Hoarding - A New Start

lostinrates

RAS wrote: »

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Do you have a refugee support group anywhere nearby? They could probably use the whole lot (just keep one bottle of tabasco)?

Oh, I don't know! Thanks, I will find out. I was wondering if the t shirts might be could for a women's refuge too? They are bright and clean and easy to wash and unisex....so might be useful ? Or is that wishful thinking? I don't know.....anyone know whether they would be good for either refugees or women's refuge (the t shirts.....I think tobasco to women's refuge might be less than useful!)

Molly41

suzitiger wrote: »

Ohhhhhhhhhh...is THIS why I am so disorganised? I am dyslexic and sometimes when I am sat by the computer and write notes down on a bit of paper it is CHAOTIC, only I can decipher it. When people see that piece of paper I tell them that THAT is what it is like inside my brain!! :rotfl:
And this is also what the rest of my house looks like, if you have strategies you can tell me I would gratefully receive them

Hi x
We were told by a educational psychologist that dyslexia presents in many ways, including an inability to organise your environment. In fact when I was a Midwife (retired now because of ill health) I once visited a postnatal woman who I had got to know antenatally.I walked into her house and knew instantly that this lady had dyslexia - her house looked like a bomb had hit it - but in a very particular way - like my DD's bedroom. I spent a long time at the visit as her baby needed help feeding and she was telling me about her experience of uni and how it was there that she was finally diagnosed with dyslexia.

Anyhow things we try with my DD (who is now 20 btw):
Keep important papers in a drawer and put things away straight away when the postman brings things.
To have things of a similar usage kept together so when she comes in she puts her bus pass and keys in a bowl by her bed. She also keeps her makeup together and has a basket for college stuff.
She loses her bankcard and mobile on a regular basis and now has a bag to put things in. When out we encourage her to loop her arm through her bag as she has an inclination to leave them on the bus. At home she has a peg to hang things on as she comes in.
Work (she works pt as a supervisor) have given her a clip on key fob as she often puts the keys down and forgets where:eek:
She has a wash basket at the end of her bed and again encouraged to put dirty stuff in and pair socks up as she is notorious for losing odd ones - note encouraged does not equate to doing.

However her motivation is another thing - all her cds and dvds/ games and art stuff are catalogued and tidy so it depends on how much she likes doing something :eek:

I dread to think how she will be with a baby of her own but she does always seem to know where things are in her bedroom so hopefully it will be the same for her in her own home x

RAS

lostinrates wrote: »

Oh, I don't know! Thanks, I will find out. I was wondering if the t shirts might be could for a women's refuge too? They are bright and clean and easy to wash and unisex....so might be useful ? Or is that wishful thinking? I don't know.....anyone know whether they would be good for either refugees or women's refuge (the t shirts.....I think tobasco to women's refuge might be less than useful!)

I think either would probably be very grateful for the t-shirts. You never know about the tabasco!

RAS

Patchwork_Quilt wrote: »

I got dolls and a doll's house but I was lucky enough to have two brothers, so I could share in their Lego. Parents also often buy things they would have liked themselves as a child. Did your Mum feel deprived of dolls when she was little? Lastly, they sometimes buy something that they would like to be seen buying, so that the presents please the neighbours.

I think I got dolls because there were two girls very close in age and my sister very much like dolls. Given that we always got the same thing in different styles or colours, I think they did not realise most of the time. I really could not be bothered, although I liked making dolls clothes. Mind you when I asked for a proper dictionary as a 7 year old, they did get me one of those as well after some questioning as to whether I really wanted a "proper one".

sjprmc01

Oh I think I'm usually quite good with the present thing I don't generally presume the kids will like certain things and get them what they like even if it is considered a boy toy (well I don't just buy them 'what they like' but you know what I mean)

Goldiegirl

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

I've taken up the hobby of watching movies at the cinema. It's still cheaper than buying a DVD, the sound is better and if I really wanted it badly enough, I can download it to see at home.

I watched The Hobbit this evening. I had the entire cinema to myself. That's something a plastic case with a yellow sticker on in the supermarket can't provide.

I love going to the cinema.

I hardly ever buy DVD's now. When I began all my decluttering, I realised that when I buy a DVD, I watch it once and then never look at it again.

So now we either go to the cinema for films that we really want to see, or otherwise record it when it comes on to Sky.

I've sold off many DVD's that I had, and will be selling more. I didn't buy a single DVD last year, as I now only buy DVD's of films that I love. I'll buy Les Mis, but that will probably be the only DVD I get this year.

Molly41

Some of the posts about childhood resonate with me very strongly. Absolutely I know that the lack of fashionable clothes and the odd one out look that my parents inflicted on me has made me hoard my clothes. I also have to make a very special effort to wear all my clothes and not save stuff for best.

I have made sure that I am the complete opposite with my kids and perhaps have gone too far the other way as I strongly encourage my kids to dress in the manner they want and not choose their clothes for them. Also toys and lego - they had loads but mostly it was well played with and I have got rid of most and only kept their wooden train track, lego and dolls house. I have kept my childhood books because I used to devour them but did not have many.

My parents are hoarders:eek::eek::eek:

sjprmc01

We put OHs mum/dad off the idea of magnolia-fying the girls room before the bunks arrive

6yr old middle dd has exclaimed she wants black walls!!!!!!!!!

Molly41

My son has a black feature wall and it looks really effective!

katep23

6 year old goth, lol!
Well second chap came and took everything we offered on Freecycle and a load more stuff, it's for his brother who has fallen on hard times and has taken up tinkering with computers.

Not sure if he will be selling them on or just playing with them to get experience and don't really care - the guy phoned when he said he would and turned up (when he said he would but - more to the point - he turned up!)

Boss was a bit of **** today, guilted us all into going into the office, then the decision was made to shut the site at midday and it took me an hour and 3/4 to get home (20 miles). What was the point when we all have laptops and could have worked from home (and did when we got home)?! I would have got more done!

Honestly, he is the reason I am leaving and it just confirms my decision to resign.

Starting to gradually tackle the larder of doom - I have bags of food I have collected to donate to a food bank but they make it so hard round here (not open at weekends except Sunday mornings, my one lazy day, don't have contact details etc).

If I make it to my sister's next weekend I am taking it all down and she is going to take it to her local food bank as she can get there during the week. That will make a massive difference to the state of the larder.

Binned some crushed ginger biscuit mix (bought for a specific recipe some years back then never used) which was dated 2009 and a few other bits, donated a few tins of things we can't have on the food plan we are doing etc. It's going to take time but we will get there.