ten month split

thebull

Hi all advice please on my situation.
Met a lady 5 years ago and we both fell in love with each other ,since none of us wanted an overbearing relationship we met up once or twice a week .Her daughter then got pregnant at the age of 15 to a 27 year old man ( scum pedo) is my view.
After that I refused to enter the house when ever he was in and so the rot set in .
In feb of this year during some texting I broke it off I then destroyed my sim card and moved to a new area.
No contact since Feb I miss her .Is it wise to make contact or should I move on .

ktb

Wow! You sound like an incredibly supportive individual, especially at a time when the !!!!!! had hit the fan in your ex partner's life & she probably really needed you to act like a grown up & be a bit of a rock. Instead you ran off like a pathetic little boy.

Sounds like she's had a lucky escape.... leave her be.

Person_one

Surely the schools haven't broken up for Christmas yet? Its only the 8th.

ellies_angel

You refused to go to the house if her boyfriend was there. It wasn't your daughter, who are you to take the moral highground, it wasn't as if you were in a "serious relationship".

I personally would have concerns if my other halfs 15 year old was in a relationship with a 27 year old, but what you did is like shutting the gate after the horse bolted.

I have been through many ups and downs with him and his kids, a lot of decisions I may not have agreed with, but at the end of the day I was there to support him.

Leave her alone, she is much better of without you

thebull

Must just be me that thinks its not good to have a 27 year old man impregnate a 15year old girl . Strange world eh

*Robin*

thebull wrote: »

Must just be me that thinks its not good to have a 27 year old man impregnate a 15year old girl . Strange world eh

Your reaction to that sad event is what is provoking a less than sympathetic response.

Forget this lady; she has seen the quality of your 'love' and hopefully has moved on by now.

Sorry, not what you wanted to hear.

ktb

...and there was I thinking you were asking for opinions whether you should contact your ex, after you had a tantrum & abandoned her 10 months ago..... not our views on underage pregnancy by older men!!??

Perhaps you should re-phrase your actual question, because it appears that bit of your tale is the bit you want people to focus on? (...and perhaps pat you on the back for your strong views on "scum pedos"... which is what every lady wants in her partner, over & above; kind, supportive, caring, dependable, mature & ACTUALLY BEING THERE!)

thebull

ktb may I suggest that you read and digest my post before having a go at me .
when you re read my post you will see I asked for advice NOT opinion .I hope you don't mind me pointing your mistake out .

podperson

thebull wrote: »

Must just be me that thinks its not good to have a 27 year old man impregnate a 15year old girl . Strange world eh

No one's saying it's a good thing but when it's already happened, the household is no doubt in uproar and your ex-partner was probably extremely upset, overwhelmed and struggling to cope then she probably would have appreciated a bit of support from her partner rather then you constantly going on about your moral issues to the point where you broke up.
Unless the daughter pressed charges then the 27 year old is probably going to be able to see his child so will be in the life of the daughter, and by extension your ex, for the next 18 years at least. So if you did get back in contact it's quite conceived that he might still be in the picture as the father of your ex-partner's grandchild. How would you deal with that? What if your ex wanted her grandchild round for xmas and the child's father came as well, what if she was babysitting and the dad picked the child up - are you still going to refuse to be anywhere near him?
Personally, I would stay well away. The family needs support not judgement and since you obviously can't offer this then why bother getting in touch again?

VestanPance

Leave the woman alone. You sound like another level of hassle to what sounds like an already troublesome situation for her.

Avoriaz

thebull wrote: »

....Is it wise to make contact or should I move on .

Leave her alone and move on. She probably has.

If her daughter's boyfriend is still around she probably doesn't want another plonker in her life.

Your unsupportive actions and breaking up with her via text make you a plonker in my eyes.