Feeling so sad, my poor old boy seems to be nearing the end of his life

SnowyOwl_2

This is so hard, but you are putting your old boy's feelings before your own. Of course you are going to feel so bad that he will be gone and you will always miss him, but in taking on those emotions you are releasing him from any pain he may be in. His time has come and it is the last act of kindness you can possibly show him to let him go peacefully and with dignity. Take care, I know how hard it is.

Februarycat

I know how you feel, I had my Katy put to sleep 4 Aug last year,she was around 22 yrs! She had similar problems to your cat and gradually she stopped walking and just sat on the mat all day and stopped purring, and that was when I knew she had had enough, it was very hard to take her to the vets but I knew I had to.
Still not got another cat, just cant face it yet.

Thinking of you and I know how hard it is to do. Take care

Slinky

So sorry to read this, thinking of you. We lost our beautiful Merlin last year at the age of 20. Still miss him desperately.

jackieblack

It is done. He is at peace.
I know it was the kindest thing for him. We loved him too much to let him suffer any more.
We will bury him in our garden, in a spot that was my daughter's flower patch when she was a little girl.

I am broken-hearted and will miss him dreadfully, but I am so grateful to have known him and loved him for as long as we did and am trying to focus on all the happy times and the funny little things he did which always made us laugh, rather than the last few days.

Thank you all for your kind words and support, and for sharing your stories, memories and poems. I have shed many tears reading and re-reading them, but it has been a great help and my heart goes out to all of you who have been through the loss of a much loved friend.


I hope those of you who still have your little furry friends will give them an extra cuddle from me tonight.

sophieschoice, I hope your vet's theory is correct and your girl makes a full recovery

Thank you all, again

Dollardog

So So sorry you had to lose him but you really have done the kindest thing you could to put him at peace. Having just lost my dog I know how hard it is and believe me, I know how you are feeling but you gave him so many years of happiness and he must have been happy for him to have stayed with you even when you moved. Remember the good times he had with you. xx

Scrapaholic

Having a few tears reading the posts . Really feeling for you as we had our cat pts on Jan 7th . It's a horrible time . Very sorry for your loss .

isleofdogs

jackieblack: I came across your thread while searching this forum for dog minders. We had to ask vet to put one of our beloved dogs to an eternal sleep 2 months ago. He just turned 10. It was one of the darkest days in our lives. We have missed him immensely - everyday. I really feel for you. People who have not had a deep relationship with their pets, will never understand your feelings. They have said to us: he was only a dog (he was more than a dog, he was our child), get on with your lives (I hardly mourned or grieved for him long enough), you did the right thing (it was never the right thing when we had to play God). Only a pet owner can feel your pains and sorrow. So, I say, have a good cry everyday.

We had our beloved dog cremated and I hug his urn every day. I wrote a book on his life - to remind us the good and fun times we shared. I gathered his beautiful photos over the years (always had a beaming and happy smile on his face) and run them on my screensaver. I touch his lively photos and cry my heart out.

What made us very sad (and angry) was that we first noticed he was not well, we took him to a vet clinic and 5 different vets examined him over the 4 weeks period and none could find anything wrong with him - until he started to vomit. Then they did the blood tests (too late) and told us he only had weeks. They began more tests, IV feed, ultrasound, pain injections (up to 6 different ones a day), feeding tube as he refused food. He was in and out of vet hospital. In the end, we could not watch him deteriorate with only skin and bones (from a healthy, happy and handsome dog only 2 months before).

There is nothing I can say that will ease your pains and sadness. But, rest assure that you are in my thoughts and I share your feelings.

sophieschoice

Jackieblack, thank you for your kind words, especially when you were in the midst of saying goodbye and taking that hardest, but kindest, of decisions.
I am very sorry for what you're going through, the emptiness seems to be endless. All the little things we take for granted, saying good morning and goodnight and all the welcomes in between. Feeding time hit us particularly hard. I remember OH crying as we gave the remaining three their evening meal. Just sobbing and saying 'how the hell am I supposed to try to divide two packs between three when I've done it for four for so long. He says 'goodnight' to all the cats when he goes to bed and he always stops and says 'goodnight' to our much missed boy's photo.
It gets easier but you have to give it time.

greenanne

hi jackie,
i really do feel for you.i had to take my beloved dog ben to the vet just before christmas and he never came home again.it was the hardest thing i'd ever had to do.but like you i knew that it was the best thing for him and holding on to him for just a little bit longer would have been selfish on my part.i still miss him everyday but now i can remember the happy life he had and the lovely memories i have of him rather than just his final days.