Problems with my Daughter

liz105

ailuro2 wrote: »

My dd is 8, 9 in October and was an angel (her previous teacher's words as well as our own!) but this teacher has given her a less than perfect report, and her behaviour at home has been pretty awful too.
Probably normal for othe parents, but when you are used to having polite,well behaved dd it comes as a shock.

We have made time to really listen to her about her concerns at school- she really doesn't like the teacher, and the teacher tells her class to shut up, shouts at them etc.- nothing too nasty, just not very polite!

I will be glad when she gets a new teacher who will show better manners, tbh.

I agree something is bothering your dd- yes, there is an element of our little cherubs growing up a bit and getting to the stage where they question us:eek: but I felt you think there is more behind it than just 'an awkward age' Girly chats help, especially when facial treatments and nail polish help you do it without them realising too much they are being quizzed;)

Best of Luck, I hope you find a reason soon.

dont wish to hijack but I believe teachers are not allowed to say 'shut up' to children, or shout, they should raise their voice in a controlled manner and tell the children to 'be quiet'.

a shouting teacher is a teacher who has lost their temper and children play up to this. i think you should mention this to the headmaster.

now to the OP, has your child mentioned any new friends here? could she be acting up after taking on a new friends behaivour patterns? peer pressure?

Carmina_Piranha_3

not much help but i volunteered in school for a few years and the children in year 5, girls in particular tend to be the naughtiest in the school. i blame the hormones.

around the time my son turned 9 he was vile. everyone else said the same thing about their children.

it does get easier.

aeuerby

liz105 wrote: »

dont wish to hijack but I believe teachers are not allowed to say 'shut up' to children, or shout, they should raise their voice in a controlled manner and tell the children to 'be quiet'.

a shouting teacher is a teacher who has lost their temper and children play up to this. i think you should mention this to the headmaster.

If thats true then someone should tell the teachers (not all of them though) in my daughtes school.

There are a few that seem to shout constantly and the head has also been heard to shout very loudly. He's not a very good head at the best of times!

Lillibet_2

ailuro2 wrote: »

Wthe teacher tells her class to shut up, shouts at them etc.- nothing too nasty, just not very polite!

When I first read this thread my first thought was puberty, my periods kicked in at 9 and although I was perfectly capable of dealing with the "technical" side of things the emotions were another story! But then I read further to your 2nd post and am wondering if she is simply drawing on behavioural examples of those around her ; if her teacher is badly behaved & impolite then it's perfectly possible that she is unconsciously copying his behaviour allbeit expressed in a child like way and being like it to her friends? Personally I wouldn't be too happy about a teacher that shouts & tells students to shut up, it's hardly a good example!

HTH;)

izoomzoom

smileypigface wrote: »

Yes Nats - with 2 boys you only have to worry about 2 little willies ... us mothers of girls have to worry about all the willies in the world!!!!!!!!!!!!

Is that too rude for the board??:D

Yeah, but your daughter can only come home with one pregnancy at a time. How many pregnancies can a boy come home with (not literally, but you know what I mean) !

MissMotivation

Many thanks for all your replies.

I have thought about spending more time with her, having a day out and treating her but I don't want her to think that by behaving badly she is getting treat

I have asked her about it but all she will say is that she feels the c/minders Son doesnt like her.......he says to his Mum that my DD doesnt like him . I find this really odd because up until a few months ago they would play with each other even on the weekends!

I feel awful as it is that I have to leave her with a c/minder but only plan to do this job for another year to gain valuable experience and my ultimate aim is then to get a job nearer to home.

She sees her Dad every other weekend from Sat morning to Sun night and although she enjoys going I get the impression that there is no discipline forthcoming from him....plus she gets spoilt while she is there.

The hormones thing is very interesting as some of her behavious is like that of a teenager and something I can remember going through when I was about 13.....I havn't even had the puberty conversation with her as thought she was still too young...maybe I should before it's too late lol

Anyway, thanks for all the advice

pinkshoes

When I was about 9, I remember my mum buying me a book about puberty, and leaving it in my room (discretely hidden under my duvet in a pink paper bag!) so I could read it in my own time. It was much better than having to go through the awkward chat, because that way I could just ask her questions on the bits I didn't understand! I guess something like this one:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Whats-Happening-Me-Facts-Life/dp/0746069952/ref=pd_bbs_4/202-1230991-7662246?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1177062259&sr=8-4

Also, has something happened between her and the childminder's son? Maybe he 'likes' her or something... or wanted her to do something she wasn't happy about? If she's going through puberty, she might be feeling a little awkward around boys, and hence the difficulty.

daisy_doughnut

hi there

my DD is now 13 almost 14 i was a lone parent also
i also found that she started being cheeky arround the same age she also started her periods at the age of 11
even tho she can still be back chatty now it has got easier but there was times when i could have gladly done somethin bad it was horendouse
doing girlie things helped me and made up for the bad times

we have a great relationship now my mum allways said to me when i was going threw it that i was just the same even tho i cant seem to recall being so nasty but then again we think were ok an dont realise its the hormones

one thing tho if you at any time sit her down an explain that hormones are riping threw her body an making her not very nice dont put all the blame on them as they will then make this the excuse for being horrible

i told my daughter that i have weeks where i feel exactly the same an that i stop an think before opening my mouth this is where the girlie things used to come in to help her an me as our monthly is in the same week
my fella now uses this week to catch up with friends...lol

mioliere

It sounds to me as if she is starting puberty. My younger sister - she's 44 years old now - started her periods just after her ninth birthday which was incredibly early in those days - my other sister and I started ours when we were 13years old. Her behaviour changed in much the same way you have described with your daughter so, hopefully, once she is up and running, things will get a lot better! Good luck!

bumpybecky

my dd1 is 9 in a few weeks and has been having terrible temper tantrums / shouting rages with attitude etc. She's normally very well behaved and has no problems at school. I've spoken to several other Mums with girls in her class and it seems to be very common at their age. It suprised me as my periods didn't start until 13, and I hadn't expected the hormonal thing to start so young!

I keep telling myself it'll get better, but then there's dd2 and dd3 to content with! :eek: