problem with possible pedophile

Concerned_mum_4

I do regularly post on MSE but I cant post this under my name really.

My hubby and his brother have not spoken for two years, he cut off all ties with his brother after we found out that he lost his job because his manager found photographs of naked little girls on his computer., the manager didn’t go to the police because they had been friends for over 10 years, he just sacked him. I only found out about it because my hubby also knows the brother in laws manager, and he told him about the photos because he knows we have kids.

One of my friends works at a local pub in which brother in law drinks in. I just found out something that is really worrying. I thought he was single, but , according to my friend he has started dating a girl, my friend knows this because he has photos of her naked on his phone (it gets worse) and last week was sending them to people at the pub, one of who showed my friend. I know lots of blokes do this sort of thing, but these were not bum or boobs photos, but a bit more. The worse thing of all is the women in the photos is disabled, my friend reckons she had really tiny arms coming straight out of her shoulders and might have been a Thalidomide or something. My friend has also found out that he is dating her because she has money and they (at the pub) reckon he is trying to get her to finance him to set up a business, although I reckon he will just say that to get the money off her, my brother in law is very handsome and he is the type who knows what to say to people , he is very flattering.

The last bit which is also worrying is he has said that she has a young daughter, apparently he was moaning because the kid is spoilt and can be a pain, nobody knows about how he lost his job, so its not like anyone is going to tell her, and I am secretly wondering if this is one of the reasons he has started seeing her.

I haven’t told my hubby anything yet because anytime I mention his brother he just goes off on one, really haven’t got a clue what to do?

Justie

you need to handle this very very carefully - whatever his history I would have thought that his behaviour in the pub would be enough to want to warn the woman invovled but I'm not sure I would take it any further than that without more proof although I can understand why you'd be worried.

Carmina_Piranha_3

have you spoken to the BIL about this? it seems odd that the manager would be concerned about your child but not about anybody else's

asea

I would go to the police and tell them that he got fired for having child pornography on his computer and that the manager hasn't gone to the police and that you want them to investigate as an interested party - tell them about the relationship with a mother too - i think that manager has acted criminally to be honest - putting a friendship above protecting children.

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You can contact your local Child Protection unit in your local police force IN COMPLETE CONFIDENCE.

The force will also have an Adult Protection unit for vulnerable adults.

You can contact them via the non emergency number and ask to be put through - or via email - or by visiting your local police station where some details will be taken and they will passed to the appropraite unit to look into.

You do not have to give your own details if you don't want to. Bear in mind that police also get a lot of anonymous and malicious info about people - and therefore if you are willing to give your details it shows a degree of openess on your part. If you do give your details they will remain confidential and not be disclosed to anyone involved.

Please bear in mind that whatever the police find out - you will never be told. So even if things change for this man it may not necessarily be down to you reporting it.

It may also be this man is already known to them.

You can also report this person anonymously via Crimestoppers on a FREE number - 0800 555 111

balmaiden

Please ,please do report this man they never, in my opinion, change they just get more cunning.

I am speaking from experience although I dont want to give any details. I bitterly regret not informing on someone I had suspicions about. A lot of lives went on to be damaged .whether my voicing my opinions ( I had no proof) could have changed things I dont know, but I could live with myself a little easier if I had.

Janepig

asea wrote: »

I would go to the police and tell them that he got fired for having child pornography on his computer and that the manager hasn't gone to the police and that you want them to investigate as an interested party - tell them about the relationship with a mother too - i think that manager has acted criminally to be honest - putting a friendship above protecting children.

I would agree with this. You have to be very careful that your actions don't start bordering on vigilanteism (sp?) so you need to go through the proper channels (Police, possibly social services) and try not to place too much store by what your friend who works in the pub has said - pub talk can get a bit out of hand sometimes and things get blown out of all proportion. It may be that your bil could have some form for this but as your DH and bil aren't close you wouldn't know, so it may be that the Police are aware of him.

Tread carefully is all I'd say - but I would think for your own piece of mind you'd be better off reporting this to someone in authority.

Good luck.

Jxx

DjSatansfury

They reckon most paedophiles who abuse do so by dating single mums with young(er) children.

If i were you, i'd report it.

misty

I think the manager's behaviour was ridiculous but maybe he would now be prepared to make a statement - however without proof it will be one word against another.

I would talk to the police and see what they say. I would also possibly contact social services and ask them what if anything they can do in the circumsatnces you describe.

Although not all - a lot of abuse is carriied out by someone known to the victi rather than a complete stranger and this puts the gf child at risk.

The manager's lack of action has meant no proof is available - however it is possible that this wouldn't be an isolated incident and could have images on a computer now - I don't know what cause the police need to analyse equipment.

I am also surprised at the public showing of pics of gf - I would have thought secrecy is the key to avoiding suspcion for these type of people.

Your husband is just going to have to lump it as far as facing what you have to say. Good luck - what a horrible situation.

hamletcigars

Concerned_mum wrote: »

I do regularly post on MSE but I cant post this under my name really.

My hubby and his brother have not spoken for two years, he cut off all ties with his brother after we found out that he lost his job because his manager found photographs of naked little girls on his computer.,?

Two years you've kept this secret of his illegal actives and probable paedophile tendancies
What about any young ones he may of been around in that time

Go to the police and let them investigate ,now

hamletcigars

Mother_Hub wrote: »

and have him put in jail.

Good on you :T