What to Say in Christmas Cards Following a Death?

sdavies13

My youngest sister died a couple of months ago and now in a quandry about what to say in Christmas cards.

For people not directly related I will put what I normally do, but what do I say to my other siblings? What do I say to my sister's kids?

Normally I start off with the obligatory "Merry Christmas" ending with "and a Happy New Year!" but this all sounds trite and inappropriate considering the circumstances.

Any suggestions?

Thanks.

Torry_Quine

Wishing you a peaceful Christmas
My thoughts are with you, much love
Love from xxx

nearlyrich

We were just talking about this earlier, we have lost a few people this year including an uncle and a good friend, I always try to get a card that isn't too jolly, with words like seasons greetings rather than merry christmas and I write something like I know it won't be the same without xxxx but we wish you a peaceful christmas xxx & xxx
Sorry for your loss the first everything is always the worst x

Torry_Quine

If they have a faith then it can be appropriate to tell them you are praying that they know the peace of Jesus love but if you aren't aware of a faith then I wouldn't.

Goldiegirl

I'm in this situation too, my husbands aunt died in October, and I've been wondering what to say in Uncle Vic's card.

As suggested by nearlyrich I'm going to try and find a card that's not too jolly, and say something like 'Thinking of you'

building_with_lego

I'm sorry for your loss.
I got a lot of good advice in this thread last year.

Torry_Quine

building_with_lego wrote: »

I'm sorry for your loss.
I got a lot of good advice in this thread last year.

Personally I wouldn't use the phrase 'I'm sorry for yur loss' as I will have put that or something like it in the condolence card.

MrsCautious

I lost my husband this year, I have to say 'thinking of you' is what I'd like to see included.

ddebski_us

I lost my Dad a couple of months ago. When I bought my mum and sister their cards this year, I made sure the wording was just "with love at Christmas".

Nice and simple. No specific mention of anything.

xDx

zzzLazyDaisy

OP, The "first" times over the first 12 months after a death are the hardest. Remember to be kind and gentle with yourself too.

As for the card -as others have said, keep it simple.

My lovely next-door neighbour died a couple of weeks ago. I will give him a seasonal card that is not too 'jolly' and write something simple such as 'Thinking of you at Christmas'.

Hugs

Dx

ljonski

TBH , I find Christmas cards a bit trite, especially in this situation. How about an Old fashioned letter, detailing your thoughts etc and maybe a surprize visit taking a treat or some momento that they have never seen etc