gap between classing dates and interview.

melancholly

studentphil wrote: »

I know I am not perfect and maybe I should have died at birth and then all the world would have been saved from such an awful and bad person like me.

!!!!!!!
all this self pity wins you no friends.

you don't listen to advice, you want to be told that nothing is your fault. everyone gives you as much help as they can and you misinterpret it and find excuses.

can you not just sit back and re-read this whole thread - and not post knee-jerk 'be nice to me' replies and think about it. just sit and think about why you come across in such a way that you wind everyone up.

then READ what people have suggested - the main thing being go and revise. then do it!

studentphil

Need_More_Money wrote: »

This really reads as the sort of post I might expect from a 12 year old. I cannot believe a 21 year old (who nearly has a degree) would post something so immature

Well, that is what you make me feel like when you talk to me like I am useless and have nothing to offer to the world. I might as well have died in the premature baby unit 21 yeas ago if I have nothing to give to the world if the world does not need me for anything. I have wasted my whole life trying to be something if that is the case.

studentphil

melancholly wrote: »

!!!!!!!
all this self pity wins you no friends.

you don't listen to advice, you want to be told that nothing is your fault. everyone gives you as much help as they can and you misinterpret it and find excuses.

can you not just sit back and re-read this whole thread - and not post knee-jerk 'be nice to me' replies and think about it. just sit and think about why you come across in such a way that you wind everyone up.

then READ what people have suggested - the main thing being go and revise. then do it!

I come across in the way I do because I am so frustrated that my life might be completely wasted if I can not get a job that helps make the world better.

melancholly

studentphil wrote: »

I come across in the way I do because I am so frustrated that my life might be completely wasted if I can not get a job that helps make the world better.

can you not just sit back and re-read this whole thread - and not post knee-jerk 'be nice to me' replies and think about it. just sit and think about why you come across in such a way that you wind everyone up.

TOBRUK

studentphil wrote: »

Well, that is what you make me feel like when you talk to me like I am useless and have nothing to offer to the world. I might as well have died in the premature baby unit 21 yeas ago if I have nothing to give to the world if the world does not need me for anything. I have wasted my whole life trying to be something if that is the case.

ENOUGH PHIL If you are really feeling depressed phone the samaritans now! It does seem that when people are firm (but fair) with their comments here and you don't like it you turn on the self pity. Your thread asking for advice has turned into another phil's diary this is phil's world! People have given you plenty of good advice but you won't leave it at that instead you make comments on things you know nothing about.

You were here until gone 11.40pm last night and here you are again - what about your revision??? I have a feeling that in June there will be a phil's thread where you will be asking why they failed you on your finals and you have no degree and ofcourse it will not be your fault as nothing is - the whole world is against you.

People have told you what to do now try and absorb this phil:

1. Concentrate on your exams and get your degree - do not apply for any jobs, do not look further than your exams.

2. When your exams are over then go to your job centre and see DISABLED EMPLOYMENT ADVISER, who will help with your options, career, help with job applications and cv etc.

It is that simple - now act on it!

Need_More_Money_2

He's been advised to seek counseling or speak to the Samaritans before (by me and by others). But there is always some excuse why he can't.

Tam_Lin

Then, as he won't take responsibility for himself as an adult, maybe one of the admin could temporarily disable his login until his Finals are over. He seems determined to evoke some kind of pity here from people who have become frustrated by his behaviour. Surely he realises no-one can solve his problems but himself and that he just naffs people off by behaving like this?

Failing that, perhaps it would be kindest not to give him any input whatsoever when he behaves like this, as it seems to make him worse.

studentphil

Maybe if I failed my degree then it would be a good thing as everyone would not expect me to do anything with my life as I would be a clear failure.
At least then I could kiss ever having a good job goodbye and I would not feel angry with myself and letting myself down for not having a good job as I would be branded a failure and I would know a good job is impossible for me.

I really just do not know what I want anymore if all the hell of this course is worth it then to only beat myself up for the rest of my life because I am not living up to my high targets for myself. At least if I failed the course then I could say to my parents that they should not pressure me as I am clearly not very good.

studentphil

Tam_Lin wrote: »

Then, as he won't take responsibility for himself as an adult, maybe one of the admin could temporarily disable his login until his Finals are over. He seems determined to evoke some kind of pity here from people who have become frustrated by his behaviour. Surely he realises no-one can solve his problems but himself and that he just naffs people off by behaving like this?

Failing that, perhaps it would be kindest not to give him any input whatsoever when he behaves like this, as it seems to make him worse.

No one can solve my problems I know that. I keep trying and trying to keep going and yet time and time again I get knocked back like not getting an interview.

studentphil

It all seems so straight forward for everyone else they apply for jobs and get interviews, get jobs, they sit their exams and get good marks and no matter how much I try, I just always seem to end up with nos and poor marks.