Teenage girls and their 'wants'

Seanymph

Yes, the law is wonky - but you can't make bearing children illegal at any age - what would you do to enforce it? Enforced terminations?

So bearing children is a moot point, puberty doesn't equal maturity unfortunately.

As for the rest, my teenagers I have always made obey the law, from not watching films in the house until they are old enough for the certificate to not going clubbing until they are 18 - and the same for piercings.

They talked about tattoos at one point, my eldest has now waited until she was 18 and has changed her mind.

I would not give my children permission to do anything that involved breaking the law. I point at the law, agree sometimes they are stupid, and point out that stupid or not we have to obey them.

angelil

hellokittygal wrote: »

I think that 16 is too young for sex and marriage and driving, although I may not have said this a few years ago.
18 is when you are classed as an adult, and ithink that should be the age of consent for these things.

I'm a teacher of 16-year-olds, and have been for the past five years. I agree with this. I think that of the hundreds of students I've taught I've only met one sixteen-year-old who would have been mature enough to cope with any of these at this age. Although frankly, I've taught 18-year-olds who also wouldn't be mature enough to handle these things, so who knows?!

brook2jack

The biggest risk for hepatitis c ,d and e is not intravenous drug use but body piercing and tatooing. As mentioned before it is illegal to tattoo an under 18 year old , even with parental permission , and a parlour that flouts this rule is probably one that flouts many others , with possibly fatal consequences re blood bourne diseases. http://hepatitis.about.com/od/lifestyle/a/tattoos.htm http://www.hepb.org.uk/information/resources/hbv_vaccination_packs_for_industries/Thetattooindustryandhepatitisbvaccination.pdf

A person who is tatooed has a higher risk of developing allergies as they have a foreign body permanently in their body (ink) stimulating an immune reaction. There is also the risk of keloid formation (overgrowth scar tissue) and problems with having mri scans etc http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/tattoos-and-piercings/MC00020

An adult can study the risks and hopefully make a sensible decision , a fifteen year old needs you to make a sensible decision about something that may have life long consequences.

thehappybutterfly

brook2jack wrote: »

The biggest risk for hepatitis c ,d and e is not intravenous drug use but body piercing and tatooing. As mentioned before it is illegal to tattoo an under 18 year old , even with parental permission , and a parlour that flouts this rule is probably one that flouts many others , with possibly fatal consequences re blood bourne diseases. http://hepatitis.about.com/od/lifestyle/a/tattoos.htm http://www.hepb.org.uk/information/resources/hbv_vaccination_packs_for_industries/Thetattooindustryandhepatitisbvaccination.pdf

A person who is tatooed has a higher risk of developing allergies as they have a foreign body permanently in their body (ink) stimulating an immune reaction. There is also the risk of keloid formation (overgrowth scar tissue) and problems with having mri scans etc http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/tattoos-and-piercings/MC00020

An adult can study the risks and hopefully make a sensible decision , a fifteen year old needs you to make a sensible decision about something that may have life long consequences.

Interesting. And I doubt there are many 18 year olds who would even consider these risks. Their research is unlikely to go further than cost and design. I certainly never thought about any of these when I got my tattoo and I was 28!

BitterAndTwisted

When I remember the kind of idiot I was at 16, the kind who thought she knew everything and the parents were numpties who know nothing about anything, I dread to think of what sort of rubbish tattoos I might have chosen for myself back then. Sometimes, as a parent you just have to be the unreasonable and unpopular one protecting your youngsters from themselves and their bad decisions.

n.b. I think tattoos on women are extremely naff although I appreciate that this is not a view shared by many.

miss_independent

I really wanted a tattoo when I was younger too and, in my mind, had no doubt I would get one. Now I'm 28 I'm so glad I didn't get what I wanted. I was a bit of a rock chick and a hippy when I was younger but I've grown into a different style now and try to be as classy as possible - my chosen tat wouldn't have fit my personality today!

Also, I think it can have an impact upon future careers. My parents work in a very specific industry, running their own businesses and they *had* to turn down a woman with tattoos all over her body and hands and strange piercings/dermal implants who had applied for the position of manager. This was due to it being a high profile public facing role dealing with a very specific clientele who would have been scared off by her tattoos.

Could you explore the option of semi-permanent tattoos with her? That could be a good idea?

thehappybutterfly

miss_independent wrote: »

I really wanted a tattoo when I was younger too and, in my mind, had no doubt I would get one. Now I'm 28 I'm so glad I didn't get what I wanted. I was a bit of a rock chick and a hippy when I was younger but I've grown into a different style now and try to be as classy as possible - my chosen tat wouldn't have fit my personality today!

Also, I think it can have an impact upon future careers. My parents work in a very specific industry, running their own businesses and they *had* to turn down a woman with tattoos all over her body and hands and strange piercings/dermal implants who had applied for the position of manager. This was due to it being a high profile public facing role dealing with a very specific clientele who would have been scared off by her tattoos.

Could you explore the option of semi-permanent tattoos with her? That could be a good idea?

Ha! I mentioned tattoos to her 5 minutes ago and said "I have a suggestion...." and got no further when she butted in with "Don't say henna"!

midnightraven3

my 17 year son drove into town, walked into marks & spencers and was turned down to buy a box of £15 christmas crackers, showed his licence and was still no, because one contained a pencil sharpener

he pointed out to the assistant had he wanted to run around with a pencil sharpener frightening people he would hardly buy a £15 box of crackers, he would go and buy a 50p sharpener
still couldnt budge

the laws are ridiculous

Ladyhawk

Lyrics round her wrist sounds like a dreadful idea. Think how quickly they will go out of fashion or lose their meaning.

I loathe tattoos though... think they are tacky and really nasty. I also don't like children having their ears pierced. But each to there own.

bluestarlight

Anything I would have chosen as a tattoo at 16, I'd be regretting at my age of 30. Especially song lyrics!