I want to make new friends?

*twinkle*_2

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mom23

Hi Twinkle
I am in a sim situation,since sept and the children being that much older i don't meet other mums at the playground any more.
I have one friend who i see quite reg (although she works full time) who i met when my ds1 started school nearly 11 yrs ago we have been round each others for meals etc, but it is quite awkward as although our OH's get on ok my Oh is fairly quiet!!!
We don't get to go out socialising (pub,meals etc) as OH works funny hours and it is a hassle to get baby sitters (apart from the expense!!)

Sometimes feel like "Billy no mates":rotfl:

Rachie_B

*twinkle* wrote: »

ooo I'm in Bridgend too Rachie, where are you samanthag?

Got to go to work, but will pm you later.

twinkle

oooooh freaky

Wonder if we have bumped into each other in tesco etc :rotfl:

samanthag

hi
im near tenby so im about an hour and a half from bridgend lol is there anyone else near here ?
sammy

samanthag

you never know rachie b you might have bumped into twinkle somewhrere..... spooky lol

3KIDSNOMONEY

in the same boat too. Had my first daughter when i was 18 and none of my friends were having kids.

In my case after a while I stopped knowing how to form friendships and it makes it very difficult now. Especially when everyone else seems to have such full lives with lots of friends.

In my case lonliness has lead to depression and to be honest there is not much help out there. It is really hard to make new friends when you get older.

*twinkle*_2

3KIDSNOMONEY wrote: »

in the same boat too. Had my first daughter when i was 18 and none of my friends were having kids.

In my case after a while I stopped knowing how to form friendships and it makes it very difficult now. Especially when everyone else seems to have such full lives with lots of friends.

In my case lonliness has lead to depression and to be honest there is not much help out there. It is really hard to make new friends when you get older.

Hi 3kids

I can understand how it has lead to depression love, I guess you have seen your doctor? Do keep posting i'm sure we can give each other ideas how to get out of this rut.

I think it is harder as the kids get older as you are not interacting with as many people. It hasn't really bothered me that much in the past and I probably didn't pursue friendships I could have because I was busy and my life was quite full. Its been nagging away at me since the new year and now the kids are older and we could go to a party we didn't have an invite. We then went out for a works meal with some lovely couples and had a good chat about kids problems and I realised I had missed all this and needed it.

My ideas so far...

PM Rachie B

Check local library for whats on, quite fancy a book club as long as its not too high brow stuff.

Going to church next Sunday as I already know a few people there

Get to know my neighbours...we are set back from the street so I only know next door each side, TBH I wouldn't know some of the others if I passed them, I don't know how i'm going to do this yet though it seems to be the type of street that keeps to itself. Our old street we all had babies at the same time so it was nice and friendly as we were all in the same boat.

Perhaps invite these work couples around for a barbie?

Email some friends I met on a course they are not local, but it would be nice to meet up.

Keep an eye on net mums and perhaps post

Ask a lady I used to work with if she wants to pop around, she is always busy so not sure, but will see.

Start collecting DD from school while I have the chance as she finishes primary in July, thought I might suggest we all go out for a meal before they finish as alot of the kids are going to different comps.

Got to be brave now and do it!

Anyone else have any ideas?

twinkle x

Rachie_B

All fab ideas :T esp the first one

I have PMed you back

Rachie_B

3KIDSNOMONEY wrote: »

in the same boat too. Had my first daughter when i was 18 and none of my friends were having kids.

In my case after a while I stopped knowing how to form friendships and it makes it very difficult now. Especially when everyone else seems to have such full lives with lots of friends.

In my case lonliness has lead to depression and to be honest there is not much help out there. It is really hard to make new friends when you get older.

I was a teenage Mum too ,I had my eldest @ just 17.
What I did was go to college when he was 16 months old,scary at first lol but great for socialising and meeting fab new people

Do you work at all ?
how old are your child/ren now ?

Are you seeing a doctor / taking anything for your depression ? ((hugs))

Rachie_B

samanthag wrote: »

hi
im near tenby so im about an hour and a half from bridgend lol is there anyone else near here ?
sammy

oooh you lucky thing,a lovely part of the world to live

maybe we can all descend on you for a summer meet up :T :rotfl: