Am I right to be annoyed.

Hazel_

Thanks for the great ideas. My boyfriend has brought sweets round, so they will be hyper.

I do feel sorry for my neices though. Its not fair on them

*max*

Wow....you must have the patience of a saint! I would probably have had them if I wasn't doing anything special...but to be just told, not asked, and at the last minute on new year's eve...I can tell you, there would have been some choice words!

I agree with the suggestion of dropping them off early (8am?), serves your sister right!

marywooyeah

Yes, youre right to be annoyed she clearly thinks she can walk all over you and it shows no regard for her own kids either, id definetly bill her for the food but for the whole lot. Becsuse you "had to change uour plans for the kids" you couldnt go out for dinner so had toget takeaway instead so she should compensate you for it. She sounds like a right cow!

lostinrates

What about your boyfriend is he annoyed? My husband would be if a planned quiet night together was cancelled with no notice and no discussion of him for something that was not an emergency.

I fear in trying o help your neices and sister and just accepting this then you risk your bf feeling undervalued and taken for granted.

I too, love babysitting, but unless an emergency these are planned occasions and if my sister had turned up tonight while I am having a quiet night with my husband I would have explained we had other plans, whoch she really would not want her children to be in the house during.

Ich_2

Apparently the new guy in her life wants to go somewhere and celebrate.

Though it seems the sister may be under pressure from her new BF, doesn't excuse her behaviour but possibly explains it.

Hazel_

You think she'll pay it? I think she'll say she needs the money for electricty or gas or more than likely booze. She will say that my plans wern't important (and she has said my boyfriend and I won't last long as he aint treating me right)

I don't think she will be home at 8am more like 8pm!!

Hazel_

lostinrates wrote: »

What about your boyfriend is he annoyed? My husband would be if a planned quiet night together was cancelled with no notice and no discussion of him for something that was not an emergency.

I fear in trying o help your neices and sister and just accepting this then you risk your bf feeling undervalued and taken for granted.

I too, love babysitting, but unless an emergency these are planned occasions and if my sister had turned up tonight while I am having a quiet night with my husband I would have explained we had other plans, whoch she really would not want her children to be in the house during.

He is annoyed but understands that I had to take them in. I'll be getting my neices into bed soon so we can settle down for the evening.

lr1277

You mentioned a younger sister. Is it possible she has given your older sister some kind of ultimatum?
Speak to your younger sister and find out the situation for this time.

Then I suspect both you and your younger sister sit down your older sister and have a talk with her.

Or you could go with the owing your a favour route.

pinkshoes

I can't believe you said yes! She clearly thinks you're a door mat and push over!

I would get yourselves a VERY expensive Chinese, pudding, chocolates, champagne etc... then make her pay the bill, and if she refuses, threaten to call social services for dumping her children.

Oh, and don't forget to drop them off at 8am, invite yourself in, and suggest playing noisy games with the kids!

Hazel_

So I called my sister (Youngest). She refused to take them as she had plans with her partner and my other sister was annoyed and brought them round to us.

We got chinese (and I got chocolate cake from elsewhere) but I don't think she will pay the bill saying she needs to use the money on the gas/electric meters or a bottle of vodka.

As for her owing me one, I'd never get it repaid. You don't think my boyfriend will be mad at me do you.