Trying for a Baby Part 9

sophiasmum

Morning everyone! Woken up to gorgeous weather Off to a friends for a family bar b q this afternoon - perfect weather for it. Hoping this will be the last weekend where I can have a drink or 2.
On that note - my friends are plotting a girls weekend away for next year and I have signed up for it. When they talked about it before I miscarried I wouldnt have gone as baby would have been 3 months old - now have just paid a deposit.(Its for next Feb) Hopefully I wont get to go but didnt want to tempt fate by not paying???

lilmissmup

Sophiasmum no point in putting your life on hold! I am desperate to book a holiday but its not pregnancy putting me off its lack of cash!

I finish my part time college course in a few weeks so my next plan is to lose 1/2 stone to see if that helps with baby making, will help me feel better anyway!

Kynthia

Very tired today. Rocked it big time at the Muse concert last night!

Might go crazy golf with hubbie's nephews and enjoy being out in the little sun we have. I'll see how long I can ignore the cleaning and ironing that needs doing.

What are you ladies doing today? Are you enjoying lazy Sundays or doing something more?

loulou123

Codemonkey - your not a horrible person, its my MILs birthday today and big family gathering, I don't want to go, as I'll be surrounded by babies and baby talk.

Oh and had a phone call this morning to say my husbands cousin has just had a baby boy during the night, so guessing that'll add to the baby chat. Put me in a brilliant mood lol.

Still light brown spotting here for me, inevitably it'll turn into full AF at some point, but I'm still clinging onto hope it doesn't...

Mrs_T_M

Can I be updated tentatively to 3DPO please? Thanks!

loulou123

RANT WARNING!...

MILs birthday lunch was terrible, I kept getting babies plonked on my lap (recently I've distanced myself from babies as it hurts too much) and several comments of "its a shame you haven't had kids yet" "your leaving it abit late/your not getting any younger" and my favourite "maybe your not trying hard enough..."

Also learnt hubbys younger brother and his girlfriend are now officially ttc to, so no doubt there happy announcement will be following soon.

I was close to tears at one point as it just seemed a constant barrage of comments. Hubby was great and got me away from it all as best he could.

Thought I was doing ok at planning my life without kids (incase) but it turns out I'm not ok, been close to tears since we got back.

codemonkey

loulou123 wrote: »

RANT WARNING!...

MILs birthday lunch was terrible, I kept getting babies plonked on my lap (recently I've distanced myself from babies as it hurts too much) and several comments of "its a shame you haven't had kids yet" "your leaving it abit late/your not getting any younger" and my favourite "maybe your not trying hard enough..."

Also learnt hubbys younger brother and his girlfriend are now officially ttc to, so no doubt there happy announcement will be following soon.

I was close to tears at one point as it just seemed a constant barrage of comments. Hubby was great and got me away from it all as best he could.

Thought I was doing ok at planning my life without kids (incase) but it turns out I'm not ok, been close to tears since we got back.

Aww loulou think we've all been there. First of all, well done for not snapping and bursting into tears then and there. Well done most of all for not hitting anyone.

People are very rude about something as sensitive as ttc. If they've been lucky enough not to have suffered the endless wait for a baby then they're probably clueless about how bad it feels and how insensitive it is. I usually confront questions like those with a fixed grin and an internal monologue in my head.

Insensitive moron: so codemonkey when are you going to have a baby?
Me: blah blah generic comment about plenty of time. Rapid change of subject to their child.
Internal monologue: why are you asking me a stupid question you moron. Maybe I'm not having one cause your child is a troll and I don't want to?

Beeatchy maybe, but keeps the tears away.

Either that or a flat "actually, we're infertile, thanks for asking" has the added bonus of making them uncomfortable and making sure they never ask again.

Eta: massive hugs for you.

becca0417

Winner of April BFP predictions (5): ME (again!!) and Angeltreats. Well done!

May Graduates:
:jBigZippy - 3/5/2013 :j
:jMincepiemonster - 7/5/2013 :j
Goppers - 14/5/2013
ejecoms - 18/5/2013
:jfirefly :j - 22/5/2013


May BFP predictions
Thriftylass - 3
Chelseablue - 4
BabyMad - 4
samtoby - 4
ruth - 4
sjlou - 5
catloverbex - 5
picklekin - 5
Goppers - 5
faithhope - 5
chocgirl - 5
Birdie - 5
Becca - 6
Elsie - 6
tia86 - 6
ttc39 - 6
alice31 - 6
Kalama - 6
TCD - 6
purcy81 - 7
angeltreats - 7
katy29 - 7

