What to do with School Issue?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

GingerBiscuit wrote: »

I'm another who personally can't understand why other parents are being so blas! about this kind of incident. Possibly the reason why minimoneysaver and I appear to be more concerned is that we presumably have both undergone child protection training.

I am a Beaver Scout Leader and have both boys and girls aged 6-8 in the colony. I understand why some people are saying that the school may have left her in the trousers to teach her the consequences of her actions, but this is inappropriate and not for the school to decide nonetheless. As a 6 year old, you daughter is likely to be less aware of her body than an older child and therefore not as embarrassed, but there is still a level of dignity which should be maintained. The right course of action for the school to take would have been to ask your daughter to wear her P.E shorts under her trousers, and to telephone you to advise of the situation, so that you could take a spare pair if convenient for you, but also so that you were aware of how the rip was caused without having to ask other parents. Any disciplinary action could then have been left to you.

I'm also concerned that not just one or two, but several teachers and supervisors must have noticed this throughout the day, and even those who might not have seen the incident in the morning, did not feel it necessary to ask your daughter to cover up. Aside the indignity of the situation, it is very cold at the moment, and a gaping hole in a pair of trousers is not advisable for anyone!

So have I.

It's not sexual humiliation. It's a kid with a rip in her trousers who was sitting at a table for the duration of a schoolday.

pelirocco

foxymum1977 wrote: »

at my primary school many moons ago we did PE in our knickers and vests!!
still i think your daughter should have been gived a spare pair of trousers to wear.

another one who did PE in knickers and vest , and it was only a few years before i went to secondary school that they had stopped doing that there too ! ( and we are talking the 70's not the 40's lol)

I dont think its a particulary big deal that she had to walk round like that if she didnt appeared bothered by it .

sunshinetours

LOL - hope OP has made her daughter learn a lesson or two from this. At 6 they are old enough to understand right from wrong when taught. Maybe a good time to introduce money saving lessons so she starts to appreciate things don't just "appear"

I do wonder how some people expect kids to actually learn how to do things for themselves if they are wrapped up so tight in cotton wool!

dizziblonde

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

So have I.

It's not sexual humiliation. It's a kid with a rip in her trousers who was sitting at a table for the duration of a schoolday.

And when it gets to the summer and it's handstand and cartwheel season - about 90% of the girls in the class will spend most playtimes upside down in varying degrees of effectiveness (ok, if they take after me - they'll kick their legs up and face plant onto the school field repeatedly - I never mastered cartwheels) with their skirts hanging somewhere around their ears/neck/head depending on how badly they've grown out of that year's school uniform by then.

I also incidentally never spent much of my working day when I taught staring at children's crotches - if I noticed an obvious case of hole enlargement going on while the kids were sat on the carpet I'd tell them to knock it off (usually little boys with holes in the knees of their trousers) and quit trying to make the hole any bigger or your parents will be upset - but unless the child was sat really near the front, or obviously furtling around picking at the hole - you're not likely to notice when they're sat at tables, or running around the classroom... heck on my final teaching practice I managed to pull off hiding the fact my trousers had completely split up the backside first thing on getting to school that morning with a jumper tied around my waist, and a spot of strategic positioning of myself going around the classroom for the day - with the head and my uni tutor observing me that day! And my backside is a heck of a sight more noticeable than any school childs! (And yes, the moment when I'd leant over to child height and heard the riiiiiip was one of those moments in life that DEFINITELY happened in slow motion)