Balancing not just the budget

MuffinTops

Ahhh Tinkerbelle, definitely start your own diary. It's so lovely in the Debt Free Wannabe diaries so you'll get lots of support.

You definitely can get there! It's a nicer journey when you're here too.

kerri_gt

Hey Rosa, sorry I've been absent of late, been keeping up with your thread but poor at posting.

Just wanted to chip in about the b'day card / friend thing. I've come to the comclusion there are two types of absent friends, those who you might not see / speak to / email as much as perhaps you should or plan to but those times you do make contact it's like putting on a comfy pair of slippers or your fav joggers, they make you feel better and it's like you've never been out of contact (I apologise to my friends who I've just referred to as old slippers lol). You don't intend not to keep in touch as much as you plan to, but life just runs away with you both. BUT you think of each other often (you know your friend thinks of you because you think of them - that prob sounds silly but you just know it), and you know that if you needed to call them up in the middle of the night, they would be there for you, always.

Them there are the friends who you used to be close to but lives have just drifted apart, you've sent cards at Xmas and birthdays but apart from that thoughts of them are mainly memories, not about what they're doing now. It's unlikely you'd meet up just the two of you, more likely in a group for a wider social event. There's been no fall out and it's no ones fault, you've just become separated through the tides of life. If you had a crisis, they are unlikely to be the first person you call.

I have friends who fall into both, it sounds like Hotel Chocolat friend falls to the latter for you. X

RosaBernicia

Tinkerbelle2000 wrote: »

Wow Rosa, I have just finished your whole thread and I can't believe how inspired I am by you and your lovely followers. I have been lurking for a while and have just joined but have ummed and arred about starting my own diary. I have roughly the same amount of debt you started with (but less income) and I now know that I can get there.


Subscribing and hope you have a lovely holiday. You really do deserve it.


Oh and you have my very first post lol


Tink xx

Hi Tink, big welcome hugs and congrats on your first post! :T

That's great that you've found it inspiring! I really don't know how I would have kept on track without MSE - it's a part of my life now, and it's lovely that diaries show the different stages of the journey.

There are a completely wonderful bunch of people hanging out here, helping to keep me laughing and passably sane... do start a diary so we can visit you too.


Rosa xx

RosaBernicia

kerri_gt wrote: »

Hey Rosa, sorry I've been absent of late, been keeping up with your thread but poor at posting.

Just wanted to chip in about the b'day card / friend thing. I've come to the comclusion there are two types of absent friends, those who you might not see / speak to / email as much as perhaps you should or plan to but those times you do make contact it's like putting on a comfy pair of slippers or your fav joggers, they make you feel better and it's like you've never been out of contact (I apologise to my friends who I've just referred to as old slippers lol). You don't intend not to keep in touch as much as you plan to, but life just runs away with you both. BUT you think of each other often (you know your friend thinks of you because you think of them - that prob sounds silly but you just know it), and you know that if you needed to call them up in the middle of the night, they would be there for you, always.

Them there are the friends who you used to be close to but lives have just drifted apart, you've sent cards at Xmas and birthdays but apart from that thoughts of them are mainly memories, not about what they're doing now. It's unlikely you'd meet up just the two of you, more likely in a group for a wider social event. There's been no fall out and it's no ones fault, you've just become separated through the tides of life. If you had a crisis, they are unlikely to be the first person you call.

I have friends who fall into both, it sounds like Hotel Chocolat friend falls to the latter for you. X

Thanks Kerri - I think you're right. This friend used to be in the first category and I think we've both spent a while trying to convince ourselves that still worked, but it doesn't really any more. Time to just let it go.


Rosa xx

Knitting_Nora

*waits for Hotel Choc gift card to drop through the post box*
Jokes aside, I have such sympathy with this - I have a few friends that fall into Kerri's latter category and need to drop them a line and say I'm no longer buying gifts... As it is, my 'real' old friends and I are all talking about not buying gifts anymore, but using the time and money to meet up instead (we live all over the UK).


Hola Tinkerbelle! Like MT says, get yourself a diary Sweetie and we'll all pop over. We might even bring biscuits.


Nora. xx

RosaBernicia

This week's running away with me! :eek::rotfl:

Had a couple of great work meetings today, so I think agreeing the training I wanted can soon be crossed off my list and I'm quite excited about the new role. Then I went and got the references for my sky pie project and am VERY excited about that - lots to read, I might take some on holiday in case of rain as it doesn't feel like work to be reading that.

I have an outline plan for the holiday and have decided to stay at least one night on the way with relatives and another with friends, so that saves a bit of money. Please send all good vibes and confidence boosting you can re the lovely man, I will message him once I know what days I'm around and am trying to remind myself he [STRIKE]may[/STRIKE] will be pleased to hear from me. (This may all go nowhere anyhow if he's away, but at least I will have tried and I must not chicken out lol!)

Now realised that tomorrow I have my first private lesson for the new sport, I've suddenly got a possible social thing tomorrow night and a definite one Thursday, then I am meant to be dropping off the moggies on Friday morning but that's when the car is going for its MOT so may have to see if they mind it being a little later! And then I set off Friday night! And I should probably pack something!

:money: update: sky pie references were expensive and I've grabbed takeaway this evening as I got back late, but that can't be helped; fingers crossed MOT and service won't be too much. I will essentially be going back into debt for a month or so to cover the holiday, but it will be covered soon and then I'll also tackle the college fees. I'm not terribly bothered about those tbh, that's a sensible use of credit anyhow especially as it's on 0%. I've remembered there is no point food shopping and have now paid all my bills in advance of going away.


Rosa xx

Tinkerbelle2000

Thank you all so much for the warm welcome. I'll try and start a diary tomorrow. On an up side I have got an interview tomorrow so keeping everything crossed.

Tink xx

MuffinTops

Hello Rosa,

I'm so excited you've got the references for your dream project, albeit them being expensive. All good projects need some investment in research though so I hope it all works out that you get to read as much as you want to on your holiday.

I've already started the happy vibe thoughts for the man so that he is definitely pleased to hear from you. He may not show that in his message if he's not sure what you feel about him, but that won't mean he's not chuffed to bits to know you'll soon be within arm's reach!

Happy Private Sport First Lesson day! MTx

MuffinTops

Good luck with your interview Tinkerbelle MTx

RosaBernicia

Knitting_Nora wrote: »

*waits for Hotel Choc gift card to drop through the post box*
Jokes aside, I have such sympathy with this - I have a few friends that fall into Kerri's latter category and need to drop them a line and say I'm no longer buying gifts... As it is, my 'real' old friends and I are all talking about not buying gifts anymore, but using the time and money to meet up instead (we live all over the UK).

Nora. xx

I will confess I seriously considering sending a different card and 'rescuing' the gift voucher :rotfl: but have dutifully posted it.

That's the funny thing isn't it Nora - with close friends it all feels very different. I mostly don't buy them stuff because we said we wouldn't, or check what they want, or we agree to do something instead of buying stuff, or it just doesn't matter and I buy them things when I find things they'll like and it would never matter a **** whether something arrived in time for the day, because they wouldn't worry about whether I was thinking of them.

I already have a similar arrangement to what you're thinking of with a couple of 'real' friends and it works brilliantly, but it wasn't seized on with enthusiasm when I suggested it to this one. Think I'll just quietly stop buying stuff and refuse to feel guilty.


Rosa xx