Money or fulfillment?

maman

avantra wrote: »

Ha, public services , it is a different planet to private sector wage slavery/no pension/no PT

Don't believe the propaganda! Anyhow, I thought the Private Sector was awash with P/T jobs when people really wanted full time.

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"Fulfillment" means different things to different people, and so the OP should decide exactly what she wants out of her life and take the opportunities that best fill these requirements.[/QUOTE]

Exactly!

mintymoneysaver wrote: »

I would definitely say part time if you can afford it. I've been fortunate enough to work part time ever since my children were little. My days off were filled with meeting friends, shopping, meeting up with my Mum etc. My circumstances changed recently ( split from husband) and I really thought I would have to work full time. Even though my girls are 19 and 15 now I didn't want to do it. I work in a job that involves extra work once I'm home, and I often go into work on my days off just to play catch up ( yes, I'm ateacher!) So I've taken a promotion at work instead that means I often work on my days off ( paid as overtime) but I still have that freedom to say it's Friday and I'm not working today. I suppose if I worked in a job where I knew it finished when I walked out the door maybe I would think differently, but there's no contest for me... What's the point of having money if you don't have time to spend it?

Each to his own. I would find spending my time like that so frustrating and you describe F/T work as if it's a punishment you've been lucky enough to avoid whereas I would want to be taking a much fuller role in my workplace.

It amazes me that as the majority of adults below the age of 70+ have been through the same education system that some of the female part are happy to stay at home rather than pursue a career.

I agree that OP should go ahead with both applications so she knows if she has a choice. Assuming she's been at home/PT for 7 years to date then personally I would be looking for full time now so I could rebuild my career for the future.

Spendless

My eldest is almost 13 and since he started Secondary school my experience has been more what Poppy9 described rather than he 'needs' me more. He makes his way to and from school independantly, is capable of being left alone for a few hours and able to make simple meals. If he was my youngest or only child I'd be more inclined to look for full-time work, I don't for the reasons described by a previous poster such as being around to do the school runs of a younger sibling and take her to after school activities etc. My sister whose children have just gone to Secondary school has indeed had to drop her hours. That is because the school is too far to walk, she has issues with them catching the allocated school bus due to bullying of my nephew (I agree with that, having been there and got the t-shirt ) but she also also playing a part in this having never encouraged them to start doing things for themselves, which is why my suggestion that instead they walked a short distance to catch a service bus for a few stops and walked the rest of the way was considered 'far too much responsibility for them'

My days are also filled with visiting relatives and some friends, doing housework, sometimes I do courses etc and then I temp providing holiday cover when required. I am happy doing this and my husband is happy for me to do it. It wouldn't be the case that he could drop his hours if I earnt more, his job is what it is and they are the hours that come with the role. He likes his job and his employers and wouldn't want to change!

I haven't gone straight from education to having kids and only wishing to work part-time. I worked full-time for 15 years prior to having children. For the first 13.5 years from starting work a few weeks after finishing O'levels to the day I got redundant I'd never even been 'between' jobs, even if I changed jobs I finished at one on a Friday and started the new one the following Monday!

Poppy9

Bennifred wrote: »

I agree! In fact I would say that it is just as important to be there and available to teenagers as it is to younger children if you possibly can - more important in some cases!

It is important to be there for them but it's also important to make them more independent. When I think of how independent I was at 16 to how my DD was at that age it brings it home to me. From the age of 11 I walked to school bus, walked to bus stop to meet friends in town etc. I had for a few years come in from school and followed the instructions my mother may have left for food i.e. peel the potatoes, put food in oven at X time. I worked on a Sunday for a few hours from age 13. I went clubbing at 17 getting a taxi home.

DD texts me to ask me "where is X", "what do I put the oven on", "which colour tablet in the washing machine". DD got her first job at 16 and she expects a lift to/from work. She goes out for the night and often texts for a lift home.

In hind sight I've kept her too dependent. She is days away from being 18 and off to uni in September. When she was 13 I thought of going back to work full time but a suitable job didn't come up till she was almost 16 and just about to start her GCSE. She actually said she liked having the house to herself to revise for the exams. I think I should have though made more of an effort to "not be there" to force her to fend for herself. On my days off I should have not felt I had to be home at 3.30pm for her coming in from school.

When they are in their teens you still have time to help with homework after work as most teens come in, flop in front of TV and don't think of starting it till 9pm:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Mojisola

Poppy9 wrote: »

DD texts me to ask me "where is X", "what do I put the oven on", "which colour tablet in the washing machine".

You could text back "Work it out for yourself".

Poppy9

Mojisola wrote: »

You could text back "Work it out for yourself".

I'm not that polite:D:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

FatVonD

I think neither job. I would sit tight and wait for that redundancy cheque and THEN look for another job