Do you always show your appreciation to those close to you?

aliasojo

SailorSam wrote: »

I think i should make a New Year resolution to be more selfish, i've always put others first but feel i'm often taken as a sucker.

Budge up the bench a bit....I'm with you on that one.

pollypenny

I hope I've shown OH how much I appreciate the way he's looked after me after my op this year and recently with the flu.

I wouldn't like us to be the USA though. My DIL finishes every phone call to her mum with 'I love you'. I find it a bit contrived.

aliasojo

pollypenny wrote: »

I wouldn't like us to be the USA though. My DIL finishes every phone call to her mum with 'I love you'. I find it a bit contrived.

I started saying that to my son at the end of most phone calls a few months ago.

He works away a lot and I don't get to see or talk to him very often.

I worry about terrorist attacks (he works in the US sometimes) or plane crashes or *whatever* so I always say 'love you' at the end of the call in case it's the last thing I ever get to say to him.


Edit: Unless I've fallen out with him....then I just call him a prat! :rotfl:

sweetme

I appreciate very much those that are close to me, and I make sure they know it. None of them make an effort to appreciate me though

aliasojo

sweetme wrote: »

I appreciate very much those that are close to me, and I make sure they know it. None of them make an effort to appreciate me though

Never mind pet, I appreciate the fact you've posted on my thread. :beer::D

My family better appreciate the dinner I'm about to go make them....otherwise they'll be wearing it.

Not really. :rotfl:

SuzieSue

aliasojo wrote: »

Those are just a couple of examples of him being caring towards me and although I did say thank you for the flowers, I didn't really express the same level of appreciation towards him as I probably would have to someone else.

I'm exactly the opposite - the only person I really care about is my OH and so appreciate everything he does and don't really care about anyone else. He is the same.

My ex didn't appreciate me at all and was much nicer to everyone else and treated me like dirt.

Savvy_Sue

BTW, I have to report that the boys have got SLIGHTLY better about letting me hug them when I see them / say goodbye to them. You can feel that the body language needs some work, but at least they don't actively bat me away when I go to put my arms around them. The youngest is still a bit resistant, but he will at least hug both grandmas ...

SuzieSue

FBaby wrote: »

There is nothing worse than making efforts to please others to then feel feeling for granted in return. I believe many break-ups are exactly due to this matter. Unfortunately, when you are with a partner who doesn't show his/her appreciation one way of the other (it certainly doesn't just have to be with words, actions do tend to speak louder anyway), you quickly find yourself stuck in the relationship as you run out of choice. If you start asking or giving hints, you are seen as being demanding/nagging/sulking. If you stop making efforts yourself, youstop caring and you grow appart. If you stop expecting any appreciation back, you become used...

This is so true. It describes perfectly the relationship I had with my ex. If I had a pound for everytime I asked him why he was always so much nicer to everyone else I would be very rich.