Got toddler off dummies but problems - help!!

Mado

McKneff wrote: »

Kids don't cry because they are tired, it's a myth

Kids go to sleep when they are tired.

Ermmm. Many tired children (and even some adults) cry far more easily than when they are not tired.
This is not a myth, but something that is very easy to observe.

natalie_1982 wrote: »

Either way don't stress about it, it's really not worth it. As much as it seems they will never get rid of it I have yet to see a 21 year old walking round with a dummy so I feel they'll probably get rid of it in their own time xx

:rotfl::rotfl:
I had a muslin cloth I used to rub against my nose while sucking my thumb to go to sleep until I was 7.
I then went on a week long school trip, and my older sisters more or less bullied me to leave it at home. I was very miffed when I realised that a lot of my classmates had their own "safety blankets".:(

maman wrote: »

ETA: For anyone reading this who's planning a family in the near future then don't start giving your child a dummy. IMO they're hideous things, aside from the hygeine/teeth issues then the look of this enormous blob obscuring their lovely faces is truly horrible.

Oh please. Don't be so arbitrary.
The dummy was the best thing ever for my DD who cried an awful lot as a baby. We never allowed it outside of the bed, so nobody ever saw her with an "enormous blob". It does a lot less damage to teeth than thumb sucking.
And you can say all you want about hygiene, she was hardly ever ill... mostly bugs caught from nursery like everyone else, dummies or not.

maman

maman wrote: »

ETA: For anyone reading this who's planning a family in the near future then don't start giving your child a dummy. IMO they're hideous things, aside from the hygeine/teeth issues then the look of this enormous blob obscuring their lovely faces is truly horrible.

Fine mado, if you want to advocate them then that's your prerogative. I'd agree that if you can't manage without them then keeping them for bed is preferable. I was generalising about the hygeine effects but I've seen too many retrieved from the floor and pushed back into mouths to feel comfortable.

McKneff

maman wrote: »

Fine mado, if you want to advocate them then that's your prerogative. I'd agree that if you can't manage without them then keeping them for bed is preferable. I was generalising about the hygeine effects but I've seen too many retrieved from the floor and pushed back into mouths to feel comfortable.

#

Or picked up off the floor, mother sucks it and then pushed back in the kids mouths. Disgusting and very bad for baby having all the germs from an adult mouth pushed into them.

As with anything, dummies are addictive, which is why you get all the crying etc when you try to take them away.........

fashionlover10

Mado wrote: »

I had a muslim cloth I used to rub against my nose while sucking my thumb to go to sleep until I was 7.
I then went on a week long school trip, and my older sisters more or less bullied me to leave it at home. I was very miffed when I realised that a lot of my classmates had their own "safety blankets".:(

I had a small teddy as my comfort thing who went away on residential with me when I was in college as did a class mates cuddly rabbit :rotfl:

Mado

maman wrote: »

Fine mado, if you want to advocate them then that's your prerogative. I'd agree that if you can't manage without them then keeping them for bed is preferable. I was generalising about the hygeine effects but I've seen too many retrieved from the floor and pushed back into mouths to feel comfortable.

You were generalising about a lot that frankly should be left to each parents. And I repeat, they are a lot less damaging to teeth than thumb sucking or teeth grinding which they prevent.

McKneff wrote: »

#

Or picked up off the floor, mother sucks it and then pushed back in the kids mouths. Disgusting and very bad for baby having all the germs from an adult mouth pushed into them.

As with anything, dummies are addictive, which is why you get all the crying etc when you try to take them away.........

Can you explain to me how having dummies is so bad for their health that I didn't notice any difference whatsoever between my children with dummies and my child without?
In fact, I would say, my children have been a lot less ill than a friend of mine's who never wanted a dummy?:think:
I dare say they picked up a lot more germs from other sources.
Nobody lives in a sterile environment (apart from these terribly immuno supressed children). It's really not healthy.

natalie_1982

My youngest daughter began sucking her thumb when she was a few weeks old, baby's suck for comfort and I felt that it would be easier removing a dummy from her possession at 3 years old than it would be her thumbs.

I would persevere as best you can but perhaps she's just not ready and that's not necessarily a bad thing. Some studies suggest that comforters help develop more independt confident children, because they have grown up with the ability to soothe and calm themselves and are not so parent dependant. Ask her if she's ready to get rid of them and maybe you could do a swap next time you are out, if she sees a teddy or something she wants (like a £1 gift from Poundland) suggest that if she hands over the dummy then she can have it and pretend to leave the dummy there. If she thinks it's not in the house you might find she doesn't ask for it. Good luck!

fawd1

Mado wrote: »

I had a muslim cloth I used to rub against my nose while sucking my thumb to go to sleep until I was 7.

I had a catholic one:rotfl:

fawd1

Apart from that, my eldest had a dummy and youngest didn't. Not by choice, frankly he use to cry so much I would have loved him to take one. I agree dummies are best used for bed, but I had no problem weaning eldest off of his. I would suggest you tell the LO that the dummy has gone though so she's won't look for it.

Person_one

natalie_1982 wrote: »

My youngest daughter began sucking her thumb when she was a few weeks old, baby's suck for comfort and I felt that it would be easier removing a dummy from her possession at 3 years old than it would be her thumbs.

I know a 29 year old who still sucks her thumb sometimes. I actually think it would take amputation to stop her!

mazza111

Stick with it. The DD always had her dummy for bedtimes. But she got to throw them in the bin herself because she was a big girl!

The DS was lactose intolerant (unknown to us at the time) and cried constantly. Had to practically sticky tape it to his gob to get a bit of peace. He was a screamer due to the pain he was in with his stomach and constant diarrhea.

DD slept all night from 2 days old.
DS didn't sleep all night until he was 5.

I know which one I'd rather have to do over again. Although, the teenager years I would have swapped and done the DS over again. Wouldn't want to revisit the DD's teenage years ever again :rotfl:


Guess what I'm getting at is, each child is different. It's easier to wean a child off a dummy than a thumb. As a parent it's a personal choice. Both my kids had them, although the DS didn't like it. Didn't do them any harm. And made me less stressed at times too.