Asking advice for my nephew

zoominatorone

the brother must despair at all the relatives claiming benefit money. Let's hope the nephew isn't on benefits for twenty years plus:D

Mara69

SPELLKASTER wrote: »

I also think its quite shocking that he only pay his parents £25 a week for his keep yet he gets that back more in food alone!!

I have said to my brother he needs to kick him out and make him stand on his own two feet and that he can then see how much things cost!!

£25 per week is half his JSA. Personally, I think that is reasonable.

Kicking the lad out is hardly going to help him, is it? I appreciate it is tough when youngsters appear to be lazing at home all day, but the job market is tough at the moment. Perhaps, instead of kicking him out his parents could help by assisting with job applications, his CV, give him advice and support. Does he do any jobs around the house, that would give him a purpose and take the pressure off his parents.

pmlindyloo

Mara69 wrote: »

£25 per week is half his JSA. Personally, I think that is reasonable.

Kicking the lad out is hardly going to help him, is it? I appreciate it is tough when youngsters appear to be lazing at home all day, but the job market is tough at the moment. Perhaps, instead of kicking him out his parents could help by assisting with job applications, his CV, give him advice and support. Does he do any jobs around the house, that would give him a purpose and take the pressure off his parents.

Seems he was only paying £25 when he was working too

Now you've said this there is a better understanding.

Unfortunately the time for tough love should have been when he was working - asking him to pay a reasonable amount then.

I agree £25 a week now is reasonable.

However, it is not surprising that he has no idea about budgeting if he was treated so well when he was working.

Parents really do need to realise that 'babying' their grown up children does them no favours at all. They will have no idea of the 'real world' and what it costs to be independant.

He should have been chucked out a long time ago or made to 'pay his way'. Unfortunately now is not the right time.

xylophone

Any chance of a job with accommodation provided?
http://www.workabout.uk.com/home.aspx

SPELLKASTER

Mara69 wrote: »

£25 per week is half his JSA. Personally, I think that is reasonable.

Kicking the lad out is hardly going to help him, is it? I appreciate it is tough when youngsters appear to be lazing at home all day, but the job market is tough at the moment. Perhaps, instead of kicking him out his parents could help by assisting with job applications, his CV, give him advice and support. Does he do any jobs around the house, that would give him a purpose and take the pressure off his parents.

No he doesn't do odd jobs around the house; he is that lazy he doesn't even bother to hoover up when his parents are at work, and his bedroom is a tip!!

One of the many reasons they kicked him out before; when they took him back in they should have set ground rules but didnt!!

SPELLKASTER

pmlindyloo wrote: »

Seems he was only paying £25 when he was working too

Now you've said this there is a better understanding.

Unfortunately the time for tough love should have been when he was working - asking him to pay a reasonable amount then.

I agree £25 a week now is reasonable.

However, it is not surprising that he has no idea about budgeting if he was treated so well when he was working.

Parents really do need to realise that 'babying' their grown up children does them no favours at all. They will have no idea of the 'real world' and what it costs to be independant.

He should have been chucked out a long time ago or made to 'pay his way'. Unfortunately now is not the right time.

Unfortunately my brother has pampered to my nephew, they kicked him out originally because he wouldnt help do things like keep his bedroom tidy, doesn't offer to hover up either, and doesnt even bother to put his dishes in the dishwasher, I think my brother should give him an ultimatimum of either get any job or go and do some training so he is not sat in the house all day.

He slags his parents off on Facebook, but ultimately they are letting him stay at their home and this makes me bloody angry with him, we've all told my brother that my nephew is really taking the **** with his behaviour!!

Maybe he should join the Army; they would sort him out!!

LunaLady

SPELLKASTER wrote: »

My nephew is 24 and is claiming jobseeker's allowance (not sure if its income or contributions based).

He currently lives at home with his parents and is not happy.

He wants his own place; what help is he entitled to?

Thanks.

He wants his own place, or they want him out?

Have his parents tried to help him?

SPELLKASTER

I know my brother wants him out, its his mum who is causing the trouble.

When my brother kicked him out, she was ringing him up constantly and trying to get him back home!!

My brother moans about him all the time; how much food he eats, the fact that he's on the computer half the night, he sleep half the day, his mum is the one who pampers to him and its her who's at fault because she wont let him stand on his own two feet!!

He doesnt want his own place cause he got it too easy at home!!

MamaMoo_2

Jeez, when I first moved out it was commonplace to have a job/available funds in order to do so. Your own house was something you earned, not an expectation from the government.
I suggest telling him the best way to get his own place is to get a job.
Alternatively, find out what his LHA would be (it's often around the £50 mark) and tell him to find somewhere that will let him live there for that price.
Also, to note, many LA's will only pay a deposit to a registered landlord. Tell him to figure out what he needs to pay for a house, this will include an extortionate amount in letting agents fees if he uses one, deposit if he's not using a reg'd LL, first month's rent in advance, plus the ongoing cost of rent top-ups if necessary, gas, electricity, water, food, travel, and of he wants luxuries like a TV, the Internet etc, what that'll cost. Not to mention furnishing the place.
Write up a fake SOA with money in and money out, and see if he still thinks he's hard done by!

skintandscared_2

If you are so angry at him being so lazy, why are you doing all the homework on what benefits he can get to get a place of his own?! Let HIM sort it out himself! He needs a reality check from the sounds of it.