Newbie with help needed

asparagus1968

Sorry you are going through a rough time of it. IT WILL GET BETTER.

you have made a fantastic start to sorting this out, and are obviously taking this all very seriously, which I'm sure your partner will notice, even if she doen't say anything.

Try not to spend too much time alone, even popping to a mates for a quick brew, or a walk round the area where you live.

good luck,you are doing great, keep posting and knowing there is a lot of people on here by your side.

Happydadof3

To be honest not alot anyone can say to make it better for you, but I've just read your diary from the front, to back and you have done really well coping and improving your situation.

I'm subscribing to your journey with you and hope and you're family are back together soon

Stiffler_2

Thanks for the posative comments I do feel a weight has been lifted with coming clean to it all and finally getting things sorted its just the family thing really but aslong as I can show my ex that I'm on top of things. Everything is now signed and sent off so from the 15th it will be budget time.

girlatplay

Try not to force the family issue. She has had a bit of a shock. She needs time to calm down. Just give her a chance to have a break and sort things out in her own head. In the meantime, keep going with what everyone else is suggesting.

Stiffler_2

Yeah I'm not forcing anything just letting her know how I feel I just need to keep posative and pro-active about everything. It's not just about the money side we have not got on so well the previous couple of years so maybe this will be the rocket up the bum we both need. I'm going to paint the kitchen and totally spring clean the house just to keep going.

laurel48

Keeping busy and trying to stay positive is a good way forward, just sitting there gives plenty of time to brood over things that you can't do a lot about at the moment anyway as you have done all you can to put things in place to get out of the situation.

From my own personal experience sometimes all it takes is one thing that may or may not seem important at the time to want to step back from the situation and think about where the relationship is going. I know it is hard on you as it is just a waiting game to see what is going to happen but I think it may be a good time for you as well to see where you want your future to go.

Keeping in touch with friends and family is really important even if it is just popping round for a cup of tea and a chat, it's is surprising how much support they can give. I know I relied heavily on mine when I first relocated on my own.

Hoping all goes well for you.

girlatplay

Stiffler wrote: »

Yeah I'm not forcing anything just letting her know how I feel I just need to keep posative and pro-active about everything. It's not just about the money side we have not got on so well the previous couple of years so maybe this will be the rocket up the bum we both need. I'm going to paint the kitchen and totally spring clean the house just to keep going.

I'm sorry if I caused you offence with my comment, I didn't mean to. I didn't mean you were forcing her, I just meant relax a bit with it. Funny how the written word doesn't always come across how people mean Just be as calm as you can with everything :cool:

Stiffler_2

Haha no I never took any offence in your post. Reading my reply does sound like I'm snapping but honestly I wasn't. Sorry about that haha!

girlatplay

No worries. It didn't sound like you were snapping, it sounded like you were defending yourself and I didn't mean to make you feel defensive. At least we are all straight now

Stiffler_2

Well ill keep this updated as things progress. I've just finished a mammoth clean of the house and I'm planning on painting the kitchen I would do it now but I've got my daughter but I'd rather spend time with her. Spoke to the ex yesterday and she said she might stop over tonight she was thinking about it which was nice to hear (fingers crossed). So yeah that's a small update but making progress slowly.