I want to make new friends?

3KIDSNOMONEY

Rachie_B wrote: »

I was a teenage Mum too ,I had my eldest @ just 17.
What I did was go to college when he was 16 months old,scary at first lol but great for socialising and meeting fab new people

Do you work at all ?
how old are your child/ren now ?

Are you seeing a doctor / taking anything for your depression ? ((hugs))

I don't work, don't know if i would have the confidence now. My youngest is 4 so am still able to go to toddler groups, but making small talk over coffee is not too hard. It's forming friendships which are hard. Like I said before, everyone else 'seems' to have such full lives. I think after years not working and spending so much time at home, i have just forgotten how to hold a real conversation and i am not sure if i have much interesting to talk about anyway.

I have seen the doctor and things have improved, but that doesn't mean that they are good. A tablet can only solve some problems. It doesn't stop you feeling lonely. Really wish other people were more open about this sort of thing. I presume some other people are lonely but prefer not to let other people know, maybe it is embarrassment. This website is great as you realise that there are other people in the same boat.

Rachie_B

aww hun

I definitely think you would benefit from netmums they have a discussion forum and theres many many mums suffering from depression on there

so even if you dont feel you could actually "meet" anyone from there just yet,mabye just talking about things with a like minded person would help ?

Bettyboop

Hi Twinkle, I could have written your post myself! I seem to make friends but they only last a little while. Although the friends I made in November last year see my husband more often than me (we are seperated), and I sought of wish I never introduced them to him! We were close, spent loads of time together and had dinners at each others houses! Sadly, it's a thing of the past. Like you, I really want one or two close friends. I will be going through a divorce soon and it would really help. I posted on netmums and one lady responded and wanted to meet on say a Friday but she has never emailed back! Don't know what I should do next.

You sound lovely, and I'm sure in no time you will make that one and only special friend.

maureenhigh

Hi I have lived in Derbyshire for 20 years married two grown up children two grand children.
No friends to chat with or go shopping etc etc
I really miss having a close friend to talk to at times.

*twinkle*_2

Bettyboop wrote: »

Hi Twinkle, I could have written your post myself! I seem to make friends but they only last a little while. Although the friends I made in November last year see my husband more often than me (we are seperated), and I sought of wish I never introduced them to him! We were close, spent loads of time together and had dinners at each others houses! Sadly, it's a thing of the past. Like you, I really want one or two close friends. I will be going through a divorce soon and it would really help. I posted on netmums and one lady responded and wanted to meet on say a Friday but she has never emailed back! Don't know what I should do next.

You sound lovely, and I'm sure in no time you will make that one and only special friend.

Thank you bettyboop, wouldn't it be lovely if we could all meet up. It must be so hard adjusting after divorce. I think I would email the lady again, perhaps she is just feeling a bit nervous. Hope it works out for you, keep posting as its lovely to meet people on here too.

3kids I understand the feeling of not having anything to say, but its a lack of confidence and makes us hold back. Bringing up three kids i'm sure you have loads of experiences. I think there are loads of us going around pretending everything is ok. Is there someone from toddler group that you could invite around so the children can play and you can get to know the mum a bit better? I know its hard making the first step, but thats what I wish I had done to be honest.

Tonight is the first time i've felt a bit better about things, I know if I put an effort in I can change things. It turns out RachieB lives a few streets down from me! Really looking forward to meeting up with her and her friends.

Went into work today and saw the lady I used to work with, I gave the job up in Jan and really miss her company, I asked her to pop in, but she is supporting two people recently bereaved on top of everything else so stressed out, but she said after her holiday she has to give herself some time so will come around then which will be nice.

twinkle x

Rachie_B

aww Betty I would email her again ,maybe her PC has been down,or soemthing family wise had cropped up etc

Its easy to read into it and think " she doesnt want to meet me" etc lol but I doubt its that

another idea,which i dont know if you guys have time for, is voluntary charity work ?

I am a volunteer for the family charity Homestart ,as I had to complete a course before hand, I met some fab people all different ages and backgrounds and we had a night out at the end of it etc

Very rewarding work too I love it

I am no outgoing, confident chick lol and sometimes making the first step is scary & butterfly inducing lol but worth it it in the end

Twinkle looking forward to Friday


xx

samanthag

it would be nice if you all came to tenby and we had a beach party and pretend we are 18 year olds again !! oh well we can but dream lol
sammy

black-saturn

I havn't got much of a social circle either. I've always been the kind of person to live in my own bubble, keep everyone at arms reach and only let the trusted few in. I'm not really worried about having no close friends. Experience has told me (not necessarily everyone though) that they only stab you in the back after a while. So I'd rather stay as i am. I'm 38 and quite happy with my boyfriend and his family and my 2 children. If i chat to someone in the supermarket queue or on the bus thats enough social interaction for me!!

Rachie_B

samanthag wrote: »

it would be nice if you all came to tenby and we had a beach party and pretend we are 18 year olds again !! oh well we can but dream lol
sammy

:rotfl: sounds fab !!!