How am I going to do this today?

chatbug

Oh i am so sorry but she went peacefully with you loving her. I know it is very hard to come to terms with losing them. It is always sad when they have shared our lives and suddenly no longer with us. Take care of yourself. x

Dollardog

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

You just do.


Because nobody else can do it for you or for your pet. You wouldn't dream of letting them, anyway.

And it's desperately sad. And you cry. It hurts you so very much.

But the animal doesn't hurt - they get gently released from their pain, their suffering and their fear.


Doing the right thing for them is what keeps you going, through the signing of the consent form, through your holding them, through deciding what to do afterwards.

And through the coming days.

So, So true.
We all know how you are feeling but sometimes its the only kindness left to do.
Come back and talk to us, you are not alone, we are all here for you.
RIP little one.xx

Froglet

this is for you flydragonfly




LAST NIGHT

I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying, You found it hard to sleep.

I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
"It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here."

I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.

I was with you at the shops today, Your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.

I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I'm not lying there.

I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said " it's me."

You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.

It's possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, "I never went away."

You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew...
In the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.

The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning
and say "good-night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning."

And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll rush across to greet you and we'll stand, side by side.

I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out...then come home to be with me.

eamon

Don't worry about holding it together. When I had Cat1 pts I cried buckets at the Vets. I'm a middle aged bloke.

bugslet

Hi Fly

I had my 17 year old border collie pts on Xmas flipping eve 1999. Like you I could have kept him going for a little bit longer, but I would have been doing so for me and not for him - it really was the right thing at the time for him.

It does get easier to cope with and I do genuinely believe that there is a dog heaven - my only hope is that I am an honorary dog when it comes my time.

eamon, I run a hulage compny and I've had big roughty toughty drivers not able to go with their dogs for 'the' trip to the vets. Dogs and cats, they are family, simples really.

heartbreak_star

*cuddles* for all of you that have lost a furbaby. I will requote something I put on another thread:

"Dogs are given to us to teach us about love, and leave us to teach us about loss. A new dog never replaces an old dog, it just makes their owner's heart bigger. If you have loved many dogs, you have a very big heart."

HBS x

fly_dragon_fly

thank you, i found that since putting her picture of her in the snow earlier this year, as my lock screen on my phone i am already a lot calmer and at peace,theres been a few times were i've nearly crumbled but have to be strong and remember that she is happy in dog heaven.

Still hard though, such a quick decisions to make, i keep thinking how can it be so easy and quick my mums house is a sad place to go as the other dogs keep wandering in her room and running out in the garden and then realising she is not there wonder the garden.

murphydog999

Just wanted to add my best wishes and consolations to you and your family, it's heartbreaking xx

enc10

heartbreak_star wrote: »

*cuddles* for all of you that have lost a furbaby. I will requote something I put on another thread:

"Dogs are given to us to teach us about love, and leave us to teach us about loss. A new dog never replaces an old dog, it just makes their owner's heart bigger. If you have loved many dogs, you have a very big heart."

HBS x

Thank you so much for the quote, i showed it to my sons who are still upset at losing our dog 3 weeks ago, and has helped them ease the guilt of wanting a new dog. Thank you

PaddyPaws

Fly dragon fly
It's really hard to do, but you were there for her to the end. I Understand what you're going through as this time last week the vet was here for my 17 yr old collie cross baby. We had hoped we'd have him for 1 last christmas but it wasn't to be.

Be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to grieve, she was a member of your family and you will miss her.

Hugs
PP xx