Stay at home mum ?

Slapps

jobs u can get anytime but ur childrens youth u only get once. i'm a single parent and i know that there are those that think i'm bein a dosser on benefits but i am watchin and helping my son growing up. i don't a flyin pig wot others think, besides i don't think i could find a job that would pay me well enough 2 get a child minder, cleaner and cook.

there's the other point of view to take!
i was brought up by child minders and babysitters and i remember that i might (if i wos lucky enough) get to see my parents for about an hour a day. to me they we're just the peeps i happened to share my nite time abode with. i hardly knew my parents. personally u have to do wot you think is best for you and your family as everyone is different and has different lives.

good luck in which ever you choose xxxxx

Spendless

well I typed a long reply that got lost :rolleyes: but the gist of it was what about working in pre-school/playgroup/school nursery or before/after/holiday club, with place for your own children.

trigger2

I do work in a pre-school playgroup but we have different start & finish times to school & nursery. I appreciate it's probably the most ideal job I'll get to fit in with schooling, so I may approach them to see if they will even just cut my hours down to the minimum, I'll have to dig out the calculator to see if it's viable !

Spendless

The pre-school playgroups here only run in the mornings from 9.15-9.30 ish (full-time school starts round here 8.30-8.55), so even allowing for setting up time, the staff can drop their own children at school first.

alwaysskint96

M20DAL wrote: »

Im a father so another point of view



Dont have children untill you are ready to give them 100 percent they dont care about money they just want your love

they are the most important things in your life and dont forget that

That may be true when they are toddlers- I certainly wouldnt state that for older children and teens.

Kids hate to be missing out on the things that the others can do because there is not enough money

I know a 12 year old- really good friend of my daughter's and she is always complaining that her parents cannnot afford school trishes her Mumn would get a job so they had more money- BTW she is the youngest of 2 and tyhe Mum hasnt worked since her 15 year old brother was born

Rachie_B

trigger it certainly sounds like you job is a good one TBH in regards to being part time and having all the school holidays off

but if you arent happy .............

what are the timings like ?,what hours / days do you work ?

could they / you do a job share ??

I used to run a Playgroup and would drop my son to school for 9am then go onto work ,start time 9.30am

then i would work til 3pm and pick him up from school @ 3.15pm

Rachie_B

M20DAL wrote: »

Im a father so another point of view

I dont understand why people have children and palm them of to someone else ie childminder/grandparents
My wife stays at home with our daughter because she wants to see her grow up we dont earn much but we are much happier than friend who earn loads and palm there kids off

just remember you never get these years back

Dont have children untill you are ready to give them 100 percent they dont care about money they just want your love

they are the most important things in your life and dont forget that

For many its not a case of "palming them off" !
although i agree if its a case of going back to work full time ie 9 - 5 5 days a week when the baby is a few months old ,then it is a case of "why did you have the baby" etc as when would parent get time to spend with baby

some people HAVE to work for financial reasons

some people WANT to work for whatever reason

you cant judge everyone the same !

Being a SAHM can be boring / lonely etc for some women,

and so they feel the need / want to go back to work part time, esp if the child is being looked after by family / childcarers known to them / the children as this makes the step that bit less worrying / stressful

you can have the best of both worlds you know

If mums didnt go out to work and "palm their children off" i would be without a job

M20DAL

I think if you are going to have a baby you one parent should stay at home(mum or dad) at least until the child starts school to give them a good start in life

Do you really want to miss the first words/steps do you want them calling someone else mummy/daddy first dont say it doesnt happen ive seen it so many times and it s so sad

if your career means more to you than a baby dont have one



if people didnt get themselves in so much debt in the first place they could manage

dont get me wrong im not against women working at all but just put it on hold for the first 4 years being a mum is much harder than going to work from 9-5 and coming home seeing the baby for an hour and putting them to bed

friends of ours both work and have a four year old not at school yet they go to work about 7am home at 6pm grandparents take him to play school and everything else they earn about £70'000 a year between them and like telling everyone at the weekend they let there child stay over at the granparents most of the time so they can spend time together they say he like it of course he does hes allways there

soory a bit of waffling it just annoys me when people have children and dont care about them

Rachie_B

that scenario is sad but dont assume working parents "dont care" about their children ?!!

also dont assume that parents only work because they are "in debt"

god i cannot believe the generalisations on this thread !!!
i am getting angry and i am not / was not a working mum when my sons werent at school ! so i can only imagine what the working mums of pre school age are thinking / feeling

yes, to some work might be very important,my hubby for one loves his job / career and could never be a SAHD lol !

M20DAL

Im just commenting on the few examples i know of and they are all more bothered about money than a good family life

i think ive taken this thread a bit of course sorry im sure everyone on here are very good parents its just my friends that are not