Not 'doing' Santa - part two

dizziblonde

mrbrightside842 wrote: »

Seems tight to me!

Also, if she goes to school with 29 other children whose parents want them to believe in Santa, the teachers will play along to those 29 kids and say 'of course Santa is real' when she announces that he isn't. The teachers won't announce that she's right to the others.

I always approached the minefield that is the resident Santa-smart-@rse issue in classes by looking confuddled and just replying "well I believe in him" and changing the subject - was never my place as the class teacher to break the belief really.

shegirl

Abbymoo wrote: »

I'm...no Father Christmas...coz he's a lie...but...magic dust...isn't a lie...um...I must've had too much Baileys. This is not makeh de sehnse...
If I have nippers I'll be doing FC, magic, the lot. Even got instructions on how to do glitter bootprints on the carpet saved in my bookmarks and am planning on getting a house with a proper chimney for the fella to come down, just to save awkward questions about how he can get in through an air vent.

Santa comes through our front door with a magic key we leave out (our chimney isn't big enough). On his way,him and dear Rudolph leave snowy foot prints in the magic snow you can buy.It' s awesome stuff and just as slippery as snow,as I discovered:rotfl:

Soubrette

It sounds like you and your daughter had a lovely christmas and started a tradition that suits you. It wouldn't suit me personally but so what, only my christmas is about me - yours should be about you and your family.

On the other thread I noted that one of the disadvantages of not doing the father christmas thing is that other people will condemn you for it (while expecting you to be respectful of their traditions), I think this thread pretty much backs that up.

One of my daughters was very keen to tell the world and his dog that there was no father christmas but we had discussions about respecting the beliefs of others even if we don't share them and that worked fine. It helped that we discussed him as a story character and how he does exist in people's minds, if not in body.

If you don't want to do the father christmas thing you have to get a thick skin and never feel you have to justify your decision.

My two girls have turned out fine - you'd never think I'd stolen the magic of christmas from them in fact we've had a pretty magical christmas with just the three of us this year

Ms_Chocaholic

There's some odd folk in this world.

Why if OP's child thought the presents were from mummy and daddy, why the magic, the magic dust and why the "SANTA" sack, I'm dumfounded.

lushlifesaver

I'm 22 and my bf is 27 and we still partake in the magic of Christmas - both for ourselves and his nephew (3) and newborn niece. Just because we know Father Christmas doesn't come crashing down the chimney etc doesn't mean he doesn't exist! We gave presents from us but for all of us here Father Christmas is the spirit if the season. The joy behind giving and receiving and all the festive activities that happen just once a year!

When we have a child we will continue to encourage the belief in him and all those other seasonal characters - something we have already discussed.

He even popped by whilst we slept to drop off an extra couple of surprises for each of us to go with those we'd placed under the tree earlier in the month. Next year this is something I will look to making a tradition - with a gift for us as a couple beneath the tree wrapped in a secret third paper which I will put out once he is fast asleep

shegirl

Anyway,thanks op for making us ' liars' feel even better for doing Santa for our kids. You really have given us the upper hand!

Magic dust and a me me me poem vs a lovely story,based on history, that not only has magic and shows selfless giving our kids are taught to show their appreciation for this magical entity and his work by leaving out a mince pie/cookie,a carrot,a drink and often a letter.:p


Magic magic,one two three, whisk this thread away from me:rotfl:

Torry_Quine

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

There's some odd folk in this world.

Why if OP's child thought the presents were from mummy and daddy, why the magic, the magic dust and why the "SANTA" sack, I'm dumfounded.

Me too.

If she doesn't want to do Santa then that's fine but to then go on to have what sounds very similar right down to magic dust and santa sack seems plainly ridiculous.

consultant31

You have a very 'forward' 3½ year old if she understands that 'magic' isn't real!

Father Christmas/Santa, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy are all part of the magic of childhood. I agree with all those who have said that there's something wrong with a parent who wants to take that away from their child.

This stage of childhood doesn't last long and children deserve to have all that excitement in their lives.

All our three grown-up children, along with our only grandchild spent Christmas day with us and the thrill of watching the little one (aged 4) open his presents, shrieking with excitement all the while, was well worth the exhaustion at the end of it, lol.

valk_scot

My 16 and 11 year old kids know perfectly well there's no Santa. They still left out a mince pie, two apples and a bottle of beer for Santa and the reindeer. Hubby and I dutifully consumed these and I made the usual sooty footprints coming out the fireplace plus assembled a stocking for each of them. Just because you don't belive in Santa doesn't mean he doesn't leave you a stocking, after all.

lostinrates

Tbh, I am horrified at the manner of response some have shown here. I am strongly on the side of magic, imagination and indeed cultural affiliation with peers (where their is no religious belief or different religious belief) and even belief, but it seems that for many who ahare this opinion as me the ' magic' of Santa has given them little magic of civility in adulthood.