What to Say in Christmas Cards Following a Death?

aeb_2

MrsCautious wrote: »

Can I please gently suggest that 'may your memories bring you comfort' isn't appropriate, if someone says that to me, I find it upsetting but try not to show it. My husband was taken from me and our daughters far too soon and thinking of nice memories is not a comfort, it brings more pain that he isn't here. Hope you don't mind me adding that, I understand people at different stages of grief may not react that way, but months on when someone has died at a young age, I know it's a common reaction.

I agree with you. I find it is getting worse as time goes on, pain is the right word I think, that he isn't here to share the memories since he died until now, that he is missing out on so much. In my case the birth of our triplets seven months after he died.

MrsCautious

aeb wrote: »

I agree with you. I find it is getting worse as time goes on, pain is the right word I think, that he isn't here to share the memories since he died until now, that he is missing out on so much. In my case the birth of our triplets seven months after he died.

I am so, so sorry to read this. I have twin daughters and they are in their early teens. It's six months since we lost him and yes it is getting worse, shock and trauma has given way to deep pain and people around seem to expect things will 'go back to normal.' There is no normal when you have experienced such loss and trauma. (Sorry for taking this thread way off topic.) Lots of love to you and yours x