Parents helping Aunt can they claim expenses etc

only_mee

Mara69 wrote: »

Your parents sound like they are more interested in money than actually helping anyone.

Are you for real?
All they want is their expenses back, if they have no money to keep travelling to help, who will do it when the cash runs out?
Open your eyes!!

Mojisola

alocacoc wrote: »

I also dont think its wrong to expect some money back to cover costs...

and will discuss it with them

I don't think it's wrong either. It's one thing to do occasional things that helps someone for free but if it's regular stuff and especially if it is causing financial problems, of course they should have their expenses covered.

plum2002

only_mee wrote: »

Are you for real?
All they want is their expenses back, if they have no money to keep travelling to help, who will do it when the cash runs out?
Open your eyes!!

If they don't help out who will? Social Services, at a far greater cost to the public purse than your parents merely getting their costs paid.

plum2002

Mara69 wrote: »

Your parents sound like they are more interested in money than actually helping anyone. Out of interest, who is looking after Grandad while they are 'looking after' (and I use the term very, very, loosely) your aunt? Why do you feel the need to mention that your aunt is reasonably well off? Does her financial status add a bit of extra encouragement towards them 'caring' for her? Would they not bother is she was skint?

Your friend sounds like a revolting person, who is, in all likelihood, stealing from the people he cares for.

All in all, you sound like a lovely bunch of people.

They are helping out at a cost to themselves that they can't afford. Stop judging others by your own dubious standards.

Mojisola

alocacoc wrote: »

suddenly my grandads sister's health has gone downhill and she has left her flat and been put in temp care accomodation by where she lives... 50 mile round trip for my parents, complete day took up whilst there etc

my mom and dad have been going 3 times a week as her flat needs emptying she needs clothes and this week theyve got to sort out permanent care for the lady

my mom has access to her finances(which theres a lot) and hasnt drawn anything out other than what shes purchased for the Aunt...

trouble is the Aunt is in no fit state to talk about money and no one has offered any not even me grandad, but my moms worried about drawing money out just like that

Is the access to money an informal arrangement? If the aunt is losing capability, someone in the family needs to become her legal representative.

If the access is informal, your parents will need to protect themselves. I would put on paper the miles travelled and cost of fuel, keep that with the aunt's paperwork and take the money.

I know if people were doing for me what they are doing for their aunt, I would want to give them some money - their expenses and a bit more.

alocacoc

thanks for most understanding replies anyone can be a busy fool my parents havent touched the bank for there own money back etc and well look into claiming expenses back properly

Errata

I know if people were doing for me what they are doing for their aunt, I would want to give them some money - their expenses

As would most people if they had it. But if the person with the money is in no fit state to talk about it I wouldn't help myself.

Mojisola

Errata wrote: »

As would most people if they had it. But if the person with the money is in no fit state to talk about it I wouldn't help myself.

If the option was to take some money for expenses or stop helping the relative, I would.

RAS

Op

Your parents need to read this http://www.justice.gov.uk/about/opg as they are in danger of putting themselves in a position where they might be consider to be abusing the elderly person's trust.

They cannot take money out of her account for anything other then Aunt's benefit at thjs stage. Certainly not without disucssion and approval from the social services caring for Aunt.

If they are appointed attorneys, they can reclaim actual expenses. They need to keep meticulous accounts for all finances, including every receipt for expenditure.

Mojisola

RAS wrote: »

Your parents need to read this http://www.justice.gov.uk/about/opg as they are in danger of putting themselves in a position where they might be consider to be abusing the elderly person's trust.

They cannot take money out of her account for anything other then Aunt's benefit at thjs stage. Certainly not without disucssion and approval from the social services caring for Aunt.

If they are appointed attorneys, they can reclaim actual expenses. They need to keep meticulous accounts for all finances, including every receipt for expenditure.

Isn't what they are doing entirely for the Aunt's benefit? It would cost much more if someone had to be paid to do what they have done.