Really really missing my pooch now.

elsien

Not sure why I'm posting this, as I know there's nothing anyone can do or say to help, just that I know all you doggy people will understand.
3 months now and it's getting harder not easier. Not sure if it's the darker nights so I'm in the house more and the missing mutt is more noticeable, or because life is stressful at the moment and mutt's ears were my version of a stress ball.
But I come into the house and it's so quiet - you wouldn't believe the amount of rubbish tv I'm putting on just to feel a bit of life round the place. Real Housewives of New York, !!!!!!, kill me now!. :eek:
I don't want to walk anyone else's dog, or go back to volunteering for the cinammon trust, I miss having mutt draped up the front of me when I sit down and I want my own pooch back again.:( I just seem to me missing her more not less as time goes on.
So bearing in mind another dog isn't a possibility at the moment, please some one tell me it won't keep feeling worse and worse. Even if you have to lie. Because winter is bad enough at the best of times, and I have no idea what to do with myself to stop wallowing in self pity.

moggymutt

I really feel for you, I always resort to the diversion tactics of aother dog, and am so sorry that you cant have another one at present.

If a dog is not a possibilty at the moment, could you offer to foster cats until you are in a position to have another dog.

Otherwise, is there anything non animal based that you could do at night, from volunteering at youth clubs to zumba classes.

I really feel for you. Hopefully others that have been in the same position as you are now can offer some words of hope.

Remember, if you didn't miss him it would mean that you didn't love him so much.

Mara69

I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. I think it will get easier, but you're clearly still grieving and that takes time. Be kind to yourself. You loved Mutt and gave that dog a good life.

elsien

Thanks - it's taken me by suprise a bit as I don't remember losing previous dogs being this hard. Or do some dogs just get to you more than others?
Then again I wasn't living on my own then and I'm probably brooding too much as well - I'm spending a lot of time when I'm not working visiting an elderly relative in a nursing home which isn't exactly a barrel of laughs. A combination of circumstances making me feel particularly sorry for myself with not enough else to take my mind off it, I guess. My get up and go has most definitely got up and gone!

Mara69

elsien wrote: »

Thanks - it's taken me by suprise a bit as I don't remember losing previous dogs being this hard. Or do some dogs just get to you more than others?

Oh definitely. We (husband and I) have had a few dogs over the years and now have two - Ruby (in my avatar) and Ralphie. I love both, but Ruby has unlocked something in my heart and the level to which I love that stoopid dog is ridiculous. She can do no wrong in my eyes. Just thinking about her dying makes me cry. So yes, some dogs are just so special that I think we grieve extra hard when they die. From your posts about Mutt it was quite clear how much you loved Mutt

krlyr

Are any other pets an option? Sounds odd but I found houserabbits to have quite a similar personality to dogs at times! I had one Netherland Dwarf who was particularly bonded with me and would follow me around until I sat down, then scratch my legs to be lifted onto my lap where he'd snooze.

jaqui59

Im really very sorry to hear of the loss of your lovely dog Mutt, but something inside me says you should start finding the strength to visit your local dog rescue centres until you meet one that steals your heart .. It might take a while, but there is a lovely little doggy out there somewhere destined to be your companion.

rising_from_the_ashes

elsien wrote: »

do some dogs just get to you more than others?

Mara69 wrote: »

So yes, some dogs are just so special that I think we grieve extra hard when they die.

Ohhhh Elsien .... Mutt was your "one" (as Ben was mine).

Finding it really hard too atm - just struggled through the 1st anniversary

zaksmum

I feel for you elsien. We get on with it and pick ourselves up again when we lose a dog that we loved. But the loss leaves it's scars.

Mutt drove you mad but she was special to you and of course you miss her. The only way forward for me was to get another dog to love, when my beloved old dog died. But as that's not an option for you now, I don't know what else to suggest.

Nothing in the world could have filled that gaping hole in my heart like another dog was going to.

I do hope when the time and circumstances are right for you, there will be room for another dog in your life.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Dollardog

Yes elsien, some dogs are more 'special' even though we love the others that go before or after. I can't say the pain ever goes because it doesn't, I don't think it gets that easier either, although another dog is a distraction.
Its a pity that you are not able to have another at the moment. You loved Mutt to bits, even though she was always doing such naughty things. It would be so nice to give a home to a dog that needed one.
Take care.

con1888

I definately think some dogs leave a huger hole in the heart.
It's also a hard time of the year, I always get a bit sad around Christmas remembering the times with those who are now gone ( human and animal).