Don't really know where else to turn?

princessdon

If your GF reguarly gets more hours than 8 and you regularly work and neither of you have rental costs (other than board), can you set yourself a savings target?

Can you save enough to move out in 12 months?

If you haven't managed to save much by now, living alone will eat into your money more than you will realise.

I wouldn't want to live with my parents (much as I love them), so do appreciate the need for space, but a short amount of time with an end goal and a savings ticker can really help motivate.

I think you may struggle with the current plans for your age group and council tax payments, not to add to the paperwork needed if you need to claim Housing Costs with a variable wage and turning down work to hand them in each week etc.

Carmen8781

Originally Posted by McKneff
You stay in your bedroom except to eat/

If I married and my new OH had a daughter who stayed in her bedroom and only came out to eat then, sorry but my opinion would be much the same. I would think her/him pig ignorant and not care enough to want to be with the rest of the family.

Mojisola wrote: »

I don't think that's fair. It sounds as if Paul has made an effort. It's not an unusual story for adult children not to be accepted by a step-parent!

Totally agree. You dont know how bad it is, unless you experience it.
You cant put into words how awful the tension , the atmosphere is. Walking on egg shells all the time. Waiting for the next moan/argument. Which will be about something ridiculous. ("do as i say, not as i do" ) Its anything to have a go at you. Who wants to be around people like that. Your bedroom becomes the only place where you can be yourself.
Best of Luck Paul. Hope you get sorted soon. I have been in your situation and away from it all now. It was like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders..

paul123456

Carmen you just described the whole situation it perfectly. Haha but anyway...

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who posted. The advice has helped, and I think it's been good to hear other peoples opinions whatever their view (I think venting all this somewhere helped a little too).

I think I'm going to try and stick it out here for as long as possible and just keep saving. If worse comes to worse I'll try to stay at the girlfriends or if possible give the shared accommodation another go. Thanks again.

seven-day-weekend

Could yourself and your girlfriend house-share with anther young couple? That's what some friends of my son did.