short sighted view of what some carers do.

Yes, they are my children. Does that make a difference?

The one good thing is that at least your children go to school daily , and that do give you a much needed break..............................

There will always be a debate on CA, some think its fair and some dont......

Some people get it and dont have much caring work to do but do claim it .......

I do claim it because its a hard job that I have to do, like all the household jobs, including decorating , gardening, a little DIY when somethings go wrong.......But I pay to have some help at jobs I know I cant deal with ....... I dont have a life of my own anymore, and dont get out much at all, he cant be left unattended.................But I chose to have him at home and not put into nursing care, until im unable to carry on with it.......

My hubby also has brain injury and its like trying to teach a child all over again how to do things, 5 minuets later he has forgotten again, its constant nursing care........

But like Dunroamin says she dont claim it cos she dont really do any caring, thats fair enough and her decision, I probaly wouldnt claim it either if I wasnt doing caring and nursing work for my hubby........

But I feel im definately entitled to CA and I will carry on claiming it............

RVT2

And Mckneff, perhaps you would like to take on my role.

One kid to hospital to check the cancer hasn't come back.
Both kids to the Low Vision Unit to check their eyesight hasn't deteriorated.
One kid to the Sleep Clinic appointment because he will not sleep.
The other kid to an autism assessment.
Both kids to see a behavioural therapist.
One kid to see a speech therapist.
One kid to see an occupational therapist.

Yeah, I would love caring to simply mean they both had exactly the same problems and I could combine their appointments, then whip them up a meal and flick a duster round.

Get real.

krisskross

mikey_bach wrote: »

My rant on Carers well underlying entitlement.

A couple married for years, both claim Incapacity Benefit,

have DLA middle rate care each or above

Can claim underlying CA for each other and have two carers premiums, an extra £63 per week

Plus couple rate Severe Disability Premium well over £100 per week on top, as no one claims C.A for them...

Only if eligible for pension credit. Neither Sandra Scarlett or myself are entitled to pension credit so no premiums for us although we both have very disabled husbands to care for.

Not a problem for me.......he has looked after me and our children to the best of his ability for many decades. I don't need to be paid to care for him now he needs it.

FBaby

RVT2 wrote: »

And Mckneff, perhaps you would like to take on my role.

One kid to hospital to check the cancer hasn't come back.
Both kids to the Low Vision Unit to check their eyesight hasn't deteriorated.
One kid to the Sleep Clinic appointment because he will not sleep.
The other kid to an autism assessment.
Both kids to see a behavioural therapist.
One kid to see a speech therapist.
One kid to see an occupational therapist.

Yeah, I would love caring to simply mean they both had exactly the same problems and I could combine their appointments, then whip them up a meal and flick a duster round.

Get real.

That is quite a lot of appointments, but many children who don't receive DLA may need many appointments. Both my children have squints, both diagnosed at 4, so have been having hospital appointments ever since. My DD was operated on, then was followed-up regularly. She also has had problem with her teeth, again referred to the hospital for surgery, plus referral to orthodontists, so appointments to dentist, maxillofacial consultant, and orthodontists all at the same time. So yes, it might not be as much as you but I work full-time (and as a single mum with no help at the time of her eye surgery), but it was enough to be stressful and time consuming. Still not once did it come to mind that any of this was outside what was expected of me as their mother. I have never considered myself at any time as their carer, just their mum and no extra money made a difference to that.

RVT2

I wouldn't compare a squint to partial sight. But let's be aware that this isn't a competion.

Two kids is hard work. Multiple problems. One set of carers allowance. It is not right.

I do see appointments as being a part of my role as a mother. People have it worse than me but I feel I should be paid for caring for them both. Not just one. I am a lone parent. My ex has withdrawn maintenance. I guess I have issues. But let the righteous non claimers and old timers revel in their smugness.

Dunroamin

RVT2 wrote: »

I wouldn't compare a squint to partial sight. But let's be aware that this isn't a competion.

Two kids is hard work. Multiple problems. One set of carers allowance. It is not right.

I do see appointments as being a part of my role as a mother. People have it worse than me but I feel I should be paid for caring for them both. Not just one. I am a lone parent. My ex has withdrawn maintenance. I guess I have issues. But let the righteous non claimers and old timers revel in their smugness.

Patronising - much?

RVT2

Dunroamin wrote: »

Patronising - much?

Pointless post - much?

Perhaps this is a thread that is now more suited to Discussion Time. But for now, I will leave you in your smugness. ONW.

Sharpen your pitchfork. You do like to use it to poke on the Benefits threads.

Dunroamin

RVT2 wrote: »

Pointless post - much?

Perhaps this is a thread that is now more suited to Discussion Time. But for now, I will leave you in your smugness. ONW.

Sharpen your pitchfork. You do like to use it to poke on the Benefits threads.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

There's no secret that I used to post under a different username but at least I wasn't PPPRed, unlike some.;)

I'll leave you to wallow in your guilt.