Hoarding - A New Start

Goldiegirl

blossomhill wrote: »

JazzyJ - welcome! Rough dividing line between hoarding & clutter is

• hoarding = stuff to which you have attached an unusual significance (which others probably wouldn't understand if you explained it or why it has a hold over you)
• clutter = rubbish you haven't got round to disposing, too much everyday essentials in too small a space, general disorganised housekeeping, slovenliness, too busy-ness, stuff passing through (eg groceries you've not yet put away)

Many of us straddle the line, and it's a happy day when we realise we have slipped from hoarding into cluttering, as decluttering usually has a simpler non-emoptional solution

That sums it up very well.

The de-cluttering is actually pleasurable, but the dealing with hoarded things needs thought, pondering and maybe a bit of pain.

JazzyJ Photographs fall into the hoarding category for me, rather than de-cluttering.

One of the tasks that I will be dealing with this year is looking at all my photos and also my late parents photos.

I think I might be able to get rid of some of the more boring 'views' There's only a certain amout of blue sky and green cliff top that is needed.

Photos of people are a different matter - I couldn't throw away a person!

Family photos will be kept, and pictures of friends over the years. However, in my parents collection of photos are people I don't know, they are not my memories. I've discovered there's a market for old photos on eBay, so I'll have a bash at selling them on the Bay. I'm always happier to let things go when I think someone else will get pleasure from the item.

MrsAtobe

This_Year wrote: »

Went to sort out my shoes and my phone rang - I've got an interview tomorrow with an agency Am nervous now.

Good luck for tomorrow, although I'm sure you don't need it. Umm, any chance of using that nervous energy to sort a few more things out?

blossomhill_2

Goldiegirl wrote: »

JazzyJ Photographs fall into the hoarding category for me, rather than de-cluttering.

One of the tasks that I will be dealing with this year is looking at all my photos and also my late parents photos.

I think I might be able to get rid of some of the more boring 'views' There's only a certain amout of blue sky and green cliff top that is needed.

Photos of people are a different matter - I couldn't throw away a person!

Probably not - but could you do their memory justice (if they are no longer around) by making sure the photo(s) that you keep of them are flattering and what they would probably choose themselves? I've whittled some people down to one formal, one formal with spouse, one laughing (even if out of focus) one in their natural setting (eg by their front door, in their garden, on the beach etc) and one that just sums them up

Family I keep loads but get rid of the non-flattering

If you come across any of Chelsea Flower Show over the years, RHS would like to see them for the centenary

This_Year

MrsAtobe wrote: »

Good luck for tomorrow, although I'm sure you don't need it. Umm, any chance of using that nervous energy to sort a few more things out?

Thank you

Shoes done. I think I should open a shoe shop. :rotfl:
Did I really need 4 pairs of boots for work? I should learn to do one pair out and one pair in in future. And that's not even counting the sparkly sandals. When I go on holiday I usually slop around in fitflops or trainers.

whitewing

Photos, furniture, letters, etc are not people. They remind you of people. Keep what you enjoy and move on the rest. I have to say that my MIL has mainly unflattering photos of me on her facebook account. I really resent that she has any photos of me readily accessible to her numerous (hundreds of) acquaintances. Can't even go for tea at hers without ending up on facebook. I could get DH to request that she removes them but that just makes a big thing of it. That's what I resent more than anything, that I don't even get asked. You wouldn't hand a printed photo album over to someone you were casually acquainted with, or someone you worked with, and say, 'Here is everyone I know - have a good old look through whenever you like.'

I have another sub-definition of hoarding today: delayed housework.

My only progress today is that DH and I went to recycling. This is allowed to be claimed as progress on the hoarding thread due to the above sub-definition, lol.

tattycath

I've now got 34 listings up.

MrsAtobe

Well done Tattycath! Not much to report here, only one dressing table drawer de-richarded. It yielded a small bin lner of rubbish, though, but I did have a wobble about a birthday card from my neice, so it got retrieved from the bag . I guess I'm not ready to deal with family cards yet.

decogecko

Hi all

5 items went on freecycle today - 3 have gone already :j

I recently got rid of some photos but kept the best ones. When OH died I lamented the fact there wasn't many photos of us as a couple but TBH I'm pleased there is only a couple, I have the memories (good & bad) I keep the photos in a memory box. Quality not quantity!

I keep thinking I'm almost finished dericharding but then I remember about the shed :eek::eek: :rotfl:

Deco x

lostinrates

Just continuing my candle editing and found one that has morphed from smelling spicy and woody to smelling just like scrambled eggs! No need to ask...it's dericharded. That's wax even I will not be reusing!
I have four candles out in my bedroom. Two are rarely lit, Unscented and can stay a while. two are scented and near the bottom. They will both be finished this week. I unwrapped one to use in there, and it's delicious but quite 'lively' smelling, so think I might have to use elsewhere in the house.

I love using candles but hate it when they finish. This often means I hang on to the last dregs and end up with candle Richard, in a house where we use candles very often and practically. As part of my 'new lifestyle' I want to change this and relish the last of the candle and the enjoyment of new ones not to ring the changes or to save the old dregs of an old one, but rather because the old ones are finished.

Pitlanepiglet

blossomhill wrote: »

Rough dividing line between hoarding & clutter is

• hoarding = stuff to which you have attached an unusual significance (which others probably wouldn't understand if you explained it or why it has a hold over you)
• clutter = rubbish you haven't got round to disposing, too much everyday essentials in too small a space, general disorganised housekeeping, slovenliness, too busy-ness, stuff passing through (eg groceries you've not yet put away)

Many of us straddle the line, and it's a happy day when we realise we have slipped from hoarding into cluttering, as decluttering usually has a simpler non-emoptional solution

I also find that clutter is a result of hoarding - I've got so much old stuff hoarded away that I have no where to keep current stuff so it ends up on the floor and stashed in corners where it then becomes clutter.

If I can get rid of the hoarded stuff then, coupled with the fact that I've changed my approach to buying things over the last few years I may actually be able to create some order for the first time in years...