What to do with School Issue?

eliviajen

Yesterday, my 6 year old daughter came home from school with her trousers torn; right across the knee and up the inside seam right to the crotch.

From questioning her, and asking a couple of her friends parents I gather that she had a hole appear in her knee and she was picking at it and then with some egging on from some other children has purposely ripped them. This was just after morning assembly so at approx 9.45

I cant believe that my daughter has been allowed to wander the school, yard, ajoining public gym (it was PE day), and lunch hall with a HUGE tear in her trousers and her underwear on show!!

Apparently the teacher didnt seem to care, and no other staff that she encountered that day suggested she should get changed. The Childminder picked her up from school, but there was no teacher around that she could ask for more info - But she did change her pants when she got home

Im in two minds about what to do, Im not one for complaining although I am totallyt appalled at the whole situation - could no-one have found her a pair of trousers or even let her leave her PE shorts on???? If she had wet herself would she have been left in it all day?

I do understand that my daugher brought the whole situation upon herself but she is 6 and normally exceptionally well behaved, I do believe that when my children are at school that they be cared be for as I would do at home

The couple of other parents I have spoken to dont seem to see a problem and I was just wondering if I am over-reacting or whether it was just because it was me with the problem and not them (there latest up in arms rant is over how Library book change day was on a different day this week and how there cherubs didnt get to change theres..)

Thanks for the points of view in advance! x

Alikay

My personal view (and that's all it is - my own opinion ) is that it was not a huge deal. Your DD wasn't wet, ill, cold, hungry or upset. It's a pair of trousers with a big hole in, that's all. Worse things happen at sea.

go_cat

I don't see the issue myself but if you are bothered why not speak to her teacher.

Unless of course she is being bullied in which case I would book in with the head teacher

Itsgottabedone

It's possible that school staff were aware that she deliberately damaged her trousers and thought that she would learn the consequences of her actions if she wasn't offered an immediate solution to the problem. (I'd agree with them.)

thehappybutterfly

It's a nuisance but to be expected. You've got to remember that Primary school is a lot different from nursery - the teachers are too busy to 'mother' the kids.

Trust me, you'll see a lot worse than that in the coming years. Wait until she comes home with someone else's uniform. It happened all the time at my kids' school. Really ticked me off as I looked after their uniforms and their stuff always got exchanged for some other pupil's clearly-hand-me-down stuff. Can't blame the school though.

jazzypinkpuppet

I have a daughter and a son and I wouldn't really find it a problem. But like the poster above said, if you are worried talk to the teacher on Monday it will put your mind at rest:)

belfastgirl23

I would file under 'not a big deal' too

eliviajen

Thanks for the persective guys! Its probally because this is the first thing Ive ever had to dilemma over with Her - I wont mention it again, It was her own fault, I didnt care over the trousers - only her dignity and I'm worried by how easily swayed she was to do it by being egged on by others!!

minimoneysaver

As someone who works in a primary school, I would have either asked her to change into her sports shorts, or given her a spare pair of trousers with a request that they are returned washed as soon as possible. I find it strange that so many parents don't seem to mind. As a mother and special needs teacher, I wouldn't want any child to be walking round in trousers with a huge hole in them.

minimoneysaver

As another poster pointed out, we aren't nursery care workers, but we do care about the children in our care.

balletshoes

I don't think its a big deal.