*The Holly and the Ivy* and the You Know What 2013 Chatter Thread.

pigpen

freespirit66 wrote: »

, and he wont even let them go to partys they have been invited to if it is his weekend to have them

He does this too.. I just changed their primary school in June/July this year so they are still making friends and he is a tool about not letting them go when it is really important to build these relationships.


He took them to a relatives 30th birthday, someone the children don't even know!! rather than let Moomin go to her friends party a couple of streets away!!!! It is just pathetic. I spoke (ranted) to my mother earlier and she said she wouldn't let them go either, and she would not let them go until after the 26th either.. I did say that would make me just as bad and wouldn't be fair on them to be used in just the same way which I don't want to do, I just want them all to be happy.


Mrs MP.. I get mine several bottles of snow fairy each Christmas.. you have to buy shower gel all year, unless you only get washed at Christmas!! so I just bulk buy and it lasts all year! It bolsters the present pile and is stuff you have to buy anyway.


Freespirit... I love your 'freedom anniversary.. 23rd March is mine.. I struggle to remember the wedding anniversary but I remember that I explained a lot of our parting to DD2 a couple of weeks ago and she was horrified as he had told her all manner of untruths. I can't see the point in lying, it helps no one.

junior_j

Feisty - glad Dh got weekend realise I love weekend realise when I've Been in for weeks At a time! I hope his health becomes more stable and improves in anyway it can! Big hugs! Try to make some time for yourself if you can bug hugs beautiful x

Got another present ticked off my list! Make your own zombie movie kit!! For my close friend lol she saw it in a expensive gadget shop for over a tenner and loved it found it on play for 5.99 and got 7% back with quid co

junior_j

Saw this on another thread looks fab for the price was £60 now £14.99 in Argos , it wont let me copy link but here's number Disney Junior Mega Pack. 914/9577

Disney junior lots of books all with noises and accessories ect

freespirit66

pigpen wrote: »

He does this too.. I just changed their primary school in June/July this year so they are still making friends and he is a tool about not letting them go when it is really important to build these relationships.
He took them to a relatives 30th birthday, someone the children don't even know!! rather than let Moomin go to her friends party a couple of streets away!!!! It is just pathetic. I spoke (ranted) to my mother earlier and she said she wouldn't let them go either, and she would not let them go until after the 26th either.. I did say that would make me just as bad and wouldn't be fair on them to be used in just the same way which I don't want to do, I just want them all to be happy.

OMG they are such t*****s, yes these are all parties around the same area so its not like its out of his way, the amount of times the younger one has cried and he has just shouted at her that it is his weekend blah blah blah and his latest thing is when he marrys his latest ***** the kids have to call her mum :eek: shes not their flaming mum they already have a mum!! Hope you and the kids can come up with an arrangement they are happy with x

Freespirit... I love your 'freedom anniversary.. 23rd March is mine.. I struggle to remember the wedding anniversary but I remember that I explained a lot of our parting to DD2 a couple of weeks ago and she was horrified as he had told her all manner of untruths. I can't see the point in lying, it helps no one.

Haha thats the kids well he cant lie to mine they were here when he walked in xmas eve and said he had been having an affair and had been caught, i totally agree with you there is no need for lies

junior_j

Ruth_honey wrote: »

I've FINALLY got my Halfc0st order to go through. Almost TWO days of trying!!! Ordered more wrapping paper than I intended to because it was taking so long to remove it from the basket. Still, 24m for 80p, you can't go wrong, can you? Also bought the gingerbread man plate. I think someone else on here said it was nice when they'd ordered it.
Will need to write out my Christmas cards soon. Find that task so boring. Think I'll stick on a Christmas film and do it when DH is at work, then just get him to sign his lot when he gets home.

I can't even get the pages on half cost to load properly! So slow!

quidsy wrote: »

Started the choc sleighs today, made 4, one was a practice so my DS can have that one, the other 3 came out much better. I was pretty fast by number 4, have another 9 to go but will do them in stages. Bought a glue gun today, I think I am in love with it, thinking up things I can do to use it. lol.

