MOOLOO'S Muddling on into 2013

Savvy_sewing

think that may be true for a relationship but she will always be my daughter no matter what.
But how I deal with her actions are the worrying part. I believe she has also run up a bartab, mostly cigarettes, from the corner pub. the landlady told me that she is used by family from hell as a skivvy to get this or that and taking her money, she believes the tab was their stuff and has put an end to it but the bill is still there and must be paid back.

thorsoak

Mooloo wrote: »

think that may be true for a relationship but she will always be my daughter no matter what.
But how I deal with her actions are the worrying part. I believe she has also run up a bartab, mostly cigarettes, from the corner pub. the landlady told me that she is used by family from hell as a skivvy to get this or that and taking her money, she believes the tab was their stuff and has put an end to it but the bill is still there and must be paid back.

But NOT by you, Mooloo!! Maybe the landlady could talk to the police about this ........might be the best thing

Errata

Haven't the police been involved with her? Isn't it time that those abusing, bullying and manipulating her because she has learning difficulties were brought to account?
I appreciate you can't help out with her finances or with her housing, but to be honest in your shoes I'd be hammering on the door of the police station demanding they pay attention to the abuse and do something to stop it before it gets any worse.
Sorry to be so blunt, but her situation needs to be dealt with by those with the authority to deal with it.

Savvy_sewing

I have been in meetings with the community support officer assigned to the girls but he seems to be severely hand tied and both the housing officer and the carers were as frustrated as I am. But perhaps I will make another round of calls tomorrow. If she doesn't want to believe me, or anyone else then I am not sure what can be done legally.

Errata

Escalate it to a police constable. PCSO's can only do so much as they're support officers, not police constables IYSWIM.

Wyre

Hi Mooloo,

I've been reading and your other threads this for some time and am so in awe of everything have done. You are an amazing person!

Regarding twin 2, isn't what is happening with the other family financial abuse? I don't know what part of the country you are in but just for example this link
http://www.worcestershire.gov.uk/cms/safeguarding-adults/financial-abuse-campaign.aspx
mentions those with mental health and learning difficulties not just the elderly.

If it's like some of the agencies I have had to deal with unless you mutter the right key words, even if it seems obvious, nothing will done.

Keep strong, you are so amazing and I wish I could just come and lend you a hand!

grandma247

Mooloo the others are right. The police can do something. A few years ago my BIL was financially and physically abused by a young man for almost a year till he finally broke down and told his landlord who was also a friend. He called the police who sorted it out and he still gets occasional visits from them to make sure he is ok. He is a pensioner with learning difficulties so is doubly vulnerable.

Savvy_sewing

thanks. I think the underlying issue is that Twin 2 is saying that she is happy with these people. She thinks they are her only friends and if i say anything to her about them she goes off on one, and all the family have tried to talk to her but she is in denial really. But i will call the police and the carers tomorrow and again put my fears to them.
I have tried to put a bag of mine up on Ebay and one or two on my facebook but that only gets seen by family and friends. I will need to cross it onto the other facebook page in Moo Loo name but have problems logging on to it from my iphone.
Will just have to try a different way later. Im tired as had a really interrupted night last night with DGD messing me about.
Two more weeks ahead, eek. Hope we get better weather so we can go outside more. today is as bleak as i feel at the moment.

Errata

thanks. I think the underlying issue is that Twin 2 is saying that she is happy with these people. She thinks they are her only friends and if i say anything to her about them she goes off on one,

Could it be because she has LD she doesn't 'get' how friends should behave towards each other?

Savvy_sewing

Mooloo wrote: »

It is frightening.
I feel useless.
twin1 has turned her back on her sister and neither biggest or DS are willing to help her just now. So she is really. on her own without her care package. this will result in her forgetting appointments and in turn her benefits will then stop. The house is going to be repossessed and she will be on the street. its,already in proceedings and I cannot do anything to stop it.

Errata wrote: »

Could it be because she has LD she doesn't 'get' how friends should behave towards each other?

Exactly.
The police have told me they cannot do anything unless Twin2 asks them. Spoke to them today again.
Spoke to the social worker and asked for another safeguarding issue to be raised. She said it would only come back to her anyway. I said that if its not done I will ring her boss everyday until it is done. Quoted some of the Safeguarding act that I got off of that weblink from Worcester.
I am sure the collective on here know more than she does!
The housing are refusing to help her until her arrears are paid, which will never happen, as. the new Bedroom tax will just add to it now.
Despite asking the DwP. to take some out of her benefits before paying them to her, they have not yet done that. All my time sems to be wasted as I go around in circles all the time.
I am flabbergasted at the way our world is these days.
I am stressed and my arm is reacting to it.Had to go for a rest when had help earlier, despite I have a sofa cover to finish. Am on the last few panels but its very time consuming. I shouldn't give myself such tasks!
Talked to the landlady of the pub and she is going to be having a market in her car park when/if the weather picks up, she thinks some of my makes would sell. So all the more reason for me to get my arm sorted, the sofa finished, and the sewing under way.
I am hoping to actually go and get my hair done tomorrow,my arm wont stay uplong enough for me to do it at the moment.
I watched the Sewing Bee on BBC 2 last night. Reconised the man with the long hair as a customer from my old pub! 8 years on and he doesn't look a day older! How unfair.:rotfl: