Routine Help pls :)

nikki11

Hello everyone! Need advice, I have a DD at 16 months and I have no idea how to get her into a routine. Im going back to work PT now in a week or so (have to get police check), my DH will look after her as he is out of work due to an accident-he's looking for work aswell! *Breather*

With not being in work we would stay up to anytime really and that suited us and DD but now need to change it. It could be 11/12pm before she would go to sleep she usually has 1 nap during the day.

She had the flu a while ago so she was brought in between us, if we go to bed she'll happily fall sleep, but I want to get her back into her own bed, do you just put her back and let her cry out? Sorry but she's my only DD and she's gotten spoilt-no more :rotfl:

Any advice would be great!!!!

Gillyx

I wouldn't even attempt to go from 12 midnight to a 7 o clock bedtime if she isn't used to it. It will be difficult as she is set in her ways. I'd maybe look into getting a book on it and having a read.

I wouldn't let her cry it out, maybe controlled crying, going in after a set amount of time, soothing her etc to let her know you're there if she needs you.

Good Luck x

notanewuser

Gillyx wrote: »

I wouldn't even attempt to go from 12 midnight to a 7 o clock bedtime if she isn't used to it. It will be difficult as she is set in her ways. I'd maybe look into getting a book on it and having a read.

Why 7pm?

Can recommend the No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. There's no way I could do controlled crying or CIO with our DD.

We haven't forced a routine on her - she naturally settled on 8:30/9pm - 8:30/9am at about 21 months when she dropped her nap. Works for us. We do still have her in with us if she wakes up when she's poorly, but she's very good about going back to her bed when she's well and happy.

To be honest, you're not going to sort this out in a week - with toddlers absolutely nothing is set in stone!

guruchelles

I personally disagree with controlled crying and crying it out methods.

Take a look at Elizabeth Pantley's 'No Cry Sleep Solution' and look for gentle parenting pages on facebook where you can ask questions.

If you're all getting sleep when you sleep together then there is no rule that says she has to go back into her own bed. Do what works for your family.

nikki11

Dont think I could do the controlled crying thing, it would break me!!!! Yes we are all getting sleep so I suppose I thought it would be 'expected' for her to be in her own bed,etc.

notanewuser

nikki11 wrote: »

Dont think I could do the controlled crying thing, it would break me!!!! Yes we are all getting sleep so I suppose I thought it would be 'expected' for her to be in her own bed,etc.

Screw the expectations.

Ms_Chocaholic

What time does your DD wake on a morning. If it's later in the morning, then you need to try and wake her earlier so she will go to bed earlier in the evening.

Gillyx

notanewuser wrote: »

Why 7pm?

Can recommend the No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. There's no way I could do controlled crying or CIO with our DD.

We haven't forced a routine on her - she naturally settled on 8:30/9pm - 8:30/9am at about 21 months when she dropped her nap. Works for us. We do still have her in with us if she wakes up when she's poorly, but she's very good about going back to her bed when she's well and happy.

To be honest, you're not going to sort this out in a week - with toddlers absolutely nothing is set in stone!

Well 8 o clock, 9 whatever. Even for an adult its difficult to go from one set bedtime to another. So they recommend going by 30 minutes at a time, or even 15 but you'd be there for weeks.

CC worked in one night, I didn't like or enjoy it, but I went in every 5 minutes to reassure him, I had been trying the book suggested for weeks with no progress, but I came to realise my boy needed to be alone to sleep well, the more I was there the more enraged he became. It does have it's place though and if it works for you brilliant.

nikki11

Agree notanewuser!

Ms Chocaholic we're getting up around 9/10, just got into a habit, so tomorrow morning I will drag us both up at 7/7.30, and see how it goes!!! :T

notanewuser

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

What time does your DD wake on a morning. If it's later in the morning, then you need to try and wake her earlier so she will go to bed earlier in the evening.

This doesn't necessarily follow.

notanewuser

nikki11 wrote: »

Agree notanewuser!

Ms Chocaholic we're getting up around 9/10, just got into a habit, so tomorrow morning I will drag us both up at 7/7.30, and see how it goes!!! :T

I wouldn't do that. :eek: