moving in together or not as the case maybe.

beaconhead

Gentile wrote: »

Is there some kind of secret underground network of mums who are being given these ideas ?

Its staggering that you think you can fiddle around the system, pretend to live apart on paper and put in doors in between houses so you both can have sex whenever you feel like it. Why should the tax payer pick up your tab ? Tell your BF to sell the house, bank the money, rent a place that is sufficient for you and try and get a better paying job and pay for the family. Stop popping out kids that you both cannot afford and start living a frugal life style because that is what the majority of tax payers are doing currently.

Oh for goodness sake, when I had my children I was married how was I supposed to know he would leave, maybe divorce should be banned then to stop people needing to rely on the system for a while. My boyfriend cant sell the house it is in negative equity and half belongs to his ex-wife, so there is no chance of selling or being able to afford a place to accommodate both mine and his children, or perhaps you would suggest he doesn't have his children for half the week in that way we can afford a smaller place. As for getting a better paid job are you serious, actually that's a good idea then I can put my kids in childcare and claim childcare fees which the tax payer would be paying for, which by my reconning would cost a hell of a lot more than me remaining on my own and getting WTC.

beaconhead

FBaby wrote: »

You want your cake and it it, the flexibility and luxury of starting a new business and living with your partner, but without him having to support you.
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I am not planning on starting a new business I have been self employed for 15 years. My ex husband always earn t more than me so we could afford to have children and not claim a penny in benefits. Like I said I have never claimed JSA or IS in the past and have always worked. Unfortunately my new partner can not afford to support my children as well as his own although I have just discovered he will pay less maintenance to his ex if he is supporting me and mine which should help.

FBaby

you've been self-employed for 15 years, yet rely on WTC to survive? How do you manage to run a proper business if you are also looking after your children whilst doing it?

What would you do if it wasn't for WTC? You would accept that your days of self-employment are over and it was time to go and get a job that actually brings in a salary. Yes, you would put your kids in childcare, but whereas childcare doesn't last forever, it would seem you might be expecting to be reliant on benefits for a lot longer if after 15 years your business is still not allowing you to be support yourself.

Maybe then, you would be able to afford to move with your partner, or if not yet, you would be able to at least plan it, knowing that working full-time, maybe even getting promoted in the meantime, with your children in school, you would definitely be able to afford to move in with your partner with both of you supporting all your children without being reliant on benefits.

sunnyone

Their would be planning regs. implications if he reinstated the property into one residence and adding an internal door between both halves of the house is reinstating the property into one residence so you would be LTAMAW for benefit puposes.

beaconhead

FBaby wrote: »

you've been self-employed for 15 years, yet rely on WTC to survive? How do you manage to run a proper business if you are also looking after your children whilst doing it?
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Because I had a husband who earn t more allowing me to raise my own children and not rely on others, I've only been relying on TC for the last 8 months. Getting a new job and putting my children and my partners in childcare is not that easy.

FBaby

Of course it is not easy, and I certainly never intended to convey that it was, but this is what you should aspire to do rather than thinking how you can continue to claim as a single parent and yet enjoy the benefit of being an official couple.

If it's only been 8 months since your husband left, then surely it is even more important that you try to gain a proper income from employement before moving with someone who I assume you've only been going out for less than a year?