The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

AlexLK

Been a good boy tonight so 19/21 it is

NewStart13

graemecarter wrote: »

Welcome.

I believe I'm alcoholic, but some people would probably say I am not one because I didn't drink in the morning, didn't drink spirits etc. I previously thought that way also.
I didn't drink everyday and could sometimes stop drinking after a couple of drinks.
However, I regularly drank more than I intended, and sometimes just couldn't stop.
If I wanted to control my drinking, it wasn't enjoyable, and if I wanted to enjoy my drinking, it was never in control.

All that's important is that I realise that my relationship with alcohol is unhealthy, and admit that to myself so I do something about my drinking.

My alcoholism HAD to be self-diagnosed. It was no use anyone telling me that I had to stop/cut down my drinking. It had to be me that made that decision.

The thought of giving up drinking was awful - I thought life would be unbearably dull. That's my alcoholism telling me lies. Life is far better and fuller since I put down the drink. It's not always easy, but it's far easier than it was when drinking.
For me, getting help for my alcoholism has been the best decision I ever made.

All the best and keep posting. In my experience, I have good days and bad days, but it's important I don't drink one day at a time.

Views are my own. This is my experience and is not advice for anyone else. I'm just saying what my story is.

Thank you Graeme, you have given me a lot to think about.

NewStart13

So many great helpful posts today; thank you all.
Well I did it! My first AFD since I don't know when. I am in my pjs now so I think it's pretty safe to declare 1/2.
Good Night.

Munchin

18/21 AFDs:). Only 3 more to go

mrsdee

NewStart13 wrote: »

So many great helpful posts today; thank you all.
Well I did it! My first AFD since I don't know when. I am in my pjs now so I think it's pretty safe to declare 1/2.
Good Night.

Congrats! How do.you feel.today?

ManPants

serenity_10 wrote: »

Hi all :-)

Another newbie here, tho long-time lurker on MSE. Have had a 'lightbulb' moment recently regarding the amount of wine I drink and the cost of it, so am planning to cut down with the help of support on this forum. One thing I would like to ask others who have already cut down and/or had alcohol-free days is how did you approach it? i.e., did you replace alcohol with a soft drink? did you change your routine so you were not doing the same thing as you did when drinking? did you replace alcohol with snacks etc ? I'm interested as I am afraid of failing if I don't have some kind of plan to replace the alcohol.....or is it better to not replace it and just learn to be without it without masking it's absence ....if that makes sense? Would be interested in your stories/views on this.

Welcome!

I think the main thing is that I have found that it does get easier. I can remember pacing the floor in the early days willing it to be after 9pm as I knew then I was almost clear and it was nearer bedtime. I also went out for a walk (taking no money as it would have been too easy to step into a pub or bar for a quick one!), brought bedtime forward and kept a tight following on this thread. When you see others - and names you are familiar with - posting their success it REALLY helps!

This weekend I was away with friends and found that my alcohol gluttony was easy to keep in check whereas I have never had this before. I look forward to posting a new total! In my head if I can keep control of my alcohol demons then I can have it as a choice rather than have to admit it is in charge of me and go down the route of accepting that I have alcohol dependency issues.

So on that note, for today I am posting 23 AF days!

Good Luck

Stupotstu X

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

1 more AFD.

Hope everyone survived the storm ok.



Shaggyx

shaggydoo

NewStart13 wrote: »

Hello, I am hoping I can join you. I came across this thread by accident and have been lurking for a couple of days. Now I have joined MSE so I can be part of what is clearly a very supportive community.
I don't know whether I am an alcoholic but I certainly drink far too much every day. My husband is an alcoholic and doesn't want to stop drinking; I do, or at least drastically cut down.

Pushing out the for you. Good Luck!

shaggydoo

365days wrote: »

Just stopping by for my yearly update!

4 Years sober today.

Alcohol does not cross my mind 99% of the time, but I know if I had one drink I'd be back where I started.

Hope everyone is having exactly the type of relationship with alcohol they want.

:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T

shaggydoo

October :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved


AlexLK 19/21

AuntyCat 6/15
Barny1979 17/20
FlatEric 9/25
Fruball 14/15
Gien 17/23

Joanne109 4/20
Lamarsi 8/14
Maman 12/10
MrsDee 10/10
Munchin 18/21

NewStart 1/2

OhWhatAMess 6/15

Pippi 6/25
PriceySOS 20/27
RosePetal 11/14
Satchmo 11/25
Shaggy 16/17
SkintDad 24/30
Stupotstu 23/TF
Sukeyboo 13/14

Tracy 1/15


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