I really dislike our neighbours

londonsurrey

Grow a nice thorny rambler rose along the back wall.

lilymay1

The lady to my left is dying a slow and undignified death from lung cancer (although she still pops her head out of her back door to smoke!), and the woman to my right is a single mum to 3 kids who keep themselves to themselves. Her eldest son is 17 and has just been bought a new car which he used to drive down the road like it was an F1 track. After a quick reprimand from myself and another parent he soon stopped...

Aside from that everyone else round here are lovely, friendly and caring people. If you ever need an egg, or some work doing on your car (mechanic across the road!) everyone is happy to help.

chirp

Be nice to your neighbours or it will be difficult to sell your house!

mishmogs

chirp wrote: »

Be nice to your neighbours or it will be difficult to sell your house!

Too true! as you have to declare if there are any ongoing disputes with your neighbours when you come to sell as part of the legal process. Hmmm...

I too have 'orrid neighbours constant shouting, (am sure they have no idea what a normal conversation is) swearing, extremely unruely kids and the latest stunt was going away on holiday for 2 weeks without anyone looking after the cat and gerbils. I fed the cat as he kept meowing at me but couldnt do anything about the gerbils. Oh and he decided to dig a hole in my garden where there is no fence or bushes (I have grown large bushes -some prickly - between the two of us to try and deter the kids) and bury one his gerbils.... I was rendered speechless!

becca0417

We had awful neighbours. We have just moved to a detatched house because living next door to them was impacting our lives so badly we couldn't stand it anymore. They were noisy into all hours of the morning, argued constantly and had small children running around the garden at all hours of the day and night screaming their heads off. They also regularly parked their cars across our drive and threw their rubbish in our garden.

moneyistooshorttomention

That law that was introduced about having to declare "neighbour disputes" is possibly one of the most troublesome ones there is.

It leaves those of us who try to do the "stay quiet/keep self to self/just smile pleasantly and do odd favours when it comes to it" brigade rather at the mercy of any unreasonable neighbour who decides to do something that would be considered totally unreasonable in the eyes of the vast majority of people. I'm in that position currently and have had to make a "reasonable request" to stop doing something totally "unreasonable in any sensible persons eyes" to a neighbour of mine and wondering whether a "reasonable request" that they havent responded to at all counts as "neighbourhood dispute".

I can't see how a "request" could count as a "dispute" - as there has been no "complaint" as such and certainly not any disputes across the wall along line of "You're a *****" followed by a reply of "Well - you're a **** yourself" or anything remotely like that. I don't do namecalling or other such type behaviour - I only do "reasonable requests" about matters that 90% of people would regard as "unreasonable" - so imagine I am well in the clear as to not having made a "complaint" or had a "dispute".

The last thing I want is to go in for chavvy/aggressive behaviour - so I've certainly not done any of that or been at all "legal" with the neighbour concerned. If they started any chavvy/aggressive behaviour at me then I would just literally walk away from them and refuse to respond.

So - I'm wondering if anyone else has been in this position and what the outcome was as to whether a "reasonable request" and totally polite behaviour on their part was deemed to be a "neighbourhood dispute" they had to declare?

omnasia

I've always understood that it has to be a formal 'dispute' that you have to declare. I can't see you would have to declare any little argument between neighbours but if you were to make a report to the council for example then that would need to be declared. It does make life difficult. We have lovely neighbours apart from one at the back who throws the leaves he sweeps up over our fence. He's just a nasty little man and we ignore him for the reason as above, that we don't want any problems when we sell the house.

Anthony_Fritts

You may like your neighbor or dislike your neighbor but you should be good at them. Because they are the closet persons to you when you are in some kind of problem. Whatever problem you are facing because of them, you should visit them, have a cup of tea with them and discuss about the things politely what you dislike about them. Make them realize that they should do the things which disturbs them.

Deep_In_Debt

I've generally been very lucky and I have some great neighbours now.

A neighbour a few years ago had a few "issues" and a very loud voice and I could hear her swearing at the kids and having rows with her ex hubby over the phone. Sometimes her rows with ex hubby and kids were more interesting than the telly! I don't think she really cared that the whole road could hear her when she frequently went off on one. Nobody liked her; I rarely spoke to her in the 10 years she lived next door but I knew a lot about her life! Quite miss her sometimes when there is nothing on telly to watch!

FelinePrincess

I hate my neighbours and they hate me. One of them is a horrible old woman who makes up rubbish about me and turns everyone else against me.

They even lied to the police when they witnessed an incident that I was the victim of - they stood around and watched while it happened but denied hearing anything when the police spoke to them. Fortunately the man involved pleaded guilty so he was still prosecuted.

I just remind myself that in a few years I will move and not have to live near them anymore.