Teenage girls and their 'wants'

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DS4215 wrote: »

My neighbour had a full sleeve tattoo on his arm at 18 and a student. A year later he left college and tried for the police - only to find that tattoo's below the elbow were a big NO and he couldn't get in...

Must depend on the local police force criteria - my friend is an officer and has a beautiful full sleeve of roses and lilies. She's been in the force for about 5 years.

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suki1001

My brother in law has a tattoo he completely regrets. It is awful, but then I've not ever seen many tattoos I actually like. Maybe two, but there have been countless times I've lied to many people when they've proudly shown me their tattoos (how do you say something so permanent looks awful).

Often I think that especially young girls are so desperate to fit in and often have a far lower opinion of themselves and resort to things like tattoo. Of course there is the rebelious side of the teenage years, but for me I saw things like rules as things that were put in place to stop teenagers having fun. Many years later I met a teenage girl who had decided not to have sex before marriage, what struck me was she had such a strong sense of self worth and she was very confident in herself, I realised someone had actually explained the rules to her very well and given very good reason behind them.

If only I had had such a strong understanding of the meaning behind these rules when I was breaking them - I would have a had a better opinion of myself and would have been less pressurised.

I think in theory, even if hypothetically you did let her get one. Two years waiting to get one compared to years of regret and anger potentially aimed at you for letting her get one are a no brainer, because the latter could last a lifetime.

I think when I was younger the fashion was to have a little red devil tattoo or a single red rose - I wonder if anyone regrets those.

lama_pdx

Bless her. Trying to baffle you with logic, as if refusing her a tattoo were some kind of human rights violation! Lol.

Please don't back down! Letting a 16-year-old get a tattoo is ca-razy.

It reminds me of when I was a teenager and wanted to get my ears pierced. Literally ALL of my friends had pierced ears and wore cheap and cheerful earrings (it was the 80s). My mom said no. She said she didn't think young girls should have pierced ears. She said when I was 18 I was welcome to have it done but until then? No.

She had pierced ears. Oh didn't I protest against the HYPOCRISY and INJUSTICE! Immediately after turning 18 I went and had it done.

But I actually respect her for it now. She had an idea that adult things were for adults, and she stuck to it.

jellyhead

skintchick wrote: »

How odd. Did they forget they had them? I just got a dress with lovely short sleeves and my tatts were covered beautifully. I looked both classy AND like a princess on my wedding day

I think it would look okay if the dress left the tattoo on display too. What does look ugly though, in my opinion, is when somebody chooses a dress where only part of the tattoo is visible. It looks like a bruise or dirty mark. One friend had a strap of about an inch wide that covered half the tattoo on her shoulder blade, and people kept asking what she'd done to her shoulder. Her tattoo was in a place that wasn't normally on display, so not many of her guests knew she had one.

Nada666

She won't be able to get a job in HMV - oh, wait... never mind.

cheeswright

the other bit of legislation - not quoted on here
is that the parents of a child who has a tattoo will be reported by their childs school or anyone in a similar position - for child abuse
even if it was done without their consent - and they wont be asked if it was or wasnt before its reported by most schools
I think this is a quite recent addition to the child protection regulations..as its only recently (last two years ?) come up in child protection training...but its definatly there...

Bazey

I'd probably give in and agree to a tattoo, but on my terms...I'd make her get a tattoo of her D/O/B on her neck. That'll learn her.

Stephb1986_2

I've wanted a tattoo for years I'm 27 this year but my mum said I can't have a tattoo until I move out lol.

I see her point to a certain extent but I am nearly 27! It's not going to be in a very visable place either.

OP I would stick to your guns if she wants one next year maybe reconsider?

Steph xx

thehappybutterfly

Stephb1986 wrote: »

I've wanted a tattoo for years I'm 27 this year but my mum said I can't have a tattoo until I move out lol.

I see her point to a certain extent but I am nearly 27! It's not going to be in a very visable place either.

OP I would stick to your guns if she wants one next year maybe reconsider?

Steph xx

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Stephb1986 wrote: »

I've wanted a tattoo for years I'm 27 this year but my mum said I can't have a tattoo until I move out lol.

I see her point to a certain extent but I am nearly 27! It's not going to be in a very visable place either.

OP I would stick to your guns if she wants one next year maybe reconsider?

Steph xx

My mum said the same. I got one at 18 - she found out about it when I was 29

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