Positive Steps Challenge 2013

charleybear

Okay that was weird i phoned him to ask for my stuff back cos he had my dads memory card and i didn't realise but he's really nice to me and talking how we were before the fight. He says he misses me and that he wants to change and be better he said he wants me in his arms again. he wants to be friends and wants to take me to the cinema.

I know hes trying to change but everyone says I shouldn't do it and that i should ignore him. my mums understandably is on bad terms with him but In time I do want to be with him. I'm so confused

suzitiger

Fairy, I have a blog! How do I find out my link so I can PM it to you?
CharleyBear, I'm sorry to hear about the meaness, how hurtful! It can't be easy, but I think all your challenges and selling the stuff will definitely help you

his_missus

Charleybear, perhaps he's realised he's given up something good. Let him prove he has changed (rather than he's going to change) before you allow yourself to let him in again. If you wish to see him, meet him within a group of friends.

The cynic in me asks whether he had someone lined up to "replace" you who has now rejected his advances or everyone else is telling him he should've stayed with you and it's forced a change of heart. This old bird's talking from experience, make sure you put yourself first xxxx

charleybear

Im okay things are good we're just being friends nothing more.
Im going to have more time for myself and do more things

fairyclicks

charleybear wrote: »

Okay that was weird i phoned him to ask for my stuff back cos he had my dads memory card and i didn't realise but he's really nice to me and talking how we were before the fight. He says he misses me and that he wants to change and be better he said he wants me in his arms again. he wants to be friends and wants to take me to the cinema.

I know hes trying to change but everyone says I shouldn't do it and that i should ignore him. my mums understandably is on bad terms with him but In time I do want to be with him. I'm so confused

To be honest Charleybear i would be cautious. if you want to be with him again then i would suggest you do a few things:

1. talk to him about the way he spoke to you, find out why and make it very very clear that it is not acceptable behaviour.
2. take some time to figure out what it is you really want - tell him you are not sure about being with someone who could treat you this way if you need time to think about it all.
3. be prepared to walk away
4. keep up with your own development and ideas regardless of what happens with him

Good Luck with everything, and hey we have all been there and understand. xxx

fairyclicks

suzitiger wrote: »

Fairy, I have a blog! How do I find out my link so I can PM it to you?
CharleyBear, I'm sorry to hear about the meaness, how hurtful! It can't be easy, but I think all your challenges and selling the stuff will definitely help you

Yipeeeeee can't wait to read it - to get your link open your blog in view mode and copy what it says in your address bar


Oh blimey i forgot what i came on here to say - i have just sorted out enough money to clear my last debt so i'm (unofficially) debt free (have still to pay it yet but can't until tomorrow lol!)

suzitiger

fairyclicks wrote: »

Yipeeeeee can't wait to read it - to get your link open your blog in view mode and copy what it says in your address bar


Oh blimey i forgot what i came on here to say - i have just sorted out enough money to clear my last debt so i'm (unofficially) debt free (have still to pay it yet but can't until tomorrow lol!)

Its totally boring don't get excited. I will need your help to make it more exciting

Seriously?! Debt free??!! Arghhhh how exciting!! :j congratulations!

I have just made a payment arrangement with bcard so that should stand me in good stead to make them an offer of settlement in the future my other debts are doing ok but I hope I can be you in a years time :money:

charleybear

Me and him have the understanding that we're just friends.
He's playing with my emotions again and I don't want that.
He wants to meet someone new and I just want to meet the world I never knew about.

I have another busy day today so may not be doing much.
Shower - Done
Getting ready for work - doing
Go to work
Get home
Get changed for the bonfire
Have a nice bonfire

Giggles86

Back again. I can't believe how easily life keeps getting in the way. It's not very easy to get online in my room at the moment which makes it more difficult too.
I have a 101 in 1001 days list though I have to admit I've not done much on it lately. I've been doing it a couple of months but have only crossed off a couple of things - some do take time I don't currently have though!
Today's jobs:
-wash up done
-help OH pick out a nice lamp and some shelves done
-clean bunny cage and put it in the garage :-( done it's a bit quiet without him
-help OH to organise kitchen cupboards done
-read chapter of book
-spend half hour on jigsaw
-Christmas present list
-finish watching Sabrina started. More it watch than I remembered
-3 assessments
-Clear desk done
-update diary

Happy Saturday everyone xx

fairyclicks

Right today........i'm doing nothing lol!

hahahaha only joking :P

i have already done online boot sale
checked ebay
designed leaflets for selling page
checked debt account balance
added some more items to sales page
ate some mince pies

am going to sort out bootsale stuff for tomorrow
sort out a float
change my bed
hoover downstairs - done
general tidy - done

think that will be me for the day