Well done on starting sleighs what are you using them for , will we get to see photographs?


pigpen my dad left us two years ago almost three , whilst I was in Scotland funnily enough, he cheated on my mum many a times but she didn't think she would cope without him , till the last affair , he was so brazen with his attitude , as kids growing up they would often split and he didn't seem overly bothered to see me and my brother or help out my mum! I know how horrible it must be for you in the situation with the kids so just want to offer hugs and remind you that YOUR doing a great job! Way to go mum! Xxxx some men/fathers just don't get it , I'm not taking away though that there are good men and good fathers!

My dad finds me being in hospital a nuisance and doesn't really hide it from me either! My mum on they the other hand would walk on hot coals to get to me just for a cuddle! Sorry I started really waffling then!


Tasks for the next few

Wash and pack suitcase I want to cry at the thought of going home but at same time I can't wait to see my mum!

Charge net book and download iplayer stuff

Buy vac PAC bags

Nanamia

Nanamia
Sort presents using Pigpens box idea
Buy Yankee candles
One savoury and one sweet to freezer stash.

Oh yes, I've completed a weeks task without an extension go me xxx

Off to catch up and think of this weeks aims, thanks Linky

pigpen

Junior.. I guess there are many pretty crap mums out there too, not all non-resident dads are crap.. I can think of a few easily enough.


freespirit.. there is no way I would allow my children to call anyone else mum.. and he can't force them to do it either.. it is easy enough to not refer to people by name.. I don't use names much, I can't remember the last time I called OH by his name! They could call her Stepmother (which technically she isn't as you are alive) but it would be amusing ... they could precede it with wicked or evil for example lol


I didn't spend Christmas day with my mum after I was 3 until the day before my 16th birthday having returned to live with her a few days before that... I didn't die from it and there was no alternate this or anything.. I had xmas day with my dad, my mother picked me up at 10:30am on the 26th and I went there for a week.

Nanamia

Pigpen hope DD5s birthday went well You don't need me to tell you that you are doing an amazing job, but you are xxx
Mrsinvisible bless you my lovely, did you come up with an idea for DD1? Those clocks do sound a bargain, are you going to personalise them yourself? xxx
Chrissy Oooh I hope you enjoyed your me time today you so deserve it xxx
Quidsy I'm blooming shattered just reading your post! I've ought the chocolate etc to make up the sleighs, that's as far as I've got ha xxx
JJ the little cuties love to share their germs don't they! Your Mum sounds like a superstar she must be very proud of you, I know I would be. And try to remember, no goodbyes, see you soon xxx
Murie oh no not the tumble drier, I must remember to be extra nice to mine in the morning just in case he's thinking of following suit. Thank you for the kind words xxx
Freespirit more makes, uuumm sound yum, bake off to google. You are a bad influence on me haha, DH is loving it tho. I made up the maple cheesecake today, it smelt delicious. You will have a fab time in brum, it's an adventure xxx
Laurajo ooooh glad you got your new decorations, what theme did you go for? How romantic thinking of buying a new one each year. DH and I the last few years have bought them on holiday, it's lovely then to remember the holiday as you put them onto the tree. Having said that I'm having a decal this year so no decorations to hang on that! xxx
Nicolax well done, what did you think of the nativity 2? Is it worth getting, don't want to be disappointed after enjoying the first so much X
Peppapig photos please, when the lights are up. Can I ask how you are attaching them, it of a dilemma for me this year with my new wall ha xxx
Linky you do put me to shame with your organisational skills. Unbelievable that you are planning Christmas 2014 never mind 2015 ...
Feisty go girl. 2014 we will be right with you every step of the way love to DH too xxx
Mrs M can I please have some time management tips. I have no idea how you manage to do so much each day. Help please xxx

Nanamia

Linky still thinking about this weeks aims, will pop on in the morning. Sorry to be a pain. X

mrs-moneypenny

morning all

Nanamia wrote: »

Mrs M can I please have some time management tips. I have no idea how you manage to do so much each day. Help please xxx

:rotfl: there is what should be done and what actually gets done.
must admit im a huge believer in lists since joining the flylady thread on here that helps incredibly.
one day i will run into myself as i tend to try and squeeze too much into some days and get a bit over ambitious
but thank you for thinking im organised:)

hope everyone is well
hugs good wishes and positive vibes where ever they are needed