Parents helping Aunt can they claim expenses etc

alocacoc

hi

my mom already gets paid to care for my Grandad(think £50 p/w) dads unemployed

suddenly my grandads sister's health has gone downhill and she has left her flat and been put in temp care accomodation by where she lives... 50 mile round trip for my parents, complete day took up whilst there etc

my mom and dad have been going 3 times a week as her flat needs emptying she needs clothes and this week theyve got to sort out permanent care for the lady

my mom has access to her finances(which theres a lot) and hasnt drawn anything out other than what shes purchased for the Aunt...

now my mom and dad are basically skint every weekend and I dont see why they should be!! looking back over the last 7 weeks they have spent a small fortune on expenses using there own money

trouble is the Aunt is in no fit state to talk about money and no one has offered any not even me grandad, but my moms worried about drawing money out just like that

I know a friend who personally cares for a few older people which he does great...but by heck he makes sure his fuel tanks full and he has a great meal whilst hes out etc at there expense

so where do we go from here any help appreciated

zoominatorone

Sorry to be blunt.

But are your parents being forced to clear out the house for the aunt?

Do THEY want money for the "expenses" as you put it?

alocacoc

shes asked for there help and my grandad does nothing but go on about when my moms with him worrying..?


my dad yes wants reimbursing but my mom wont draw anything out till we find out more..

trouble is its causing me and my mom to argue as were totally different people Id tell the person I need some money back id do it properly but to me its how you get appreciation/respect..at the the moment there all happy for me mom and dad to do it free so to speak

zoominatorone

Whose aunt is it? Your mother or father's?

IF they do end up getting anything, it should be for no more than the price of petrol imo.

xbethanyx

alocacoc wrote: »

I know a friend who personally cares for a few older people which he does great...but by heck he makes sure his fuel tanks full and he has a great meal whilst hes out etc at there expense

i do hope no one i know is cared for by your friend!!

alocacoc

hi thanks for the replies

I also dont think its wrong to expect some money back to cover costs...

and will discuss it with them

xylophone

my mom has access to her finances(which theres a lot) and hasnt drawn anything out other than what shes purchased for the Aunt...

Does your mother have Power of Attorney for your Aunt?

theyve got to sort out permanent care for the lady

Your mother will need to be very careful and keep immaculate accounts.

Mara69

alocacoc wrote: »

hi

my mom already gets paid to care for my Grandad(think £50 p/w) dads unemployed

suddenly my grandads sister's health has gone downhill and she has left her flat and been put in temp care accomodation by where she lives... 50 mile round trip for my parents, complete day took up whilst there etc

my mom and dad have been going 3 times a week as her flat needs emptying she needs clothes and this week theyve got to sort out permanent care for the lady

my mom has access to her finances(which theres a lot) and hasnt drawn anything out other than what shes purchased for the Aunt...

now my mom and dad are basically skint every weekend and I dont see why they should be!! looking back over the last 7 weeks they have spent a small fortune on expenses using there own money

trouble is the Aunt is in no fit state to talk about money and no one has offered any not even me grandad, but my moms worried about drawing money out just like that

I know a friend who personally cares for a few older people which he does great...but by heck he makes sure his fuel tanks full and he has a great meal whilst hes out etc at there expense

so where do we go from here any help appreciated

Your parents sound like they are more interested in money than actually helping anyone. Out of interest, who is looking after Grandad while they are 'looking after' (and I use the term very, very, loosely) your aunt? Why do you feel the need to mention that your aunt is reasonably well off? Does her financial status add a bit of extra encouragement towards them 'caring' for her? Would they not bother is she was skint?

Your friend sounds like a revolting person, who is, in all likelihood, stealing from the people he cares for.

All in all, you sound like a lovely bunch of people.

dandelionclock30

They may not be able to afford all the running around themselves.
O.P what I would do is ask the Social Worker about it (if shes got one) or the CAB.
The problem you've got is that you cant really just take the money out of her account if shes not with it.You could be accused of stealing.
I would keep all the receipts from the petrol etc and ask.

missapril75

Mara69 wrote: »

Your parents sound like they are more interested in money than actually helping anyone.

I dunno....I thought the post said that they have paid seven weeks worth of travel costs out of their own money and they have been short of money as a result. It can't be much fun sorting out all that stuff out even if you're not losing money as a result.

Out of interest, who is looking after Grandad while they are 'looking after' (and I use the term very, very, loosely) your aunt?

The aunt is being looked after in a temporary care home. I think it's her affairs that are being dealt with. It needn't mean they can't continue with the original caring.

Why do you feel the need to mention that your aunt is reasonably well off? Does her financial status add a bit of extra encouragement towards them 'caring' for her?

Perhaps to prevent the inevitable comments about the aunt not being able to afford to help with expenses? Sometimes people can't win on this site.

gingergee

Would carers allowance be applicable maybe, if aunt is getting AA or DLA etc?