should i split referal money?

Pollycat

shays_mum wrote: »

What a cheek!

You: "sorry mate, wish you said earlier money already gone on bills, you know how everything keeps going up!, but hey! next time i help you out with a job, will remember to split the difference!

You: "The referral money is a payment to the person who referred the applicant. I referred you. The money is mine. You're bloody rude for asking for half."

Her: "oh! wish i'd asked earlier"

Her (if she's any friend at all): "I'm so sorry, I agree I was rude to ask. Please forgive me and I'd like to buy you lunch as a 'Thank you' for putting my application forward. After all, as I'm now earning £300 a month more than in my old job (which you know I hated) I can afford to say 'Thank you' with a treat."

Your a good friend in helping out, the company saves recruitment money, you get money for helping your company/friend & she earns more - win win in my eyes .

I have a different take on it - see my suggestion in red.

georgiesmum

Cheeky cow !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

paddy's_mum

In your shoes, I would give her the lot, the whole £400, and simply say "here you go .. now I'm free of any obligation to you and you won't need to feel any resentment towards me in the future .." and then make it very clear that the so-called friendship has been irrevocably damaged.

Sometimes by giving people what they say they want, they can be brought to see just what they have sacrificed by their own shallowness, greed and lack of forethought.

It's akin to that natty little saying that if you lend someone £20 and never see them again, it was worth it!

Primrose

Bit of a cheek I think. Your friend was unhappy in her old job and you helped her get a better now which she's now happier in. That should be her just reward. Unless you made a verbal agreement with her to split the referral money, it's morally yours!

Joons

Tbh, I would split it with a close friend, you both gained from this so why not, or, if she aint that close a friend, don't. Sounds to me like the fact she said it means you both kinda agreed this in the first place?

globetraveller

Tell her she can now look for suitable folks to refer so that she can get her own money!
Did she say it jokingly? I would take her out for a nice meal. If she isn't happy with that then she isn't worth worrying about IMO

kitrat

I very much doubt she took on this job out of the goodness of her heart to help out her friend, the only reason she took on the job was for her own personal gain. I don't mean that to sound so selfish, I'm just stating what I believe to be fact - we'd all only quit our jobs for a different one if we expected to make either a financial or emotional gain from it, not just to help score our friend a few quid.

So why should she get a share of the referral money, she didn't do this to help her friend? She's got her reward. I think now she's being a right cow!

However, if it was indicated that the money would be split earlier, then yes then I'd expect you to stay true to your word (although I would think it was a silly thing to agree on!)

Wilma33

It is pretty standard thing to split the bonus. I'm not saying you should have to (and it's rude of her to ask), but I don't think it is a crazy suggestion.

meritaten

Give her half? not bloody likely - tell her to refer a friend and get her own bonus! That is the purpose of the bonus scheme is it not?

burnoutbabe

she does know you don't actually get £400 doesn't she? after tax etc you'd get £200ish to £300 depending on tax rates.

2 people at my work got referral bonuses this month and asked me to pay half to te other person (i do payroll). I said no, they have to have it paid to them and taxed on them, they can do what the want with the net.

So its common, but I'd not do it unless agreed beforehand and i'd tell them where to get off if they asked me later.