Routine Help pls :)

notanewuser

Where do you actually want to get to, OP?

guruchelles

It's about maximising sleep for the whole family. You need to do what works for you all. On the nights before the days you work, could you go to bed earlier than your daughter while she and your husband stay up and spend some time together?

nikki11

Just want her to be getting to bed between 9/10 and being up even 7 onwards wouldnt bother me, for a time there it was near 2am when she'd fall asleep:eek:

Or whats normal? Ovb every child is different, once my DH gets work she will be going to a childminder, so want her to be used getting up early, my own fault really!! Do you all get your child/ren up at same time, meal times around the same time,,bath and story every night,etc?

notanewuser

nikki11 wrote: »

Just want her to be getting to bed between 9/10 and being up even 7 onwards wouldnt bother me, for a time there it was near 2am when she'd fall asleep:eek:

Or whats normal? Ovb every child is different, once my DH gets work she will be going to a childminder, so want her to be used getting up early, my own fault really!! Do you all get your child/ren up at same time, meal times around the same time,,bath and story every night,etc?

Not really (DD is 27 months). I'm looking at part time nursery for her now, but that wouldn't mean a wake up time (for her) before 8:30am (starts at 9:30am).

Most days she's up around 9am. Earliest we have to leave the house at the moment is 10am so that's fine. If not out we have breakfast around 10/10:30am, lunch at about 2pm, a snack at about 4pm and dinner at about 7pm. If she's had a shower with one of us in the morning she doesn't get one at night (unless she needs it). She has a loose bedtime routine - milk, teeth brushed, into her room/bed, story, say night night and light off (she has a projector thing that goes on for 10 minutes). She's usually asleep before it's finished.

If she naps now (she did the other day because she was poorly), even 30 minutes will push bedtime to 10-11pm, so I try to avoid that.

alwaysbrassic

We have always had the little ones in bed for 7.30, as they have always had to be up early the next morning for work/ nursery etc. it also allows m time to get my housework done, as I don't like doing housework whilst they are in my care.
It was a bit of a struggle getting one of them into a bedtime routine, we did have to use controlled crying. I know a lot of people don't agree with it, but it works and the long term benefits far outweigh the two nights it takes to get them into a routine.
We have always done bath, milk, story, teeth, bed. It really helps, if any I them miss sleep from going to bed late, they are little terrors the next day!

BAGGY

My boys have always gone to bed at 7pm and DT1 is up at 7am. DT2, however will be awake at 5.30am regardless of what time he goes to bed and always has.
They know that dinner, teeth and wash, then pjs on heralds bedtime. Both happily go up to bed and sleep quickly but I can't seem to get DT2 to sleep later. You could try adjusting bed time by half hour per day but it is not a guanantee. Good luck

Make-it-3

I agree, going from midnight even to 9 pm is going to seem like a huge change. As you both want to get into a routine that fits in with a more typical "working" day then I would do it gradually. Maybe 20-20 minutes earlier each day (for you all).

You don't have to follow them like clockwork, but routines where you do things in a set order are good for toddlers as they can anticipate and know what will happen next. Try to make the hour leading up to bedtime a wind down one, bath, story, milk (we watch In the Night Garden on iplayer and she gets into her sleeping bag when the tombliboos get into theirs).