CSA & overtime?

aussiesbird

kelloggs36 wrote: »

Are you doing this in relation to the future or your current situation? If current, then it won't do a thing, if the future then doubtful but somebody may read it who matters!

Am doing this to try and make a stand for the future, as I said if you don't try to do something about it then how can you expect any changes to come about. We can all sit and moan about it but it won't get us anywhere!! If enough people make a noise then maybe someone will listen. There is enough negativity in this world stand up and be counted - I've got nothing to lose but everything gain.

kelloggs36

Did you respond to the white paper on the proposed reforms?

aussiesbird

kelloggs36 wrote: »

Did you respond to the white paper on the proposed reforms?

Haven't read the white paper, where can I find it?

Mr_Green_Genes

White paper:-

http://www.dwp.gov.uk/childmaintenance/csa_report.pdf

Responses to White Paper:-

http://www.dwp.gov.uk/childmaintenance/pdfs/cmr-response-summary.pdf

Government Bill:-

http://www.publications.parliament.uk/pa/pabills/200607/child_maintenance_and_other_payments.htm

I hope the links work ok. If not go to the DWP page and follow the links there.

aussiesbird

aussiesbird wrote: »

Had my partners kids at the weekend (well, 2 out of 3!) We rang my partners eldest to arrange visit last weekend, as we normally do (as that was when we were supposed to have them) and was told that there was something planned for the Sunday so they couldn't stay the full weekend. We suggested the following weekend then as we wanted to see them for the full term and not take them back early. This was agreed with (by their mother) but she didn't tell the two younger ones that it had been changed so they thought we just hadn't turned up and they got very upset and they were not going to come this weekend. However they did and when we saw them we explained what had happened and they understood. Then we received an email from their mother saying we were no longer allowed to arrange visits through the children as they were getting upset and if we didn't arrange them through her then visits would not happen. This annoyed us as it was her way of trying to spoil our weekend with the children so we thought it was time for the kids (8 & 10 yrs) to see for themselves what was really going on (we thought long and hard about this decision). We showed them the email and they were shocked, they had obviously been fed different info from their mother. They asked us to contact them either by email or mobile phone and to turn up even if their mother argues. I know alot of you will disagree with what we have done but this goes on regularly and every so often she gets an inclination to stop visits for no reason and then blame my partner for it. This was the only way we could make the kids see that we wanted to see them and we try everything we can to see them. We didn't enjoy getting the children involved in this way but what with the stress of the CSA and now this things are really getting on top of us.

I would really appreciate your honest views as to whether we have done the right thing as today we are feeling very disheartened and down about involving the kids at such a young age, but this kind of harrassment is beginning to affect us both.

Follow up to the above.
This weekend my partners Mum was due to have the kids for the day, she rang me last night saying she did not want to ring the house and have to speak with his ex so could I ring my partners eldest child to confirm visit. This I did. Today received a call fro my partners distraught Mother stating that the person who was picking the kids up for her was outside the house but there was no sign of life. I rang partners eldest again and was told that kids had been taken out for the day with their mother!!! :mad: Will now have to wait and see if our visit which has been scheduled actually goes ahead! :rolleyes:

kelloggs36

This is just appalling behaviour! What on Earth is the matter with the stupid woman? Why does she feel the need to be so vindictive? It isn't just your hubby she is hurting, it is all around him - including the children but she just won't see that! I really feel for you.

aussiesbird

Can anyone tell me if the person who submits the appeal has any right to see what the other party in the case said about the appeal. I ask because we have had an outcome of one of the appeals. They have awarded us a £6 per month reduction in maintenence. We know every little helps but this will hardly make a difference to the extra £200 per month we are now having to pay. We are wandering if this has been offered by way of stopping the case from going to tribunal.
Any thoughts from anyone??

kelloggs36

In a tribunal situation there is the opportunity for both parties to see all the submissions - not sure about paper appeal.

aussiesbird

aussiesbird wrote: »

Follow up to the above.
This weekend my partners Mum was due to have the kids for the day, she rang me last night saying she did not want to ring the house and have to speak with his ex so could I ring my partners eldest child to confirm visit. This I did. Today received a call fro my partners distraught Mother stating that the person who was picking the kids up for her was outside the house but there was no sign of life. I rang partners eldest again and was told that kids had been taken out for the day with their mother!!! :mad: Will now have to wait and see if our visit which has been scheduled actually goes ahead! :rolleyes:

UPDATE
This is the weekend we are due to have O/H kids. Arrangements were already in place but on Thursday night we got a call from eldest child saying "mum is being awkward saying we won't be allowed to come to visit unless you send her a text" This my partner did and confirmed times for pick up and drop off. Then we had a call Friday night from youngest saying "are we staying at yours until Wed?" Partner explained he was working but will try to sort out date later in week if acceptable to her mum. We were then told that middle child didn't want to come. He asked to speak to her but she refused. Has gone to pick up today and only got 2 as middle child would not come or even come out to speak to him. This is all very strange and distressing as last time we saw them the youngest two were asking if they could come and live with us!!! Any suggestions as to what we should do from here, we obviously want to find out the reason and try to put it right but can't get to speak her. O/H is just about to send an email to her mum but don't know whether she will get it as last time we sent an email she said she was going to block our address!!!

aussiesbird

Never recieved a reply from partners ex. Even sent her a text message but this was ignored too!
We are not sure what to do from here.