Problem neighbour over my trees

anggrrr

Lokolo wrote: »

I would write to him with the following words

Hi,

I had originally booked in the garage removers and tree surgeons on X date. However because of your constant rudeness I have decided to cancel this until I recieve a full apology from yourself.

Kind Regards,

Y

-- However it could make things worse, but thats what I would do.

One friend suggested I write and thank him for the lovely bag of seeds, which I have now planted around the borders of my garden.

Southend1

bubblegum1985 wrote: »

I would ignore the letter completely.

But I would pop a note into the neighbours letterboxes who do get the seeds (or whatever in their garden) and tell them that on Y date a tree surgeon is coming so applogies if there is any noise etc. Possibly also mention that they might notice more mess in their gardens the following day but you will do you best to make sure the mess from them coming down is contained in your garden and cleaned up appropriately.

That way come off as a nice neighbour and ignore the petty squabbles, not worth it in the long run.

I think this is a great idea!

Mojisola

anggrrr wrote: »

One friend suggested I write and thank him for the lovely bag of seeds, which I have now planted around the borders of my garden.

That's very good.:rotfl: Humour usually reduces a problem. Laugh at his antics rather than get upset about them.

Don't do it, though!

anggrrr

Mojisola wrote: »

The police wouldn't be interested. Don't threaten something that you can't follow through.

If he moves on to something else, tackle it when it happens. Don't worry about it now.

I know, I live by myself and the thought of someone coming to my letterbox under cover of darkness gives me the creeps. I just hope that it is just the trees.

He's also the delightful person who passed on the day I got the keys to tell me the unsavoury gossip about the previous occupants. He does have issues.

Mojisola

anggrrr wrote: »

He's also the delightful person who passed on the day I got the keys to tell me the unsavoury gossip about the previous occupants. He does have issues.

Now that doesn't sound good. He obviously has too much time on his hands. He's probably worn out his welcome with all the other neighbours and so is starting on the new kid on the block.

I would suggest trying to be polite but keep your distance. Don't get drawn into his issues by reacting to him.

chris_m

anggrrr wrote: »

One friend suggested I write and thank him for the lovely bag of seeds, which I have now planted around the borders of my garden.

Dear neighbour, thank you for the lovely bag of seeds, which I have planted around the borders of your garden for you whilst delivering this letter.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

princeofpounds

I would speak to him and use it as an opportunity both to allay his fears but also assert that his behaviour is not the right way to deal with things. This is important because if he things low-level hassle like this gets him results then he may use it again in the future.

I would make the following points:

- You remember the conversation you had earlier, and underline that you have already told them once the trees will be removed.
- The garage has to be removed before the trees, and removing the garage quickly has been an issue because it is asbestos.
- That you are open to normal discussion over any issues, and posting bags of seeds is not necessary to get your attention on the matter. The tree surgeon is already booked and this does not help to accelerate anything.
- That you understand there has probably been many years of frustration over the issue, but that should not affect the way you receive communications as a new owner.

And I would not be too 'on my high horse' about it unless his attitude is bad on speaking to him.

Freecall

chris_m wrote: »

Dear neighbour, thank you for the lovely bag of seeds, which I have planted around the borders of your garden for you whilst delivering this letter.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Maybe not the most helpful suggestion but brilliant nevertheless.

grifferz

I agree with princeofpounds that you need to speak to the neighbour on this matter, rather than just ignore it. If you ignore it the danger is that he will see that your trees eventually do get removed (as you planned) and assume that this only happened because of his behaviour. He'll then feel justified in carrying on this sort of thing with yo and others in future.

So I think that you do need to firmly but politely make it clear to him that you have always said you intend to remove the trees, and will do so as and when you can, and that you don't expect to hear from him about it again in future. Perhaps show him the evidence of the tree surgeon etc you have contracted to show that these aren't just words.

I wouldn't do anything to escalate the situation or wind him up in any way unless I had to, as neighbour disputes are a massive pain that is not worth any possible entertainment you could get!

Ivana_Tinkle

You won't achieve anything by having a conversation with him. I do understand the urge to smooth things over (and to not let him think he's "won"!) but you can't control what he thinks - he's already proved that he doesn't take in what you tell him and is determined to feel aggrieved, so you're not going to change his personality with a conversation or a note through his door.