*The Holly and the Ivy* and the You Know What 2013 Chatter Thread.

Nanamia

Bless you mrsinvisible I know exactly how you feel. But isn't it wonderful to be able to see them and what they are doing:) xxx

This time next week we will be saying goodbye to Oz for a while:( will need all the support you can give my lovelies xxx

Own_My_Own

Nanamia wrote: »

Bless you mrsinvisible I know exactly how you feel. But isn't it wonderful to be able to see them and what they are doing:) xxx

This time next week we will be saying goodbye to Oz for a while:( will need all the support you can give my lovelies xxx

Oh I know I should be sad for you

But it will be nice to have you home

Is that really terrible ?

FeistyFidget

Own_My_Own wrote: »

Oh I know I should be sad for you

But it will be nice to have you home

Is that really terrible ?

I second this! We've missed you Nana, and I know that you will be very upset when you first come home, but I promise we will all do our best to cheer you! X

OMO you are right - I am too soft, DH tells me after every visit to see family that I'm too soft. I hate confrontation, it makes me feel physically sick when I'm caught up in a disagreement I did bite back a wee bit and tell her that I wasn't being impulsive, I would explore every obstacle and then decide - I also reminded her that it wasn't like we rushed into buying our flat.

Nanamia

Aaa thank you both (I think! Ha) xxx

You are not soft Feisty just a little tooooo considerate:)

blue_eyed_girl

_party_ HAPPY BIRTHDAY KAYANDY _party_

Sorry it's a wee bit late. Hope you had a lovely day.


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Own_My_Own

FeistyFidget wrote: »

I second this! We've missed you Nana, and I know that you will be very upset when you first come home, but I promise we will all do our best to cheer you! X

OMO you are right - I am too soft, DH tells me after every visit to see family that I'm too soft. I hate confrontation, it makes me feel physically sick when I'm caught up in a disagreement I did bite back a wee bit and tell her that I wasn't being impulsive, I would explore every obstacle and then decide - I also reminded her that it wasn't like we rushed into buying our flat.

I am beginning to feel like a bully now, but don't explain yourself to her, it opens a conversation. Tell her to mind her own business and the conversation stops.

You can now tell me to shut up, it's none of my business.:D

Own_My_Own

:mad::mad::mad: I have a very very large station clock on my wall.

I just looked at the time on the TV and the clock was wrong. So I got the steps out and got the clock down. I hate doing it as it is so heavy and I always think I am going to drop it.

I changed the time, which is not easy and put it back.

My Dad just text me a number and as I looked at it I saw the time on my phone and it shows the original time my clock said.:eek:

The time on the Bl0ody telly is wrong.:mad:

It shows the right time on the guide but the wrong time on programme info.:mad: Have you ever known anything like it.

I am just about to get the steps out to take the clock down again.

FeistyFidget

Own_My_Own wrote: »

I am beginning to feel like a bully now, but don't explain yourself to her, it opens a conversation. Tell her to mind her own business and the conversation stops.

You can now tell me to shut up, it's none of my business.:D

Hush you! I would never take your advice as anything but caring and considerate, bully indeed! I am hope to one day get over the phobia of confrontation, but for now I just end up restricting my time with them

Sorry about the clock saga - how very annoying

Snugglebunny8

Happy Birthday Kayandy! sorry its a bit late, I hope you had a lovely day! xx

Feisty I agree with all the very good advice, but I also understand that if you are not naturally somebody who is at all confrontational, it can feel horrible and intimidating when people like that start to criticise you and your choices. In my experience people who say 'oh I just say it like it is /Im just honest' etc are sometimes just rude, blunt and lacking in tact or consideration. I always try to be honest with people, but I also think about what I say, how I say it, and try to always be tactful and considerate, if what I think might feel unkind or critical I would think long and hard before I said it - if I said it at all! Your relative sounds to me to be controlling and also somebody who doesnt like it if other people do something she wouldnt do - I like Mrsinvisible's idea, maybe a taste of her own medicine! For what it's worth, I think the way you are looking at it is measured, responsible and frankly - right! you live where you and your OH want to live, if she doesnt like it then tough titties I say!

OMO you could never be construed as a bully honey! *hugs* xx

Nanamia I really really feel for you lovely - but we will be here for you and you must promise you will be here every day, let us know how you are feeling and let us help you through, you are such a lovely and considerate person and put everyone else first - make sure you are looked after too. I know how you must be feeling - I know it isnt the same thing but for years Ive been upset coming back from holidays, but now Ive decided there is no point me saving and planning to get to lovely places, then spend the last day or so feeling all sad, I make myself think '!!!!!! that - IM STILL HERE!' so every last minute I can I enjoy it - I can be sad on the plane! Last summer I was paddling in the Pacific and hanging off the end of Santa Monica Pier an hour before we had to leave for the airport instead of my usual searching for tissues! (I cried on the plane but it was a good 48 hours later than Id normally start LOL!) So if you can, savour every single second with them, and then when you get on that plane, straight away start planning your next trip back out there; and then look forward to seeing your DSIL! Im so happy to hear she is home, will be wonderful for you to see her! xxxxxxx

Snugglebunny8

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