The Unneccesary Challenge

cafcfan

"I was crying to DH earlier and saying what the hell do I say? I really don't know what to say. I just want to go and pick her up and bring her home like I would if one of my kids was hurt but that just isn't going to do.[/QUOTE]

Just go and be with her, hug her and cry with her, I'm sure that showing your emotion will be much more welcome to her than the "stiff upper lip".

Penny2myName

doen real well all week, had NS days all week but daughter has been invited to go bowling with her boyfriend and a group from school tomorrow, his mum called yesterday (english teach there), as my daughter cant socialise normally with her friends after school (live 8-9 miles away) i have said she can go. So £10/£10 tomorrow.

ZTD

Kaz2904 wrote: »

ZTD i need a hug.

Kaz2904 wrote: »

I had some horrific news on Tuesday.
One of my friends on my ward was due to have her baby in August and due to staffing and finance and frankly a load of old !!!!!!!! kept being rostered to work alone. (not me I do ward rota not CCU). She should have worked worked Tues Wed Thurs alone and has been really worried. No-one will allow us to provide cover due to hospital budget.
Sunday she goes in for early shift feeling unwell. Nurse sends her to maternity ward= baby dead. Friend has to be stabilised before baby can be delivered and nearly dies.

No one on ward or ward manager (not her fault before we condemn) can come to terms with this.
We all believe it's the stress of knowing she was working alone. She's Indian so has no family close. None of us on ward can even discuss to see how she is without crying. I am going to go and see her tomorrow if she is available. DH is just going to have to come out of work. Not budgeted for but at this moment I dont care. This poor girl nearly died. If we can't cope with it on our unit and we're all crying all shift then how the hell is she ever going to deal with or come to terms with this.

She will with the support of those around her. She may not have family, but she does have the love and support of those she works with.

Kaz2904 wrote: »

I was crying to DH earlier and saying what the hell do I say? I really don't know what to say. I just want to go and pick her up and bring her home like I would if one of my kids was hurt but that just isn't going to do.

Why do you need to say much of anything? Just demonstrate that you are there for her. Find out what she needs, both emotionally and practically. Practical help is often overlooked in situations like these - but is just as valuable.

Now is not the time for recriminations though. Later...everything has its time.

Penny2myName

There is nothing you can do, but be there when she needs you, give her space when she needs it, but above all, don't pretend like nothing has happened.
My friend's daughter lost two between 24-26 weeks, she has now finally had her third one that was born at 26 weeks, though still in the hospital this one has survived, and I remember her telling me, what hurt her most over teh previous two, was when people acted as though she had never been pregnant for fear of upsetting her.

pippo

Good advice ZTD & Penny

Kaz - we are all thinking of you and your friend.

This terrible news has made us all stop & think.
It seems disrespectful to continue our usual banter so perhaps after a little time out we will resume the thread later.

postingalwaysposting

kaz & to you and your friend

pippo

Morning all,
Today is my biggest challenge regarding necessary/unnecessary spending - last weekend before my hols, so I will beoff out later armed with my 50p tin savings to buy the things i need. £114.50!! (most of which have come from DH) also have about 700 Boots points so should be OK.
I NEED new knickers, books - probably from charity shop, a bather and a french sim card!! Also want a few books for DGD to entertain her when Dh & I are on babysitting duty.
The list of what I want is endless!
Will report or confess later.
Have a good MSE day peeps.
PS £5 spent yesterday was for a charity collection for local children's cancer ward.

slowlyfading

The next three weeks are going to be tight for me as I have £20 to live off for those three weeks. That's for everything how am i going to manage? Its because we had a bill through a week ago and £150 for each of us (there's 5!) so now I have no money.
sf x

the_optimist

slowlyfading wrote: »

The next three weeks are going to be tight for me as I have £20 to live off for those three weeks. That's for everything
sf x

Not for bills, I hope!
Go to the Old Style forum and have a look at the various threads about cheap meals. Or start your own thread and ask for help. You'll get loads!

Also, what's in your cupboard? Try and make some meals out of it. It is amazing sometimes what weird and wonderful meals can be cooked (maybe the 5 of you can combine what food you've got?).


You CAN live on £6.66 per week (well, at least for a short while) but if the money needs to last for other things as well, then I don't know either...
Good luck

pippo

oh sf - what do you need to spend in the next 3 weeks?

Are we talking about stretching the 'unnececessary' for and extra week or fdo you have things to pay?