Got toddler off dummies but problems - help!!

NAR

DD and SIL decided to remove dummy from GSon when he was 2. He was not too bothered but after 3 months decided he wanted the dummy again. None of us know what prompted this but after another month or so he decided he didn't need or want it. OP please don't force the issue but encourage the child to give dummy up.
Dummy and hygiene = great way of building up the child's immune system.

moneysaver12

My baby was given his dummy in neo natal by the nurses as a comfort as my baby was very poorly when he was born and my older son had bad reflux and the dummy helped to soothe him, he will be giving his dummy to santa for his xmas presents.

Also children do cry when tired i know mine do.

At the end of the day its up to the parent whether or not they give their little one a dummy and shouldn't be judged for giving their little one a dummy.

thehappybutterfly

It is really hard getting them off dummies (and nappies!) and I remember despairing that my daughter would be going to school in nappies and a deedee stuck in her gub! And she was only 3 or so!

She is still very young so I would give in and give her it at sleep time only. I used to pluck my daughter's out her mouth at night so she didn't wake up with it.

She'll give it up 100% when she's ready. I mean, have you ever seen a primary age child with a dummy?!

balletshoes

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

It is really hard getting them off dummies (and nappies!) and I remember despairing that my daughter would be going to school in nappies and a deedee stuck in her gub! And she was only 3 or so!

She is still very young so I would give in and give her it at sleep time only. I used to pluck my daughter's out her mouth at night so she didn't wake up with it.

She'll give it up 100% when she's ready.
I mean, have you ever seen a primary age child with a dummy?!

sigh - yes, he lives in the house behind us.

annie_d

I'd definitely give her the dummy back. She will give it up when she is ready. She gains comfort from it. Why would you snatch that away?

lovesabargain123

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

She'll give it up 100% when she's ready. I mean, have you ever seen a primary age child with a dummy?!

One of mine was very very poorly as a small child and he finally ditched his dummy at the grand age of 7, (!!!!!!!!!!) he didn't understand if I tried to tell him why I was taking it away plus he was in quite a bit of pain and had lots of uncomfortable operations, so I did feel a bit mean taking his only comfort away !!!!!!

To be honest, he had no speech anywayso couldn't effect that and luckily his teeth are perfect now he's older

I'll await the back lash of this post now :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

madison-nyc

give it her back , just limit it no bed and nap times. I never understand why people give their babies dummys then take them off them before they are ready to give them up?! causes a whole lot of hassle and upset for no reason at all.

Both my kids decided on their own to give them up, follow her lead , she'll be all grown up before you know it , don't rush her!

consultant31

annie_d wrote: »

I'd definitely give her the dummy back. She will give it up when she is ready. She gains comfort from it. Why would you snatch that away?

I so agree with this - we all have our 'comfort blankets', those things that we can turn to when the going gets tough. For some adults it will be cigarettes, for some alcohol or maybe chocolate. For this child it's a dummy for goodness sake, leave the little one alone for a while. It'll be abandonded when they're ready.

apesxx

Im currently talking to DS about giving his dummy to santa and he says he will do but im not holding out any hope. DD was really easy, one night i told her she couldnt have it anymore, she asked for it twice and never bothered after that.

DS is totally attached, to the point where i have to take it off him about 10 times a day coz he seems to have some sort of stash somewhere. He's even smuggled it to pre school a few times so i now have to check his pockets before he goes in lol.

I've got a week off work in dec so were going to see santa on the sunday before my week off so im not having to go work tired if he doesnt settle.

oh and DS is 3 yrs 3 months and the dentist said its affecting his teeth so it really needs to go

meritaten

oh give it back OP! obviously the child isnt ready to give up yet! I had two kids who were very attached to dummies and one who never had one - nothing to do with me - he just rejected (and ejected) a dummy! my mum started nagging me from about when DD was six months 'Take that dummy off her or she will be going to school with it'! of course I ignored her - and guess what? DD informed me at age three that as she was going to school next year she didnt need her dummies anymore! so we put them out for the 'dummy fairy' to give to babies who needed them..........her idea.....they really went in the bin!
the other baby didnt have a dummy til he was six months old I had to stop breastfeeding - and he needed to suckle. he gave it up at about one by just spitting it out - DNR we called it, 'Dummy Not Required'! but, he started sucking the satin of his blankie instead - and even carried a small piece of it in his pocket when he was in school!