another splitting the bill thread (a question)

Brighthopefortomorrow

This thread has reminded me, we once went out for a meal with friends and one of them insisted that the bill be split exactly for what each person had had, unfortunately we had used a voucher for 15% off food only and the number skills needed to do that were totally beyond her but she still insisted that that was what should be done. In the end DD had to work it out for her, next time we went out with those friends DD put her share of the money on the table and left before the bill came.:rotfl:

(Politely I hasten to add.)

fluffnutter

I'll ask again... how expensive is the meal likely to be? It's pointless arguing about who pays for what and whether it's fair until you know whether people are going to have to stump up £1 or £100.

ognum

Why cant you talk with the other eaters and come to a consensus?

Person_one

andy.m wrote: »

Any methodology that requires 6 paragraphs to explain, and the possible use of a phone is definitely convoluted, and in the presence of family it is most definitely cringeworthy and almost bordering on offensive imo.
But then you are not my family so what does it matter.

Equal split amongst the adults present, some win, some lose by usually only a few pounds however they are family and I don't begrudge anyone in my family £2.

I'm guessing you usually win?

Its not remotely convoluted, i have the greatest respect for krlyr but she is not known for her brevity!

When I go for a meal with friends, at the end we all tot up what we had, plus tip, and throw the cash in the middle. That covers the bill. Done and dusted.

The people who have two high earners in the house can have lobster and £30 wine if they want without feeling guilty and little me on minimum wage can have crap pasta and diet coke without feeling anxious about how the bill will be worked out. Good times all round!

spaghetti_monster

Hi again and thanks for all the replies!

I personally don't mind how things are done. I often eat out with friends using person-one's paying method no problem. I also don't mind splitting the bill. (And I also don't see a problem saying no to that if anyone is taking the pee, or in my younger days when I might eat one cheap main course/one glass of wine and friends would be having multiple courses/steak/jugs of cocktails.)

But back to this situation. As most people have suggested I think it's best just to split the remaining bill amongst the adults as individuals (I asked my brother and sister, haven't seen the others but will obviously check at the table).

For clarification, most people coming fall under the driving/breastfeeding/teetotal category so alcohol will be a minimum.
I also just discovered it's meant to be a birthday celebration for my Mum (whose birthday is later in the week, so I had thought not). Sis and I have made a cake that we're allowed to bring to the pub, so we won't need desserts.
This also means that Mum's share will be paid for by the 100 pound/everyone else.
Mains are about 10 pounds, children's meals are 6.95.

Thanks again for the replies!

getmore4less

spaghetti_monster wrote: »

Grandma has said she wants to pay the first 100 pounds.
My Mum
Uncle
Uncle + 5 and 7 year old
Sis + OH
Bruv + OH
Me + OH + 2 year old
Cous + OH + 2.5 year old

spaghetti_monster wrote: »

This also means that Mum's share will be paid for by the 100 pound/everyone else.
Mains are about 10 pounds, children's meals are 6.95.

total food bill is going to be £150ish

£5 per adult(less mum and gran) should cover it perhaps uncle with 2 kids chucking in another £5

then throw in a few more £5 to cover the drinks and tip

Funky_Bold_Ribena

spaghetti_monster wrote: »

Hi again and thanks for all the replies!

I personally don't mind how things are done. I often eat out with friends using person-one's paying method no problem. I also don't mind splitting the bill. (And I also don't see a problem saying no to that if anyone is taking the pee, or in my younger days when I might eat one cheap main course/one glass of wine and friends would be having multiple courses/steak/jugs of cocktails.)

But back to this situation. As most people have suggested I think it's best just to split the remaining bill amongst the adults as individuals (I asked my brother and sister, haven't seen the others but will obviously check at the table).

For clarification, most people coming fall under the driving/breastfeeding/teetotal category so alcohol will be a minimum.
I also just discovered it's meant to be a birthday celebration for my Mum (whose birthday is later in the week, so I had thought not). Sis and I have made a cake that we're allowed to bring to the pub, so we won't need desserts.
This also means that Mum's share will be paid for by the 100 pound/everyone else.
Mains are about 10 pounds, children's meals are 6.95.

Thanks again for the replies!

How would you have worked it out if the internet hadn't existed?

If it were me, and gran was paying £100 and the total was £150 I'd just pay the £50 myself and enjoy the meal with the family.

Or just split the remaining between all adults.

It really isn't rocket science.

londonsurrey

Being generous is all well and good, but being generous with someone else's money who can't afford it is a different ball game.

I'd err on the side of caution, and if possible, ask the people with the lowest incomes and lowest family unit head count what they want to do.

ognum

Why is it with this kind of question that people are so determined that the way they suggest is the one and only way?

This is how so many problems arise, why some people opt not to go out and others come away feeling upset.

There doesn't need to be one solution for every time.

Sneezy

When I go out with friends we tend to split 50/50 apart from if they bring their children with them in which case friends tend to work out the extra.

However when I go out for a meal with work department I draw the short straw as I don't drink alcohol (and stick to one soft drink). The last time I went out with 30+ people I ended up paying £25 instead of £15 because people were ordering bottles of wine and cocktails.

To make it fairer OP ask for the drinks bill separate - food will be relatively easy to split.