Thread Graduates:
fluffysox BFP 06/02/13
toothfairy BFP 06/02/13
Hopelass BFP 10/02/13
MiffyMoo BFP 11/02/13
Lemonmelon BFP 14/02/13
maire BFP 19/02/13
Trina BFP 20/02/13
AngelMommy BFP 21/02/13
TTC40 BFP 21/02/13
Lilymay BFP 04/03/13
Retepetsir BFP 05/03/13
abis BFP 12/03/13
amy_85 BFP 14/03/13
vic3 BFP 23/03/13
KScarlet BFP 26/03/13
credit_crunch BFP 31/03/13
Optimistic_mummy BFP 16/04/13
Lilymay BFP 20/04/13
emylou BFP 21/04/13
amyloofoo BFP 24/04/13
BigZippy BFP 3/05/13
Mincepiemonster BFP 7/05/13
ejecoms BFP 18/05/13
firefly BFP 22/05/13

becca0417

Two week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD78 Bekkikay - 63DPO :cool:
CD64 Kellykins -40DPO :cool:
CD26 Tashatutuw - 13DPO :cool:
CD29 Faithhope – 12DPO :cool:
CD30 Birdie85* - 7DPO :cool:
CD26 Kynthia - 7DPO :cool:
CD20 Picklekin - 7DPO :cool:
CD32 Codemonkey - 6DPO :cool:
CD21 Katy29 - 6DPO :cool:
CD24 samtoby - 5DPO :cool:
CD25 blondy24 - 4DPO :cool:
CD18 Tinkwings - 4DPO :cool:
CD20 Mrs_T_M - 3DPO :cool:
CD28 Chocoholic_chick - 2DPO :cool:
CD35 Alice31 - ?DPO :cool:
CD? Slinky_Selina - Awaiting AF :cool:

"If in doubt - BD" Zone
CD96 dustystar - Awaiting ov
CD86 Skintchick - Awaiting ov
CD82 lilian– Awaiting ov
CD71 ema_o- Awaiting ov
CD65 apple*pie - Awaiting ov
CD63 bambisbelle - Awaiting ov
CD53 KimLouise - Awaiting ov
CD52 Fannyanna - Awaiting ov
CD47 Sapphire - Awaiting ov
CD46 McRach– Awaiting ov
CD38 any name will suffice - Awaiting ov
CD36 TeamLowe– Awaiting ov
CD32 Loulou123 - Awaiting ov
CD28 Vesper -Awaiting ov
CD27 twigpig- Awaiting ov
CD24 BeautyButterfly - Awaiting ov
CD23 Sophiasmum - Awaiting ov
CD22 Purcy – Awaiting ov
CD22 Gelly - Awaiting ov
CD21 Angeltreats*- Awaiting ov
CD20 squ1rrel - Awaiting ov
CD19 Kalama -Awaiting ov
CD19 Goodvibes* - Awaiting ov
CD17 becsxxx - Awaiting ov
CD16 chocgirl - Awaiting ov
CD15 sjlou - Awaiting ov
CD14 PommeVerte - Awaiting ov
CD14 Claire16c- Awaiting ov
CD13 jammy26 - Awaiting ov
CD12 january23- Awaiting ov
CD12 tia86 - Awaiting ov
CD12 Elsie37- Awaiting ov
CD11 Catloverbex - Awaiting ov
CD10 cwtw - Awaiting ov
CD9 littleme - Awaiting ov
CD9 Thriftylass - Awaiting ov
CD9 BabyMad* - Awaiting ov
CD9 ruth26 - Awaiting ov
CD9 atton- Awaiting ov

"Wine and Chocolate" zone
CD7 Skaps* - Awaiting ov
CD6 159 - Awaiting ov
CD3 TTC39* - Awaiting ov
CD3 lilmissmup- Awaiting ov
CD2 Part Mouse - Awaiting ov
CD1 becca0417* – Awaiting ov

:T TCD's own special list :T
CD21 teaandcakeordeath- Awaiting next step

Those with * sometimes uses conceive plus/preseed.
The names in blue has a link to their Fertility Friend chart.
When posting updates, can you please do them in Magenta so it's easy to spot. This thread is all about support, so remember to click thanks on as many posts as you can! It makes us all feel loved.

fluffnutter

codemonkey wrote: »

Either that or a flat "actually, we're infertile, thanks for asking" has the added bonus of making them uncomfortable and making sure they never ask again.

I did that once. I was so incensed by a work colleague telling me how sensible I was that I'd decided not to have children and what a pain hers were that I took a deep breath and told her that my second round of IVF had just failed, but thanks for asking.

It's a hollow victory but it made me feel temporarily better. You are all of you on this thread (and the Trials and Tribulations one) in my thoughts. You'll get there. It takes a while. It took me years. But you'll get there.